Guest etiquette- towels

[Anonymous]

FWIW I have a teen who uses peroxide products, and we have towels (from the same line by the same company) in both grey and dark blue… and the grey ones get lots of bleaching, but the blue ones just don’t. I think the damage is only visible after the towels are washed and dried, like PPs have said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t buy cheap towels?

They WEREN’T cheap towels, and now they are basically bleached in places- I agree that again, they were the wrong towels to use for guests.

I’m just surprised because, if I had been in the situation, I would have:
1) known my kids use a topical thing that destroys towels and given my host a heads up OR
2) seen the damage and offered to buy new towels

It’s not a huge deal, I’m just surprised that the consensus is so different than how I personally would have handled the situation. idk. My baby threw up in my IL’s car and we offered to have it detailed- I would just assume it’s a common courtesy to at least apologize for leaving something worse off than when you came

The bleach spots don’t show up right away. Stop being such a nut and assuming bad intentions. They didn’t know. Move on. They’re just towels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW I have a teen who uses peroxide products, and we have towels (from the same line by the same company) in both grey and dark blue… and the grey ones get lots of bleaching, but the blue ones just don’t. I think the damage is only visible after the towels are washed and dried, like PPs have said.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW I have a teen who uses peroxide products, and we have towels (from the same line by the same company) in both grey and dark blue… and the grey ones get lots of bleaching, but the blue ones just don’t. I think the damage is only visible after the towels are washed and dried, like PPs have said.

Gray is always the worst - my gray towels turn orange, but my blue ones are also fine.

[Anonymous]

Towels aren't that expensive, it's not like a $500 set of sheets was ruined. Chalk it up to a learned experience, order new nice towels, and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Colored towels are pretty tacky so they likely have white towels at home and would not have known and likely didn’t notice

Colored towels are tacky? lol - man, I hope I don’t know you in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Towels aren't that expensive, it's not like a $500 set of sheets was ruined. Chalk it up to a learned experience, order new nice towels, and move on.

but they were her WEDDING towels

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Colored towels are pretty tacky so they likely have white towels at home and would not have known and likely didn’t notice

Colored towels are tacky?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Colored towels are pretty tacky so they likely have white towels at home and would not have known and likely didn’t notice

Colored towels are tacky?

New money.

[Anonymous]

What the heck are wedding towels? Is that a thing, getting extra fancy towels when you get married?

[Anonymous]

Ok, since this thread somehow won’t die, this is the story:
We had guests. They left. Immediately after they left I went to throw the dirty linens in the wash, and the towels, which yes were “tacky, new money” grey, were now mostly pink/orange

In a moment of frustration and apparently poor judgement I posted on DCUM because of COURSE I would never actually say anything to the guests. I assumed that a product that did so much damage would be a known towel-killer; sounds like that’s not the case which is good to know. I didn’t assume it was malice, and I didn’t expect some kind of major mea culpa, but in a similar situation I would have at least mentioned it to the host as like a “hey, this accident happened, sorry about that.” (As I posted, I personally would have felt bad and wanted to replace them, but that’s mostly because I hate the idea of leaving any place worse than when I came)

On the wedding thing- I’m sure I am in the minority here, but I get a lot of personal joy from using the gifts we received for our wedding, thinking fondly of the friends and family who gave them (yes, I know probably no one remembers that, but I do). It’s not about the towels being particularly special towels, it’s that they were from my godmother, and when I use them I think about how my wedding shower when she gave them to me was the first time I had seen her since she was in the hospital with a major health issue and I was so grateful she was able to make it, and her classically on-brand take away from the hospital stay being that she had goat cheese for the first time (not that she had, you know, major surgery). And yes, towels get ruined, and they were never going to last forever, but I liked them and got just a little bit of joy when I used them. AND FINALLY, a big part of the frustration was a weekend’s worth of frustration with DH who was supposed to be handling the visit but apparently doesn’t know where we keep guest towels, or that making guest beds involves making sure there are pillow cases on the pillows, or that “shopping for food” doesn’t mean just picking up a grocery order after I have figured out a menu for/ordered all the ingredients/etc., or a million other small things.
Thanks for coming to my TED talk, I still think it’s weird for adults (not the kids) to not give a heads up when something gets damaged, and I am sure you will all think I’m crazy and overly sentimental but it’s who I am and I own it, so maybe now we can go back to more interesting posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, since this thread somehow won’t die, this is the story:
We had guests. They left. Immediately after they left I went to throw the dirty linens in the wash, and the towels, which yes were “tacky, new money” grey, were now mostly pink/orange

In a moment of frustration and apparently poor judgement I posted on DCUM because of COURSE I would never actually say anything to the guests. I assumed that a product that did so much damage would be a known towel-killer; sounds like that’s not the case which is good to know. I didn’t assume it was malice, and I didn’t expect some kind of major mea culpa, but in a similar situation I would have at least mentioned it to the host as like a “hey, this accident happened, sorry about that.” (As I posted, I personally would have felt bad and wanted to replace them, but that’s mostly because I hate the idea of leaving any place worse than when I came)

On the wedding thing- I’m sure I am in the minority here, but I get a lot of personal joy from using the gifts we received for our wedding, thinking fondly of the friends and family who gave them (yes, I know probably no one remembers that, but I do). It’s not about the towels being particularly special towels, it’s that they were from my godmother, and when I use them I think about how my wedding shower when she gave them to me was the first time I had seen her since she was in the hospital with a major health issue and I was so grateful she was able to make it, and her classically on-brand take away from the hospital stay being that she had goat cheese for the first time (not that she had, you know, major surgery). And yes, towels get ruined, and they were never going to last forever, but I liked them and got just a little bit of joy when I used them. AND FINALLY, a big part of the frustration was a weekend’s worth of frustration with DH who was supposed to be handling the visit but apparently doesn’t know where we keep guest towels, or that making guest beds involves making sure there are pillow cases on the pillows, or that “shopping for food” doesn’t mean just picking up a grocery order after I have figured out a menu for/ordered all the ingredients/etc., or a million other small things.
Thanks for coming to my TED talk, I still think it’s weird for adults (not the kids) to not give a heads up when something gets damaged, and I am sure you will all think I’m crazy and overly sentimental but it’s who I am and I own it, so maybe now we can go back to more interesting posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, since this thread somehow won’t die, this is the story:
We had guests. They left. Immediately after they left I went to throw the dirty linens in the wash, and the towels, which yes were “tacky, new money” grey, were now mostly pink/orange

In a moment of frustration and apparently poor judgement I posted on DCUM because of COURSE I would never actually say anything to the guests. I assumed that a product that did so much damage would be a known towel-killer; sounds like that’s not the case which is good to know. I didn’t assume it was malice, and I didn’t expect some kind of major mea culpa, but in a similar situation I would have at least mentioned it to the host as like a “hey, this accident happened, sorry about that.” (As I posted, I personally would have felt bad and wanted to replace them, but that’s mostly because I hate the idea of leaving any place worse than when I came)

On the wedding thing- I’m sure I am in the minority here, but I get a lot of personal joy from using the gifts we received for our wedding, thinking fondly of the friends and family who gave them (yes, I know probably no one remembers that, but I do). It’s not about the towels being particularly special towels, it’s that they were from my godmother, and when I use them I think about how my wedding shower when she gave them to me was the first time I had seen her since she was in the hospital with a major health issue and I was so grateful she was able to make it, and her classically on-brand take away from the hospital stay being that she had goat cheese for the first time (not that she had, you know, major surgery). And yes, towels get ruined, and they were never going to last forever, but I liked them and got just a little bit of joy when I used them. AND FINALLY, a big part of the frustration was a weekend’s worth of frustration with DH who was supposed to be handling the visit but apparently doesn’t know where we keep guest towels, or that making guest beds involves making sure there are pillow cases on the pillows, or that “shopping for food” doesn’t mean just picking up a grocery order after I have figured out a menu for/ordered all the ingredients/etc., or a million other small things.
Thanks for coming to my TED talk, I still think it’s weird for adults (not the kids) to not give a heads up when something gets damaged, and I am sure you will all think I’m crazy and overly sentimental but it’s who I am and I own it, so maybe now we can go back to more interesting posts.

"We had family friends staying with us; apparently their teens use some kind of body wash that completely destroyed an entire set of towels.

of course, my husband put the “good” towels from our wedding out which is his fault, not theirs, but still a little bit more annoying.

This is my question— if you were the parents of said teens, wouldn’t you have asked “hey, our kids use something that will destroy colored towels, do you have any white ones?” Or given a heads up ahead of time? Idk. It feels like basic thoughtfulness to me but I also don’t have teens so maybe I’m expecting too much."

[Anonymous]

OP, I totally hear you on DH not pulling his weight with guests. The night before they arrived, he was sitting on the sofa and watching TV while I searched the house to find clean sheets, tried to figure out whether we had enough food for breakfast, wandered around tidying up, etc And he just asked "is there anything I can do to help?"

[Anonymous]

How freaking old are your towels? I replace my towels every two years.