Housekeepers kid stole medication from us-terminate or not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tend to be very careful when dealing with people’s livelihoods; I don’t need the karma of someone ending up evicted or in debt or suicidal because of me. So I would keep her on, but I would let her know others would probably not. And I would tell her in-home cameras are very common now. I’d also tell her about the legal and health ramifications of using/dealing painkillers.

I am very concerned for the son. But firing her will not help him in any way shape or form. We have to look out for each other. Golden rule, it takes a village, etc., etc.

In no way would OP be responsible if that happened. If that happened, her housekeeper's son is the responsible person. In no way is OP responsible for ensuring that her housekeeper's son gets help. That is not something OP is qualified to do. That is not something that OP should be taking on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people are out of your minds--severence?? This family stole from you.

The family didn't steal from OP -- the 18 year old kid did. I suggested severance; no sense in sending this house cleaner's entire family into immediate financial difficulty over something an idiotic teenager did.

[Anonymous]

Next thing maybe he injured himself in your pool and makes a claim on your homeowners insurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she were my regular housekeeper and I’m her primary employer, I would not fire her; he just wouldn’t be allowed back. If she was a cleaning service who comes once every two weeks or something like that, I would fire her.

+1. I think this is fair and gives her a chance to deal with the problem. I'd be very clear that I would call the police if he appeared on my property again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s odd that she brought her 18 year old son most days. What reason did she give? That would impact my decision.

Op again. She asked if I minded because it’s summer and school is out and I said it was fine because she normally isn’t with us on the weekends so I was trying to be accommodating to her. When he would come over he would normally help his mom clean or do errands. We have a pool and I would let him use it too. I believe he is going to community college in the fall. We have a big house and I’m normally okay with people being over (obviously what he did I was not okay with).

She offered to get the pills back and pay me back I told her that was okay and to just give me back the pills. I flushed them down the toilet because I don’t know where they’ve been and don’t want to give them to my 15 year old dog and expose him to something by accident. I have a decade long relationship with my vet so they didn’t ask about proving what happened to get new pills but I offered them video proof that they didn’t want to look at. All pills are now in a wall safe.

I didn’t call the police and even if I terminate her I don’t want to screw up someone’s life over this. Kids/young adults do dumb things. The pills were retrieved and not taken or distributed.

You sound like a thoughtful person.

[Anonymous]

If this is a painkiller for your dog, is it a controlled substance? Like some kind of doggy narco? I would fire the housekeeper and call the police on the son unless he returned every pill.

To blatantly take that many pills is unconscionable.

[Anonymous]

I have had the same housecleaner for the past 13 years and she has brought her adult daughter once (she was 25) to help her clean, but she asked if it was ok first.

I cannot imagine firing her if one of her “children” steals something from me.

OTOH, a few years before her I had another cleaner that I liked very much. Her S.O. was a handyman and did some odd jobs for us.

Once we asked him to dog sit for us and when I came back I found out he stole our cc and went to town… Gas station, Home Depot, Pollo Campero…

I just didn’t feel safe keeping her after that and cut all ties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s odd that she brought her 18 year old son most days. What reason did she give? That would impact my decision.

Op again. She asked if I minded because it’s summer and school is out and I said it was fine because she normally isn’t with us on the weekends so I was trying to be accommodating to her. When he would come over he would normally help his mom clean or do errands. We have a pool and I would let him use it too. I believe he is going to community college in the fall. We have a big house and I’m normally okay with people being over (obviously what he did I was not okay with).

She offered to get the pills back and pay me back I told her that was okay and to just give me back the pills. I flushed them down the toilet because I don’t know where they’ve been and don’t want to give them to my 15 year old dog and expose him to something by accident. I have a decade long relationship with my vet so they didn’t ask about proving what happened to get new pills but I offered them video proof that they didn’t want to look at. All pills are now in a wall safe.

I didn’t call the police and even if I terminate her I don’t want to screw up someone’s life over this. Kids/young adults do dumb things. The pills were retrieved and not taken or distributed.

You should not have flushed them down the toilet,! Most pharmacies have a system for getting rid of drugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s odd that she brought her 18 year old son most days. What reason did she give? That would impact my decision.

Op again. She asked if I minded because it’s summer and school is out and I said it was fine because she normally isn’t with us on the weekends so I was trying to be accommodating to her. When he would come over he would normally help his mom clean or do errands. We have a pool and I would let him use it too. I believe he is going to community college in the fall. We have a big house and I’m normally okay with people being over (obviously what he did I was not okay with).

She offered to get the pills back and pay me back I told her that was okay and to just give me back the pills. I flushed them down the toilet because I don’t know where they’ve been and don’t want to give them to my 15 year old dog and expose him to something by accident. I have a decade long relationship with my vet so they didn’t ask about proving what happened to get new pills but I offered them video proof that they didn’t want to look at. All pills are now in a wall safe.

I didn’t call the police and even if I terminate her I don’t want to screw up someone’s life over this. Kids/young adults do dumb things. The pills were retrieved and not taken or distributed.

You should not have flushed them down the toilet,! Most pharmacies have a system for getting rid of drugs.

X10000!! Please do not do that again.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don’t understand your need to crowdsource here. How long have you had your housekeeper? What kind of relationship do you have with her? You should be able to make this decision without having to ask a bunch of anonymous weirdos.

[Anonymous]

I would help her find him find treatment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tend to be very careful when dealing with people’s livelihoods; I don’t need the karma of someone ending up evicted or in debt or suicidal because of me. So I would keep her on, but I would let her know others would probably not. And I would tell her in-home cameras are very common now. I’d also tell her about the legal and health ramifications of using/dealing painkillers.

I am very concerned for the son. But firing her will not help him in any way shape or form. We have to look out for each other. Golden rule, it takes a village, etc., etc.

This is what I would do, and I would ask her not to bring her son anymore.

[Anonymous]

OFFS people can you not read? OP has come back and said what she has done / is going to do.

end of story

[Anonymous]

Having an 18 year old come with her is very odd