My baby's daddy is so great because

[Anonymous]

OH MY GOSH. You Debbie Downers are ridiculous. I'm the pp who was grateful that my husband was home with my baby when I was working late, and that he was planning to have dinner ready for me.

He's great because that's a nice thing to do, and he does it cheerfully. When the situation is reversed--which it often is--I'm not thoughtful enough to remember to have dinner ready for him. It has nothing to do with gender, and everything to do with kindness, and that's why I'm lucky that I have the partner that I do.

I suppose I should stop being surprised at how people on this forum can find controversy in anything, but sheesh.

[Anonymous]

I think the OP had a very sweet idea for starting this thread, and all the debbie downers and company are ridiculous. I'm glad I'm not married to someone as emotionally stingy as you all.

And my DH is awesome because he's excited to go to Hershey Park and ride (little) rollercoasters with our 5 year old. He's also awesome for setting up his iPad so that I can watch tv shows while I run on the treadmill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OH MY GOSH. You Debbie Downers are ridiculous. I'm the pp who was grateful that my husband was home with my baby when I was working late, and that he was planning to have dinner ready for me.

He's great because that's a nice thing to do, and he does it cheerfully. When the situation is reversed--which it often is--I'm not thoughtful enough to remember to have dinner ready for him. It has nothing to do with gender, and everything to do with kindness, and that's why I'm lucky that I have the partner that I do.

I suppose I should stop being surprised at how people on this forum can find controversy in anything, but sheesh.

But I think you're missing the point of us D. Downers. What you husband does is indeed worth praising.

But washing his own laundry and changing diapers? No. No, I am sorry, I do not expect to be praised for cleaning my clothes or not letting my child sit in poop and I do not plan to congratulate my husband for that either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OH MY GOSH. You Debbie Downers are ridiculous. I'm the pp who was grateful that my husband was home with my baby when I was working late, and that he was planning to have dinner ready for me.

He's great because that's a nice thing to do, and he does it cheerfully. When the situation is reversed--which it often is--I'm not thoughtful enough to remember to have dinner ready for him. It has nothing to do with gender, and everything to do with kindness, and that's why I'm lucky that I have the partner that I do.

I suppose I should stop being surprised at how people on this forum can find controversy in anything, but sheesh.

But I think you're missing the point of us D. Downers. What you husband does is indeed worth praising.

But washing his own laundry and changing diapers? No. No, I am sorry, I do not expect to be praised for cleaning my clothes or not letting my child sit in poop and I do not plan to congratulate my husband for that either.

There are now pages upon pages of this bickering, but who said they praise their husband for doing his own laundry or not letting his child sit in poop?! What I see is women loving and appreciating their partners and other women (sigh) jumping all over them for doing so. It's so, so old. I'm sorry if you're unhappy but maybe work on that in your own relationship instead of trying to make sure everyone else is as miserable as you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OH MY GOSH. You Debbie Downers are ridiculous. I'm the pp who was grateful that my husband was home with my baby when I was working late, and that he was planning to have dinner ready for me.

He's great because that's a nice thing to do, and he does it cheerfully. When the situation is reversed--which it often is--I'm not thoughtful enough to remember to have dinner ready for him. It has nothing to do with gender, and everything to do with kindness, and that's why I'm lucky that I have the partner that I do.

I suppose I should stop being surprised at how people on this forum can find controversy in anything, but sheesh.

But I think you're missing the point of us D. Downers. What you husband does is indeed worth praising.

But washing his own laundry and changing diapers? No. No, I am sorry, I do not expect to be praised for cleaning my clothes or not letting my child sit in poop and I do not plan to congratulate my husband for that either.

There are now pages upon pages of this bickering, but who said they praise their husband for doing his own laundry or not letting his child sit in poop?! What I see is women loving and appreciating their partners and other women (sigh) jumping all over them for doing so. It's so, so old. I'm sorry if you're unhappy but maybe work on that in your own relationship instead of trying to make sure everyone else is as miserable as you are.

Go back through and read the thread really carefully, there are many posts stating they are so glad DH changes poop diapers, cooks and cleans. MANY.

As far as I can tell maybe this should not have been titled "My Baby's Daddy is so great because" - maybe that is the annoying part. These men are great because they do normal parenting duties? Really? Maybe it should have been called, "I APPRECICATE DH BECAUSE".... You women praising men for doing what is expected of them is what sets up the next generation of boys to fail. And yes, everyone loves praise, but not for doing things that make a family function. Dinner? WOW! He made dinner! Poop diapers! WOW, he changed a diaper! Cleaning? Really???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I should have never read this post. I'm going to crawl back into my cold dark lonely hole now.

Is there room in that hole for me? I'll bring wine.

[Anonymous]

don't know -- the woman who said her husband encouraged her to go to Italy for work for 2 weeks... and stay a few extra days for a little R&R !!! -- while he held down the fort with the kids at home -- seems to me to have gone above and beyond just "not being a giant slacker".

I know if MY husband said he needed to go to Italy for work for 8 days, my first suggestion to him would not be "Hey, why don't you tag on some extra days, you really need to rest more!".

helllooooo? this DH is totally having an affair!! he has a girlfriend!! why the hell else would he tell his wife to stay longer out of the country? she's probably the wife who is too tired for sex.

but you didn't hear it from ME.

[Anonymous]

14:44, seriously, shut up. You're just annoying.

[Anonymous]

15:14, this is the wife whose husband encouraged her to stay extra couple of days in Italy.

He did it because he used to travel bit internationally before baby was born (Sweden, London, etc.) and I always encouraged him to stay longer and enjoy a few days at the destination, which he did gladly.

When my turn for an overseas work trip finally came, he thought it was only fair I got to stay a little longer also (it was only three extra days) even if it meant he had to handle DD alone an extra three days.

If he was cheating on me, he would have had to schedule a babysitter as we have no family or friends here who he could have pawned DD off to while he had wild sex with his mistress .

[Anonymous]

Debbie Downers...I have not seen anyone who is exclaiming praise over a husband who just does his 50 percent. I have seen husbands who do all of the diapers if they are around, always let the wife sleep in late, encourage their wives to have time to themselves, husbands who do the majority of chores etc. These husbands are going above and beyond what is expected in a partnership!

[Anonymous]

If you have to "praise" your husband for being a husband and father, something is not right.

'nuff said

oh - And I don't expect praise either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have to "praise" your husband for being a husband and father, something is not right.

'nuff said

oh - And I don't expect praise either.

Wow, your home sounds like one big joy fest.

The point of praise (apparently not as mind bogglingly obvious as one would have hoped) is that you don't "have to." It's kind. It's nice. It's expresses affection and appreciation. Give it a whirl once you unclench your fists about life. Good God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have to "praise" your husband for being a husband and father, something is not right.

'nuff said

oh - And I don't expect praise either.

Wow, your home sounds like one big joy fest.

The point of praise (apparently not as mind bogglingly obvious as one would have hoped) is that you don't "have to." It's kind. It's nice. It's expresses affection and appreciation. Give it a whirl once you unclench your fists about life. Good God.

no thanks

Unspoken appreciation is always the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have to "praise" your husband for being a husband and father, something is not right.

'nuff said

oh - And I don't expect praise either.

Wow, your home sounds like one big joy fest.

The point of praise (apparently not as mind bogglingly obvious as one would have hoped) is that you don't "have to." It's kind. It's nice. It's expresses affection and appreciation. Give it a whirl once you unclench your fists about life. Good God.

no thanks

Unspoken appreciation is always the best.

Actually that's not true IMHO. I love my husband and son and appreciate all they do and all the joy they give me. They know it. Do they like to hear me tell them how much I appreciate them and love them? You bet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:44, seriously, shut up. You're just annoying.

Do you speak with that mouth to your children? Shame on you.