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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have either of you looked into the lease breaking option? The penalty is usually one month's rent, check your lease. Can she sublet to somebody else and move to a place where she can keep the dog? Or keep your dog? 
Or is this not really about the lease, and actually she's not set up to have a dog at all? (which is normal and fine)
Would a friend or rescue take the dog if it came with a large donation? If so, would that be a good result, or actually not because of the connection to her dad?

I posted upthread that I think the kindest thing for the dog is euthanasia. I still think that. But IME it can be clarifying to say, "pretend I have money to fix this, what is the fix that I want?" [/quote]

You should read all the responses before posting.  This was posted on page 3.

[quote]Op here again. She has been trying to work with shelters and rescues. I think they know she isn’t adoptable, because no one wants to take her. She has an appt with the county shelter on Sunday.

[b]My daughter turned 21 this past summer. She would lose a lot of money she doesn’t really have to spare if she breaks the lease. I do not have the money to do it for her.[/b]

My dog is a 75 lb pit mix. My ex’s dog is roughly 45 lbs.[/quote][/quote]

Yes, I read it. "She would lose a lot of money she cannot afford" could mean she really can't afford one month's rent under any circumstances ... or (more frequently, IME) it could mean that breaking a lease and moving seems like a big deal but nobody's done the math, or called the leasing office to ask for a bereavement exception.

As I said in my post, it can be helpful to say "Let's assume I could afford this: would this solve the problem?" Because often the money isn't actually the problem, it's a disguise we put on the real problem.

I think it's very likely that OP's daughter doesn't want to take in the dog, or any dog (which is fine and I support). But focusing on the lease prevents her from recognizing the truth and moving on to the next step in this logic chain.

Also, because this logic chain likely ends in euthanizing the dog, it may be helpful to thoroughly explore all options and know there weren't other realistic ones. [/quote]

It’s not just one month’s rent, is it? She would have to report the short notice to the next landlord, and would end up paying $3k-$4k in deposits and rent on another place. That’s all of her savings.

I’d prefer not to go into all the stress and tragedy that’s been happening in our lives over the last year, none of which was her fault or her choice. I would be very, very concerned about her mental health if she tried to move again. As in, I am fairly certain it would end with her being hospitalized and/or losing her job. I hear what you’re saying about exploring options, but she is barely making it through the day right now. [/quote]

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