How long after giving birth did you get back to ... ?

[Anonymous]

10 days after one vaginal birth with stitches.
5 days after the second vag birth no stitches.

I wanted to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tried at 6 weeks after my first and it was horribly painful. Tried again at 8 weeks and same thing. 10, 12, 14 weeks same. Finally at 5 months PP I went to get a second opinion at a different OB and turns out I was stitched up incorrectly and essentially had a flap of skin/scar tissue partially covering the opening of my ya know so it was getting micro tears every time we tried which felt like paper cuts over and over. I had to get an episiotomy and restitched! All was fine 6 weeks after that.

Second kid I was ok by 8 weeks.

Ugghhhh that's terrible! I'm so sorry. I had an episiotomy after my first and right after stitching me up the OB decided he didn't like the stitching and took them out and stitched me up again. It was a long and miserable recovery, but I guess I'm glad I got restitched?!? I was super nervous the first time after my crap experience but I actually didn't have any pain. I'm so sorry you went through this and had to have surgery to repair it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10 days after one vaginal birth with stitches.
5 days after the second vag birth no stitches.

I wanted to.

No way is this real. I don’t believe you for one second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:10 days after one vaginal birth with stitches.
5 days after the second vag birth no stitches.

I wanted to.

No way is this real. I don’t believe you for one second.

I think it's meant as a brag but it just sounds stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:We did it after the 6 week checkup. I was nervous and I made my husband promise to be gentle. It was fine, we resumed regular sex but I didn’t particularly enjoy it for a few months. It didn’t hurt, but I felt uncomfortable.

I wish women wouldn't sat "We resumed regular sex" when it's really DH insisting and DW reluctantly complying.

I wish people didn’t assume their experience is universal and anyone who says otherwise is lying. I wanted and initiated sex before 6 weeks with my first. With our second, we ended up waiting because we were exhausted, but nothing was wrong with my vagina. Two vaginal births, 0 stitches or complications.

+1. I really enjoy sex and resumed sex six weeks postpartum after all three of my children. I drank a glass of wine beforehand with each, but was excited to have sex. Isn't it a little misogynistic to assume that women only try having sex six weeks postpartum because their husbands want sex? Also, of course the decision to have sex should be determined by both medical clearance and personal preference. Shouldn't this go without saying? I very much doubt the majority of women on DCUM are in relationships with they have no or little agency over their own bodies and have to have sex when their husbands want to...

I think people are just more likely to talk about difficulties over success as a general rule.

I think it's really important for women to be open about difficulties they have as a way of building awareness/community/support when needed. But I also think it's important to share stories of healthy relationships and positive experiences in the early years of parenthood...because women shouldn't be trained to expect/accept positive experiences and happiness to be the exception rather than the rule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:10 days after one vaginal birth with stitches.
5 days after the second vag birth no stitches.

I wanted to.

No way is this real. I don’t believe you for one second.

I think it's meant as a brag but it just sounds stupid.

Nah, it is a troll. You’re still passing major blood clots at 5 days, bleeding from a dinner sized plate wound. Also, the vaginal barrel and introitus and uterus have not shrunk down yet. Risk of infection, etc. usually milk is coming in at this point. The idea of sex is laughable. Must be some random misogynistic man having a chuckle.