Adult Adoptees, preferably Baby Scoop babies, but others too...

[Anonymous]

One of my friends was a "baby scoop" baby in the US, and she didn't find out until both of her adopted parents passed away when she was in her 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adoption has been sold as this "harmless" alternative to an unwanted pregnancy. Because in theory, the only person harmed was "the sinner" mother who got pregnant in less than ideal circumstances. So advertising it as a saving grace for the baby and new family has deep political undertones because some people don't mind harming women to save babies.

Is it really better to essentially auction off a baby for $10-$50k to a "stable" family than to invest that $10k-$50k into the birth mother's life and help her raise her own child? That's the question society should be asking.

Now it's a choice and there are supports to help her. Lots of government assistance. Some still don't or cannot parent.

Lots of government assistance? Tell me about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adoption has been sold as this "harmless" alternative to an unwanted pregnancy. Because in theory, the only person harmed was "the sinner" mother who got pregnant in less than ideal circumstances. So advertising it as a saving grace for the baby and new family has deep political undertones because some people don't mind harming women to save babies.

Is it really better to essentially auction off a baby for $10-$50k to a "stable" family than to invest that $10k-$50k into the birth mother's life and help her raise her own child? That's the question society should be asking.

Now it's a choice and there are supports to help her. Lots of government assistance. Some still don't or cannot parent.

No, there's NOT "lots of government assistance." I've seen this myth posted on DCUM before. And it's not true. A pregnant woman is eligible for Medicaid. That's it. Maybe there's a private charity who will help with maternity clothes, maybe a women's shelter will house a person if she's a domestic violence victim. But no other government assistance that I can think of. If you are sure you're correct, post the links.

+1 NP. WIC for specific food items and formula. Food Stamps if financially eligible. After the baby is born she may be eligible for TANF (aka welfare/cash assistance) but only if she doesn't have even a part time job, and it's a miniscule amount (and time limited. Google it).

Makes my blood boil that people like the pp spread these lies.