Housekeepers kid stole medication from us-terminate or not
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Anonymous
| Our housekeeper has had her son come over with her whenever she cleans on Sundays. This was fine with us and he is around 18. This morning I picked up more pain killer pills for my dog who just had hip surgery and left the bottle at the edge of the counter. After they left I found that a new 30 pill supply was down to 10 and the bottle was closed sitting on its side. We have a camera in the kitchen facing our back door and it captured him taking the pills. I’m not sure what’s appropriate here. I’ve already let her know about the drugs because I was afraid he could overdose but she asked me if I’m going to let her go and I told her I haven’t decided yet. Obviously the kid is not welcome but would you fire someone over this? |
Anonymous
| I would terminate her. She doesn’t need to bring an adult kid with her. |
Anonymous
| Unless you have reason to think she flagged it for him, no. He’s just not allowed back. She’s got bigger problems with her son, |
Anonymous
| Borderline. Depends on your overall relationship with her. |
Anonymous
| If you haven’t had issues with her before, I would not fire her. |
Anonymous
| If she were my regular housekeeper and I’m her primary employer, I would not fire her; he just wouldn’t be allowed back. If she was a cleaning service who comes once every two weeks or something like that, I would fire her. |
Anonymous
| Fire her you don’t need that mess in your life. |
Anonymous
| An 18 year-old is not a child! Why on earth would she bring him and what would he do while she was cleaning? |
Anonymous
I assumed OP meant to help clean, but that’s probably my misunderstanding. I have a 17yo and I feel like I hardly see her nowadays. If I could talk her into coming to hang out with me while I work, even if she weren’t helping, I’d welcome it. Or maybe the mom knows the kid is on a bad path so she’s making him come with her so she can keep an eye on him, thinking he wouldn’t steal or do anything to sully her reputation. I think that’s sweet, not bad. |
Anonymous
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I tend to be very careful when dealing with people’s livelihoods; I don’t need the karma of someone ending up evicted or in debt or suicidal because of me. So I would keep her on, but I would let her know others would probably not. And I would tell her in-home cameras are very common now. I’d also tell her about the legal and health ramifications of using/dealing painkillers.
I am very concerned for the son. But firing her will not help him in any way shape or form. We have to look out for each other. Golden rule, it takes a village, etc., etc. |
Anonymous
| The housekeeper made a bad decision bringing her adult kid into your home. How could you ever trust her again? Sorry, but I would let her go. |
Anonymous
| No, I would not fire her. I wouldn’t let her son come over. |
Anonymous
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Honestly, I would keep her a couple months and then get new cleaners. I don’t want this kid upset at me for getting him in trouble with his mom or upset with me for firing her mom.
We had the same situation happen but with money. In that case, I felt like it was on us that we were so disorganized that we left loose money around. I did not want to get into it with her about her daughter when it’s her word against mine. It prompted us to get much more organized, make sure we know where valuables are and move them away when cleaners come. I also requested that a certain helper of the lead cleaner come each time and said that I could work around her schedule. I didn’t mention the daughter but if she was her only helper or she was going to return, I would have just canceled her service. |
Anonymous
| Terminate. The kid needs a message from someone that his actions have consequences for others than himself. |
Anonymous
| I would say no more son there but wouldn’t fire her. Poor woman! |