How to explain abortion ruling to 7 year old

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, let’s be honest here: what is driving this opposition to talking to kids about abortion is that anti-abortion groomers want to be the first one to tell your kids what an abortion is, and they plan to do it with pics of aborted fetuses in tow. No thank you.

Also, you not wanting to tell your child about a topic is *never* a reason for me not to give my kid a book about that topic.

Have fun when your child grows up to be neurotic just like you, and you just can’t figure out why.

Pot meet kettle

I’m not the one going on about anti-abortion groomers. In my social circles I can’t help but notice that there’s a heavy degree of overlap between the kids whose parents tell them everything about complex social issues and politics, and kids with clinical anxiety. I can’t imagine any child therapist would advocate talking about everything that’s in the headlines with a 7 year old, yet some parents I know do just that.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, let’s be honest here: what is driving this opposition to talking to kids about abortion is that anti-abortion groomers want to be the first one to tell your kids what an abortion is, and they plan to do it with pics of aborted fetuses in tow. No thank you.

Also, you not wanting to tell your child about a topic is *never* a reason for me not to give my kid a book about that topic.

Have fun when your child grows up to be neurotic just like you, and you just can’t figure out why.

Pot meet kettle

I’m not the one going on about anti-abortion groomers. In my social circles I can’t help but notice that there’s a heavy degree of overlap between the kids whose parents tell them everything about complex social issues and politics, and kids with clinical anxiety. I can’t imagine any child therapist would advocate talking about everything that’s in the headlines with a 7 year old, yet some parents I know do just that.

Well I don't know about you guys, but that's some ironclad data. Pack it up, boys! We're done here!

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Anonymous wrote:Tonight at dinner after going to visit Harper’s Ferry my husband and I were talking about the Civil War and I made a quip about hopefully we don’t see another Civil War. I wasn’t thinking about my 7 year old sitting there (note to self: keep mouth shut) but this prompted her to say “but couldn’t you just give the baby to someone else.” To say I was in shock is an understatement first that she knows anything about the SCOTUS decision but also connected it to my quip.

And now I’m at a loss of how to explain this to her. We haven’t had the sex talk yet. She knows broadly that babies come out of women’s bodies and that women have eggs but we haven’t talked about anything beyond that.

I feel like I have to say something as clearly she’s picked up on the conversations right now and I’d rather be the one who tells her what’s going on then her trying to figure this out on her own.

And I know folks are going to immediately say troll, but I promise I’m not. This happened tonight and I desperately need advice on how to move forward.

It's crazy how kids can break it down so easily

It shows a lack of critical thinking, which young children aren't developmentally capable of doing. I would not discuss abortion with my young children. What I am doing is teaching them about respecting and protecting their own bodies, as well as those of others. They have the reproduction nuts and bolts down in an age appropriate manner and these conversations are ongoing. To the pp, you have to continue talking to your child about sex and reproduction, etc, but in an age appropriate manner. It can be quite uncomfortable to do as they get older and their hormones come into play, but they need to learn about it from their parents and not youtube or tiktok.

You may get rid of it before 20 weeks

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, let’s be honest here: what is driving this opposition to talking to kids about abortion is that anti-abortion groomers want to be the first one to tell your kids what an abortion is, and they plan to do it with pics of aborted fetuses in tow. No thank you.

Also, you not wanting to tell your child about a topic is *never* a reason for me not to give my kid a book about that topic.

Have fun when your child grows up to be neurotic just like you, and you just can’t figure out why.

Pot meet kettle

I’m not the one going on about anti-abortion groomers. In my social circles I can’t help but notice that there’s a heavy degree of overlap between the kids whose parents tell them everything about complex social issues and politics, and kids with clinical anxiety. I can’t imagine any child therapist would advocate talking about everything that’s in the headlines with a 7 year old, yet some parents I know do just that.

Well I don't know about you guys, but that's some ironclad data. Pack it up, boys! We're done here!

There is solid peer reviewed evidence that parental influences are a big factor in anxiety for children and adolescents.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, let’s be honest here: what is driving this opposition to talking to kids about abortion is that anti-abortion groomers want to be the first one to tell your kids what an abortion is, and they plan to do it with pics of aborted fetuses in tow. No thank you.

Also, you not wanting to tell your child about a topic is *never* a reason for me not to give my kid a book about that topic.

Have fun when your child grows up to be neurotic just like you, and you just can’t figure out why.

Pot meet kettle

I’m not the one going on about anti-abortion groomers. In my social circles I can’t help but notice that there’s a heavy degree of overlap between the kids whose parents tell them everything about complex social issues and politics, and kids with clinical anxiety. I can’t imagine any child therapist would advocate talking about everything that’s in the headlines with a 7 year old, yet some parents I know do just that.

Well I don't know about you guys, but that's some ironclad data. Pack it up, boys! We're done here!

There is solid peer reviewed evidence that parental influences are a big factor in anxiety for children and adolescents.

That's a very long distance from "talking to your children in an age appropriate manner about current events/social issues will doom your child to lifelong anxiety."

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, let’s be honest here: what is driving this opposition to talking to kids about abortion is that anti-abortion groomers want to be the first one to tell your kids what an abortion is, and they plan to do it with pics of aborted fetuses in tow. No thank you.

Also, you not wanting to tell your child about a topic is *never* a reason for me not to give my kid a book about that topic.

Have fun when your child grows up to be neurotic just like you, and you just can’t figure out why.

Pot meet kettle

I’m not the one going on about anti-abortion groomers. In my social circles I can’t help but notice that there’s a heavy degree of overlap between the kids whose parents tell them everything about complex social issues and politics, and kids with clinical anxiety. I can’t imagine any child therapist would advocate talking about everything that’s in the headlines with a 7 year old, yet some parents I know do just that.

Well I don't know about you guys, but that's some ironclad data. Pack it up, boys! We're done here!

There is solid peer reviewed evidence that parental influences are a big factor in anxiety for children and adolescents.

That's a very long distance from "talking to your children in an age appropriate manner about current events/social issues will doom your child to lifelong anxiety."

Talking to a 7 year old about abortion and civil war is not age appropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, let’s be honest here: what is driving this opposition to talking to kids about abortion is that anti-abortion groomers want to be the first one to tell your kids what an abortion is, and they plan to do it with pics of aborted fetuses in tow. No thank you.

Also, you not wanting to tell your child about a topic is *never* a reason for me not to give my kid a book about that topic.

Have fun when your child grows up to be neurotic just like you, and you just can’t figure out why.

Pot meet kettle

I’m not the one going on about anti-abortion groomers. In my social circles I can’t help but notice that there’s a heavy degree of overlap between the kids whose parents tell them everything about complex social issues and politics, and kids with clinical anxiety. I can’t imagine any child therapist would advocate talking about everything that’s in the headlines with a 7 year old, yet some parents I know do just that.

Well I don't know about you guys, but that's some ironclad data. Pack it up, boys! We're done here!

There is solid peer reviewed evidence that parental influences are a big factor in anxiety for children and adolescents.

That's a very long distance from "talking to your children in an age appropriate manner about current events/social issues will doom your child to lifelong anxiety."

Talking to a 7 year old about abortion and civil war is not age appropriate.

These PPs will never get it. They think their kids are sooo smart and can handle these topics. They wreck their kids’ social and emotional well being in the name of being woke. I am in some FB groups with very liberal people and I see the same posts over and over about how anxious their kids are, how they need to find them a therapist, etc. They never even consider their own role in creating a sense of existential dread in their children.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, let’s be honest here: what is driving this opposition to talking to kids about abortion is that anti-abortion groomers want to be the first one to tell your kids what an abortion is, and they plan to do it with pics of aborted fetuses in tow. No thank you.

Also, you not wanting to tell your child about a topic is *never* a reason for me not to give my kid a book about that topic.

Have fun when your child grows up to be neurotic just like you, and you just can’t figure out why.

Pot meet kettle

I’m not the one going on about anti-abortion groomers. In my social circles I can’t help but notice that there’s a heavy degree of overlap between the kids whose parents tell them everything about complex social issues and politics, and kids with clinical anxiety. I can’t imagine any child therapist would advocate talking about everything that’s in the headlines with a 7 year old, yet some parents I know do just that.

Well I don't know about you guys, but that's some ironclad data. Pack it up, boys! We're done here!

There is solid peer reviewed evidence that parental influences are a big factor in anxiety for children and adolescents.

That's a very long distance from "talking to your children in an age appropriate manner about current events/social issues will doom your child to lifelong anxiety."

Talking to a 7 year old about abortion and civil war is not age appropriate.

These PPs will never get it. They think their kids are sooo smart and can handle these topics. They wreck their kids’ social and emotional well being in the name of being woke. I am in some FB groups with very liberal people and I see the same posts over and over about how anxious their kids are, how they need to find them a therapist, etc. They never even consider their own role in creating a sense of existential dread in their children.

Are they too young to understand being pregnant?

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Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

I’d like to! But clearly she’s heard something and is trying to process it. Point is I’d like to guide that processing if at all possible.

She has no idea what she's saying. This must be a troll post. Any parent would realize that.

The OP is a parent. I’m a parent. Parenting includes things like talking to your kids about uncomfortable but important things in developmentally appropriate ways. Sometimes even though we would rather “let them be kids.” The repeal of Roe has implications for OP’s 7yo daughter, my 12yo and 5yo daughters, and your daughters, if you have any. I’d prefer that my daughters get their moral guidance from me and moral leaders I think are appropriate, so we discuss things like abortion and racism and other things that probably will get called “woke” in a dismissive way.

Any nobody can figure out why each generation has more anxiety than the last.

Are you explaining rape and incest too? Throw in the heat death of the universe, cancer and HIV for good measure.

Am I “explaining rape and incest”? As in: does my child know that there are adults in the world who may try to get access to the private parts of their bodies, that those people may present it as something that will feel good or be good and that the person doing it or trying to do it may seem to like it, that this might even feel physically good to my child in the moment but that it is still bad for them and something they have to tell me or another trusted adult right away, and that it is even possible that someone they know (or someone one of their friends know) could do this? Yes. At 7. Actually before 7.

Why are you not doing this?

You're talking about molestation. If you want to talk about rape in the context of abortion, since you think your kid needs to know all about this in detail, you need to talk about penis in vagina rape. Don't forget the genetics lecture and recessive genes and how having two bad copies of the same gene will cause an individual to express the disease, and that's why some people think abortion is necessary. Make sure you cross the two and tell her some girls are raped by their dad or uncle and need an abortion for that reason.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re really stretching to assume you mentioning the civil war somehow connected the dots to the Recent SC decision. Really stretching.

I agree.

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This is OP. I am going to ask for this to be closed after I post this, but thank you to those who actually gave advice and not those who have spiraled this into unrelated directions.

I asked my kid what she meant and what she had heard using the advice on this thread and we had a short but good conversation about it, and no I didn't go into details about anything at this point (though I do think its time to start introducing "it's not the stork").

Kids hear things. I don't understand what they hear necessarily and they're going to search for answers. My point in posting this was that I needed guidance on giving the answer in an age appropriate way so she didn't seek inappropriate information on her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

This. What’s wrong with you?