My baby's daddy is so great because

[Anonymous]

oy.

i'm with ya, Debbie D! my DH and i are equal partners and are both equally too tired for all this praising business. if i told him regularly how great he is, he'd probably think i was coo coo for cocoa puffs. i'd put our marriage up against any of yours any day of the week and twice on sunday. so there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oy.

i'm with ya, Debbie D! my DH and i are equal partners and are both equally too tired for all this praising business. if i told him regularly how great he is, he'd probably think i was coo coo for cocoa puffs. i'd put our marriage up against any of yours any day of the week and twice on sunday. so there!

Different strokes, I guess. Although the whole putting your marriage up against any of yours is fairly bizarre...

[Anonymous]

Different strokes, I guess. Although the whole putting your marriage up against any of yours is fairly bizarre...

it was a JOKE. cheese.

[Anonymous]

I'm a PP who said my husband is great for doing more than 50% of the housework/child-rearing. Yes, I do expect him to do these things and I would be mightily unhappy if he didn't. But I also have friends whose husbands work 80 hour weeks and never see their family...these women are essentially single mothers except for the AMPLE salaries their husbands are bringing home. These husbands cannot help with changing diapers and giving baths and making dinner because THEY'RE NOT THERE. If my friends were to post on this thread, I guess they'd have to say: "My husband is great because he makes so much money which means my children and I can wear really expensive clothes!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm with the "Debbie Downer" poster on this one - you all are praising your husbands for being such wonderful human beings primarly because they're not being giant slackers. So all it takes to be "great" is to do what you should already be doing, and not leave all of the work to someone else? I must be a frickin' rock star, if that is the case!

Wow. Some people will just never be happy, will they? You will always find something to pick at, something to complain about, someone to criticize. I think it's pretty cool for a person to think his or her spouse is awesome, basically regardless of the reason. It's called a healthy and happy marriage. I wish it for you.

Sigh. My marriage is quite healthy and happy. We're blissfully expecting our third child. We love each other immensely and tell each other so often. Compliments fly left and right. We most certainly find one another awesome. The fact that I don't believe an adult should be cheered for merely participating in his own life does not mean my life is devoid of love or happiness. It means I have higher expectations - I expect my partner to act like a partner. I don't expect praise for functioning like an adult.

[Anonymous]

Ladies, LADIES!! Okay, I have to say that all this awesome DD is depressing for me because of my situation BUT I certainly don't begrudge anyone for wanting to shout from the rooftops about how great their husbands are. Why can't there just be a happy thread here on DCUM? If I had a great DH I would love to participate in this thread. I would say most of the negative nelly's are probably just jealous (I know I am!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, LADIES!! Okay, I have to say that all this awesome DD is depressing for me because of my situation BUT I certainly don't begrudge anyone for wanting to shout from the rooftops about how great their husbands are. Why can't there just be a happy thread here on DCUM? If I had a great DH I would love to participate in this thread. I would say most of the negative nelly's are probably just jealous (I know I am!).

Oops, meant DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a PP who said my husband is great for doing more than 50% of the housework/child-rearing. Yes, I do expect him to do these things and I would be mightily unhappy if he didn't. But I also have friends whose husbands work 80 hour weeks and never see their family...these women are essentially single mothers except for the AMPLE salaries their husbands are bringing home. These husbands cannot help with changing diapers and giving baths and making dinner because THEY'RE NOT THERE. If my friends were to post on this thread, I guess they'd have to say: "My husband is great because he makes so much money which means my children and I can wear really expensive clothes!"

This is statement is so shallow it is beyond words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm with the "Debbie Downer" poster on this one - you all are praising your husbands for being such wonderful human beings primarly because they're not being giant slackers. So all it takes to be "great" is to do what you should already be doing, and not leave all of the work to someone else? I must be a frickin' rock star, if that is the case!

Wow. Some people will just never be happy, will they? You will always find something to pick at, something to complain about, someone to criticize. I think it's pretty cool for a person to think his or her spouse is awesome, basically regardless of the reason. It's called a healthy and happy marriage. I wish it for you.

Sigh. My marriage is quite healthy and happy. We're blissfully expecting our third child. We love each other immensely and tell each other so often. Compliments fly left and right. We most certainly find one another awesome. The fact that I don't believe an adult should be cheered for merely participating in his own life does not mean my life is devoid of love or happiness. It means I have higher expectations - I expect my partner to act like a partner. I don't expect praise for functioning like an adult.

Whatever you need to tell yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm with the "Debbie Downer" poster on this one - you all are praising your husbands for being such wonderful human beings primarly because they're not being giant slackers. So all it takes to be "great" is to do what you should already be doing, and not leave all of the work to someone else? I must be a frickin' rock star, if that is the case!

Wow. Some people will just never be happy, will they? You will always find something to pick at, something to complain about, someone to criticize. I think it's pretty cool for a person to think his or her spouse is awesome, basically regardless of the reason. It's called a healthy and happy marriage. I wish it for you.

Sigh. My marriage is quite healthy and happy. We're blissfully expecting our third child. We love each other immensely and tell each other so often. Compliments fly left and right. We most certainly find one another awesome. The fact that I don't believe an adult should be cheered for merely participating in his own life does not mean my life is devoid of love or happiness. It means I have higher expectations - I expect my partner to act like a partner. I don't expect praise for functioning like an adult.

Whatever you need to tell yourself.

And you go ahead and tell yourself that it's dandy having a partner that needs to be praised like a housetraining puppy.

[Anonymous]

And you go ahead and tell yourself that it's dandy having a partner that needs to be praised like a housetraining puppy.

I haven't seen one person say on this thread that they have a partner that NEEDS praise. For me, I think it is important to show my appreciation. And, I like my DH to show his. Period. It's just a nice thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Ok...I'm going back to the original purpose of this thread...

My baby's daddy is so great because: he is home right now with our DS when I am, yet again, having to work late unexpectedly. And he emailed to see when I'll be able to leave to make sure dinner is ready when I get home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok...I'm going back to the original purpose of this thread...

My baby's daddy is so great because: he is home right now with our DS when I am, yet again, having to work late unexpectedly. And he emailed to see when I'll be able to leave to make sure dinner is ready when I get home.

Tell me why this is great and praise worthy? Do you not expect him to be home with your DS as opposed sitting at a bar or off with friends? I still do not get how this is praise worthy.

[Anonymous]

My baby daddy is great because, even though he got other bitches, he always come back to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My baby daddy is great because, even though he got other bitches, he always come back to me.

Now THAT is truly great.