Keep having kids until a girl is born

[Anonymous]

We had 2 boys and went for a third … because we really wanted a third. We had a girl and boy name already picked out before we learned the sex. And #3 was a girl. Now that I know my kids I can’t imagine any other breakdown. But it mildly annoys me when people make comments about how I “got my girl.” I love my boys, they are each their own unique person and not just a gender stereotype. I love my DD as well and think she is amazing. She’s a much younger sister of 2 older brothers (like a PP posted about). I’m not sure how/why it was well known their moms had them in the hopes of having a girl, but I do know my children will never hear about any sort of gender preference from DH nor myself, and they know we wanted each of them very much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More often it is the reverse; keep having kids until the boy is born. If you can afford it, why not?

In other cultures maybe (Asian, Arab).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had 2 boys and went for a third … because we really wanted a third. We had a girl and boy name already picked out before we learned the sex. And #3 was a girl. Now that I know my kids I can’t imagine any other breakdown. But it mildly annoys me when people make comments about how I “got my girl.” I love my boys, they are each their own unique person and not just a gender stereotype. I love my DD as well and think she is amazing. She’s a much younger sister of 2 older brothers (like a PP posted about). I’m not sure how/why it was well known their moms had them in the hopes of having a girl, but I do know my children will never hear about any sort of gender preference from DH nor myself, and they know we wanted each of them very much.

Exactly. I have only daughters, two of them. I have posted on previous DCUM threads that my husband did not have a gender preference and is not sad that he did not have a son. I was open to having a third and he’s the one who said, “we hit blackjack twice, it’s time to leave the table.” And I have been told my husband is lying to me. Like they can’t fathom a man’s life could be complete without a boy? WTF? Same with women with no daughters. It’s such a twisted and unhealthy way to think.

[Anonymous]

I have two girls and a boy is the youngest. People say ALL THE TIME, oh your husband finally got his boy. In front of my kids. It’s so gross.

[Anonymous]

One is enough for me! I got my girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had 2 boys and went for a third … because we really wanted a third. We had a girl and boy name already picked out before we learned the sex. And #3 was a girl. Now that I know my kids I can’t imagine any other breakdown. But it mildly annoys me when people make comments about how I “got my girl.” I love my boys, they are each their own unique person and not just a gender stereotype. I love my DD as well and think she is amazing. She’s a much younger sister of 2 older brothers (like a PP posted about). I’m not sure how/why it was well known their moms had them in the hopes of having a girl, but I do know my children will never hear about any sort of gender preference from DH nor myself, and they know we wanted each of them very much.

Exactly. I have only daughters, two of them. I have posted on previous DCUM threads that my husband did not have a gender preference and is not sad that he did not have a son. I was open to having a third and he’s the one who said, “we hit blackjack twice, it’s time to leave the table.” And I have been told my husband is lying to me. Like they can’t fathom a man’s life could be complete without a boy? WTF? Same with women with no daughters. It’s such a twisted and unhealthy way to think.

+1 two daughters here with a VERY happy DH and same situation. Everyone feels sorry for him.

[Anonymous]

I have one of each, older boy and younger girl. I really did want a girl for #2 but in the run up to the u/s spent a lot of time reminding myself of all the great things about the two-brothers relationship. Did such a good job that I felt a twinge of regret that DS wouldn't get a brother when I learned we were having a girl. We debating having a third but did not mainly for financial reasons. I would not have had a gender preference for the 3rd.

Still, while I'm happy with my two I also see that among my friends and family there is a different closeness between same-sex siblings. If I were rich and could control the gender outcome I'd have four kids - two boys and two girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked for an attorney who had five girls. I wondered if she was aiming for a boy but couldn't ask that. (One of the tasks she gave me was to make sure nobody went into her office when she was pumping. I couldn't leave my desk for the bathroom during that time.)

That was good restraint to not ask. We have a large family - all one gender. We were never trying for the other and I think about how horrible that must feel to be a kid and hear people ask that question (it’s happened to us).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More often it is the reverse; keep having kids until the boy is born. If you can afford it, why not?

Climate change and sustainability?

[Anonymous]

I know someone that had 4 girls and tried one last time for a boy and had twin daughters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had 2 boys and went for a third … because we really wanted a third. We had a girl and boy name already picked out before we learned the sex. And #3 was a girl. Now that I know my kids I can’t imagine any other breakdown. But it mildly annoys me when people make comments about how I “got my girl.” I love my boys, they are each their own unique person and not just a gender stereotype. I love my DD as well and think she is amazing. She’s a much younger sister of 2 older brothers (like a PP posted about). I’m not sure how/why it was well known their moms had them in the hopes of having a girl, but I do know my children will never hear about any sort of gender preference from DH nor myself, and they know we wanted each of them very much.

Exactly. I have only daughters, two of them. I have posted on previous DCUM threads that my husband did not have a gender preference and is not sad that he did not have a son. I was open to having a third and he’s the one who said, “we hit blackjack twice, it’s time to leave the table.” And I have been told my husband is lying to me. Like they can’t fathom a man’s life could be complete without a boy? WTF? Same with women with no daughters. It’s such a twisted and unhealthy way to think.

+1 We also have two girls and people were incredulous when we were pregnant with #2 whenever DH would say he really didn't care about gender and would be equally happy with a boy or another girl. Thankfully, people stopped making those comments pretty quickly after #2 was born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone that had 4 girls and tried one last time for a boy and had twin daughters.

I have a friend who had two boys and tried for a third kid. They didn't care about the gender and then they had twin boys! Now, with 4 boys, my friend has said she would have a 5th if she could be guaranteed a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More often it is the reverse; keep having kids until the boy is born. If you can afford it, why not?

In other cultures maybe (Asian, Arab).

And American and most of Europe (not all)

[Anonymous]

I really wanted 2 girls. I told DH we would keep having kids until we had 2 girls. I was open to having up to 4 kids, DH wanted 2 (and he didn’t care about the 2 girls thing).

Our first two were girls and then we loved having kids so much we had another. I didn’t care if it was a girl or a boy - I had my two girls. We had another girl. DH loved having girls, and I enjoyed it, too.

We ended up not having a 4th child because we both really wanted another girl if we had another baby and felt weird about having a very specific desire to have a girl. I think it seemed ok to me in the abstract to want girls as part of my family, but putting the expectation on one particular pregnancy felt uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Honestly this is true. We have two boys and we’re debating on a third child. I’ve had many ask us if we were sad we had two boys and if we would try for a girl. I told them “ no, I wanted two boys” and they shut up. Truthfully, we just wanted a healthy baby and didn’t care about gender. I feel like it probably goes both ways. I know a neighbor who gets asked if they will the for a boy.