Do you hate your kids' grandparent names (like granny, etc...)?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just for a little perspective, all my kids’ grandparents are dead, and my own Nana was an immigrant who worked as a domestic.

So, having a hard time empathizing with you here.

There's always one of these downer posts on every single venting thread. OP was venting, she was not trying to offend anyone with dead grandparents.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but that PP was noting the lack of perspective in people like OP who choose to expend even one nanosecond to be irked about this. To then expend more time venting about it to strangers seems as if the irked party has nothing better to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MIL literally took 3 years to settle on a name, having us call her everything from Granny to Nana to Nanny to Grandmom to Gran to Gmom. Finally I told her if she wanted us to call her anything besides “Judy,” she better settle on something. I didn’t care what she wanted to be called, just calm the eff down and choose something.

I knew she was putting on a show because my mom (who already had grandkids) was already “Grandma.” We never said she couldn’t also be Grandma, we just made it clear that was definitely also going to be what my mom was. MIL is obnoxious and attention-seeking in many ways, so I was not surprised by these antics, but it really did go on for years.

I grew up with two grandmas, Grandma [name1] and Grandma [name2]. It's odd to me that people think you need a unique name for each grandparent. It's not that hard to distinguish them.

Same!! This is a fairly modern thing, I think. Very Boomer to want to have a unique grandparent name.

It's regional. I am from the Southeast and we have distinctive grandparent names for each set. Midwesterners and I think new Englanders tend to use generic "Grandma and Grandpa [name]"

It varies by cultural heritage and people have intermarried so much that it's not uncommon to have grandparents of different cultural traditions. My Scottish descended grandmother was Granny and my Canadian grandmother was Grandma (Grandma Name to the grandkids with another Grandma). My mother dislikes both Grandma and Granny so she made up her own grandma name. I don't really care but I think I want to be Granny if my kids have kids.

[Anonymous]

I have nieces who call my MIL “Mammy.” That’s the only one I really cringe at. So inappropriate. I actively discouraged it for DD and she calls her “Grammy.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MIL literally took 3 years to settle on a name, having us call her everything from Granny to Nana to Nanny to Grandmom to Gran to Gmom. Finally I told her if she wanted us to call her anything besides “Judy,” she better settle on something. I didn’t care what she wanted to be called, just calm the eff down and choose something.

I knew she was putting on a show because my mom (who already had grandkids) was already “Grandma.” We never said she couldn’t also be Grandma, we just made it clear that was definitely also going to be what my mom was. MIL is obnoxious and attention-seeking in many ways, so I was not surprised by these antics, but it really did go on for years.

I grew up with two grandmas, Grandma [name1] and Grandma [name2]. It's odd to me that people think you need a unique name for each grandparent. It's not that hard to distinguish them.

Same!! This is a fairly modern thing, I think. Very Boomer to want to have a unique grandparent name.

I don’t think this is new at all. I’m just barely over the line for “boomer” and all my grandparents had different names, same for both my parents. My husband’s grandparents all had different names also. And among all these are a couple that are listed as “new” and “modern” here.

[Anonymous]

My teens call my mom G-Nizzle so there's that

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My best friend is 32 and still calls her grandmas Thisma and Thatma which started when she was 2

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My parents and in laws all picked really dumb names and now get angry when I refer to them as Grandma. My 3 yr old calls my parents “Ona and Cheese”. Not sure what he’s trying to say, but I’m sure we’re all confusing the heck out of him.

[Anonymous]

Family friend.

Very pretentious grandmother insisted that she be called only Grandmahhhmah (pronounced theatrically). Over and over she made her little grandson repeat Grandmama. He couldn’t say it and it evolved/devolved into Goonana then Goonie and finally Goo. Goo stuck, as goo does!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend is 32 and still calls her grandmas Thisma and Thatma which started when she was 2

I love this.

Parents can be so uptight.

[Anonymous]

In my baby book, my amazing maternal grandmother signed in a few places as “grandmere” (sic). So clearly she tried to come up with her own moniker. She does not speak French and is a total Anglophile and I don’t get why she didn’t go for a British moniker like nan. I ended up calling her mom because that is what my mom calls her, which then morphed into just M.

I think grandparent nicknames are incredibly sweet and I love to hear the origin stories.

[Anonymous]

It has always been grandma, last name, Grandpa, last name and our family

But my mother-in-law prefers to just go by her first name which is so odd to me. But I guess whatever.

[Anonymous]

Thisma and Thatma!

Ona and Cheese!

These are life goals.

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My mother insists on being called what my sister and I called her mother (“Grammy”). I hate it because every time someone calls her Grammy I think of my beloved grandmother who passed away 25 years ago. 5 years off that name and it still feels bizarre every time my kids or my sister’s kids call her that - I always do a double take because it takes me a second to remember they’re not talking about my deceased grandmother!!

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who called her grandmother Pickles.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, just for a little perspective, all my kids’ grandparents are dead, and my own Nana was an immigrant who worked as a domestic.

So, having a hard time empathizing with you here.

There's always one of these downer posts on every single venting thread. OP was venting, she was not trying to offend anyone with dead grandparents.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but that PP was noting the lack of perspective in people like OP who choose to expend even one nanosecond to be irked about this. To then expend more time venting about it to strangers seems as if the irked party has nothing better to do.

I mean, welcome to DCUM. If you’re oh-so-busy and superior you would never EVRER be on the Family Relationships forum.