Jewish Matchmaking

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've watched the first two episodes so far and while it's pretty terrible, I'm probably going to keep watching only because i do like seeing these young people who are interested in marrying within Judaism. I'm Jewish, and when I was in my teens and 20's (I'm 51 now) my parents made it very very clear that they would not accept me marrying anyone who isn't jewish. I swore I wouldn't put my own kids under that pressure, and I stick to that, but it's nice to see these youngins who want it for themselves. I also just love seeing all these different versions of Judaism on my tv screen. I do worry though whether non-Jews who are watching are thinking that these people are idiots, and how this will lead to more stereotyping.

They most certainly are idiots
Anyone who needs a matchmaker is an idiot
Anyone willing to on a reality show is hungry for publicity

Anyone willing to go on a reality show is undoubtedly using it for free publicity and easy money.

However, anyone who needs a matchmaker is not any different than people going on blind dates set by friends or dating apps.

[Anonymous]

The last scene with Aleeza was so cringe. “Matchmaking is the hardest job. The hardest job”. Get over yourself. It’s far from the hardest job.

[Anonymous]

I haven't finished the series so may be in for a surprise, but.... Noah seems really nice and is actually hot! What Ori thinks he is and comes up very short against.

[Anonymous]

Did anyone catch when Dani mentioned she was going to LA for a MONTH for her friends wedding? What the…

Ori was awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The last scene with Aleeza was so cringe. “Matchmaking is the hardest job. The hardest job”. Get over yourself. It’s far from the hardest job.

Agree,

[Anonymous]

Just started watching and came here to ask a question.

What was the problem with the frum woman in NYC (Faye) and the man she was matched with?

They seemed to really be well suited for each other. I didn't really understand what her objection to him was. I am not Jewish... it was something about, he didn't want to pray three times a day? He didn't want to be a learning boy?

What was it she wanted him to do, and why was it sooooooooo important to her?

What would a similar religious difference be in, say, Catholicism? Did she need his participation in certain religious daily rituals in order to have a lifestyle she wanted?

[Anonymous]

Ha! Oh well he got engaged to someone else.

https://www.heyalma.com/this-jewish-matchmaking-star-just-got-engaged

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just started watching and came here to ask a question.

What was the problem with the frum woman in NYC (Faye) and the man she was matched with?

They seemed to really be well suited for each other. I didn't really understand what her objection to him was. I am not Jewish... it was something about, he didn't want to pray three times a day? He didn't want to be a learning boy?

What was it she wanted him to do, and why was it sooooooooo important to her?

What would a similar religious difference be in, say, Catholicism? Did she need his participation in certain religious daily rituals in order to have a lifestyle she wanted?

She wanted him to be more devout and pray 3 x per day. He wanted to party with his bros. What I suspect was her issue and is the issue of a lot of these folks is they are not entirely straight, they may be bi or even gay but living in a universe where that is not acceptable and they are forced to conform (and don't know what else to do).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just started watching and came here to ask a question.

What was the problem with the frum woman in NYC (Faye) and the man she was matched with?

They seemed to really be well suited for each other. I didn't really understand what her objection to him was. I am not Jewish... it was something about, he didn't want to pray three times a day? He didn't want to be a learning boy?

What was it she wanted him to do, and why was it sooooooooo important to her?

What would a similar religious difference be in, say, Catholicism? Did she need his participation in certain religious daily rituals in order to have a lifestyle she wanted?

Re:learning boy. Being a Torah scholar gives certain prestige in some circles. Not everyone cares, even among the more observant people, but, apparently, she does. It’s like having a high ranking position in some public interest serving institution - there are many places that pay way more and provide a better lifestyle, but for many people this is the dream

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started watching and came here to ask a question.

What was the problem with the frum woman in NYC (Faye) and the man she was matched with?

They seemed to really be well suited for each other. I didn't really understand what her objection to him was. I am not Jewish... it was something about, he didn't want to pray three times a day? He didn't want to be a learning boy?

What was it she wanted him to do, and why was it sooooooooo important to her?

What would a similar religious difference be in, say, Catholicism? Did she need his participation in certain religious daily rituals in order to have a lifestyle she wanted?

Re:learning boy. Being a Torah scholar gives certain prestige in some circles. Not everyone cares, even among the more observant people, but, apparently, she does. It’s like having a high ranking position in some public interest serving institution - there are many places that pay way more and provide a better lifestyle, but for many people this is the dream

I grew up orthodox. Weird that it was a sticking point for her at 29 (?). In the ultra orthodox world, that’s an age where you start compromising. In the end it seemed like he couldn’t deal with the pressure of her expectations, not that she was necessarily demanding it. She probably should have been more flexible from the beginning to cast a wider net.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started watching and came here to ask a question.

What was the problem with the frum woman in NYC (Faye) and the man she was matched with?

They seemed to really be well suited for each other. I didn't really understand what her objection to him was. I am not Jewish... it was something about, he didn't want to pray three times a day? He didn't want to be a learning boy?

What was it she wanted him to do, and why was it sooooooooo important to her?

What would a similar religious difference be in, say, Catholicism? Did she need his participation in certain religious daily rituals in order to have a lifestyle she wanted?

Re:learning boy. Being a Torah scholar gives certain prestige in some circles. Not everyone cares, even among the more observant people, but, apparently, she does. It’s like having a high ranking position in some public interest serving institution - there are many places that pay way more and provide a better lifestyle, but for many people this is the dream

It felt like more than that - she wanted him to pray in minyan with her father and brothers? It seemed like being a part of that was what was important to her. She wanted him to be part of the prayer community that her family was in, maybe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started watching and came here to ask a question.

What was the problem with the frum woman in NYC (Faye) and the man she was matched with?

They seemed to really be well suited for each other. I didn't really understand what her objection to him was. I am not Jewish... it was something about, he didn't want to pray three times a day? He didn't want to be a learning boy?

What was it she wanted him to do, and why was it sooooooooo important to her?

What would a similar religious difference be in, say, Catholicism? Did she need his participation in certain religious daily rituals in order to have a lifestyle she wanted?

Re:learning boy. Being a Torah scholar gives certain prestige in some circles. Not everyone cares, even among the more observant people, but, apparently, she does. It’s like having a high ranking position in some public interest serving institution - there are many places that pay way more and provide a better lifestyle, but for many people this is the dream

I grew up orthodox. Weird that it was a sticking point for her at 29 (?). In the ultra orthodox world, that’s an age where you start compromising. In the end it seemed like he couldn’t deal with the pressure of her expectations, not that she was necessarily demanding it. She probably should have been more flexible from the beginning to cast a wider net.

yeah, a PP may be right - she may just not even be that attracted to men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started watching and came here to ask a question.

What was the problem with the frum woman in NYC (Faye) and the man she was matched with?

They seemed to really be well suited for each other. I didn't really understand what her objection to him was. I am not Jewish... it was something about, he didn't want to pray three times a day? He didn't want to be a learning boy?

What was it she wanted him to do, and why was it sooooooooo important to her?

What would a similar religious difference be in, say, Catholicism? Did she need his participation in certain religious daily rituals in order to have a lifestyle she wanted?

Re:learning boy. Being a Torah scholar gives certain prestige in some circles. Not everyone cares, even among the more observant people, but, apparently, she does. It’s like having a high ranking position in some public interest serving institution - there are many places that pay way more and provide a better lifestyle, but for many people this is the dream

I grew up orthodox. Weird that it was a sticking point for her at 29 (?). In the ultra orthodox world, that’s an age where you start compromising. In the end it seemed like he couldn’t deal with the pressure of her expectations, not that she was necessarily demanding it. She probably should have been more flexible from the beginning to cast a wider net.

PP. I think it’s to some extent similar to how many women say they wouldn’t date someone without a college degree, and it’s not a matter of income or wealth. Fay is a very good looking woman from what seems like a good and affluent family (judging by the house; I live nearby, so know the neighborhood), so she feels she should get what she wants, especially because there are no second chances.

A friend of mine rejected 49 matches. Her husband was #50, and she was 25 years old, so everyone was already rolling their eyes. It worked out well for her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think he is gay. Ori.

I don’t think he’s gay. My Mom is Israeli. He’s a stereotype, but not of a gay man.

Also, he’s exceptionally insecure. That accent is greatly enhanced. No one comes as a child and retains an Israeli accent like that. Even if he speaks Hebrew at home.

He will never meet anyone who satisfies his ridiculous criteria.

He seems to think he deserves someone on the level of Bar Refaeli or Esti Ginzburg ... but he's not cute or charming and doesn't even seem particularly bright.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think he is gay. Ori.

I don’t think he’s gay. My Mom is Israeli. He’s a stereotype, but not of a gay man.

Also, he’s exceptionally insecure. That accent is greatly enhanced. No one comes as a child and retains an Israeli accent like that. Even if he speaks Hebrew at home.

He will never meet anyone who satisfies his ridiculous criteria.

He seems to think he deserves someone on the level of Bar Refaeli or Esti Ginzburg ... but he's not cute or charming and doesn't even seem particularly bright.

He lives with his parents FFS has the body mass of a teenage anorexic and the face of a horse.