How to explain abortion ruling to 7 year old

[Anonymous]

Civil War, abortion, not good 7 year old topics. Watch what she is exposed to on TV. I'd shrug it off and say nobody is giving away any baby, don't listen to any of that nonsense

[Anonymous]

Regardless of the abortion topic, your comment about hoping to not see another civil war in front of your 7 year old child was really inappropriate and shows poor judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

This. You don’t need to brainwash your kids this early. Next time, what what you say.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

I’d like to! But clearly she’s heard something and is trying to process it. Point is I’d like to guide that processing if at all possible.

She has no idea what she's saying. This must be a troll post. Any parent would realize that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

I’d like to! But clearly she’s heard something and is trying to process it. Point is I’d like to guide that processing if at all possible.

She has no idea what she's saying. This must be a troll post. Any parent would realize that.

The OP is a parent. I’m a parent. Parenting includes things like talking to your kids about uncomfortable but important things in developmentally appropriate ways. Sometimes even though we would rather “let them be kids.” The repeal of Roe has implications for OP’s 7yo daughter, my 12yo and 5yo daughters, and your daughters, if you have any. I’d prefer that my daughters get their moral guidance from me and moral leaders I think are appropriate, so we discuss things like abortion and racism and other things that probably will get called “woke” in a dismissive way.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

I’d like to! But clearly she’s heard something and is trying to process it. Point is I’d like to guide that processing if at all possible.

She has no idea what she's saying. This must be a troll post. Any parent would realize that.

The OP is a parent. I’m a parent. Parenting includes things like talking to your kids about uncomfortable but important things in developmentally appropriate ways. Sometimes even though we would rather “let them be kids.” The repeal of Roe has implications for OP’s 7yo daughter, my 12yo and 5yo daughters, and your daughters, if you have any. I’d prefer that my daughters get their moral guidance from me and moral leaders I think are appropriate, so we discuss things like abortion and racism and other things that probably will get called “woke” in a dismissive way.

The kid is seven. Sometimes you need to put a bubble around your kids and protect them from information that is not age-appropriate. The idea of an impending civil war and the issues around the repeal of Roe v Wade are not appropriate for kids who still believe in the tooth fairy.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

I’d like to! But clearly she’s heard something and is trying to process it. Point is I’d like to guide that processing if at all possible.

She has no idea what she's saying. This must be a troll post. Any parent would realize that.

The OP is a parent. I’m a parent. Parenting includes things like talking to your kids about uncomfortable but important things in developmentally appropriate ways. Sometimes even though we would rather “let them be kids.” The repeal of Roe has implications for OP’s 7yo daughter, my 12yo and 5yo daughters, and your daughters, if you have any. I’d prefer that my daughters get their moral guidance from me and moral leaders I think are appropriate, so we discuss things like abortion and racism and other things that probably will get called “woke” in a dismissive way.

I'm not OP, but I did not discuss pregnancy and abortion with my 7 year old. All she "knew" was after a wedding, a baby comes. I understand some parents weren't married so their fairy tale stories might be different, but that was ours. Santa true, Easter Bunny true, baby comes after wedding.

[Anonymous]

I’d suggest starting with the bigger picture since 7 year olds often start hearing about sex (just the general concept) from friends. We read It’s Not the Stork and similar books so DS7 has a reasonable grasp on the biology.

I didn’t attempt to exclaim the Supreme Court decision’s specific details to DS since I think they’re too complex but said more generally that I don’t think the super conservative judges are good people (we live in Illinois so we’re also talking about why people are allowed to kill each other with assault weapons today). Inwant to keep the human sexuality/reproduction/abortion conversations going with DS as long as he’s interested, since I’d rather he learn from me than someone else. I usually let him lead with questions and drop the subject when he’s done. As others have also said, it’s impossible to understand abortion if you don’t know anything about human reproduction! After about 2 minutes of discussion today, he moved on to asking for an extra cookie after dinner. So I think approaching all of this in “bite sized” pieces is the way to go!

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Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

I’d like to! But clearly she’s heard something and is trying to process it. Point is I’d like to guide that processing if at all possible.

She has no idea what she's saying. This must be a troll post. Any parent would realize that.

The OP is a parent. I’m a parent. Parenting includes things like talking to your kids about uncomfortable but important things in developmentally appropriate ways. Sometimes even though we would rather “let them be kids.” The repeal of Roe has implications for OP’s 7yo daughter, my 12yo and 5yo daughters, and your daughters, if you have any. I’d prefer that my daughters get their moral guidance from me and moral leaders I think are appropriate, so we discuss things like abortion and racism and other things that probably will get called “woke” in a dismissive way.

The kid is seven. Sometimes you need to put a bubble around your kids and protect them from information that is not age-appropriate. The idea of an impending civil war and the issues around the repeal of Roe v Wade are not appropriate for kids who still believe in the tooth fairy.

Okay. So your answer to a situation in which a kid clearly knows something about the issue at hand is to offer no information or guidance, as a parent? To just say, “Pass the salt, Larla”? In the absence of information given to them by a trusted source, children will obtain information from other sources. You do you with the bubble. I support OP seeking ways to have these conversations.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

I’d like to! But clearly she’s heard something and is trying to process it. Point is I’d like to guide that processing if at all possible.

She has no idea what she's saying. This must be a troll post. Any parent would realize that.

The OP is a parent. I’m a parent. Parenting includes things like talking to your kids about uncomfortable but important things in developmentally appropriate ways. Sometimes even though we would rather “let them be kids.” The repeal of Roe has implications for OP’s 7yo daughter, my 12yo and 5yo daughters, and your daughters, if you have any. I’d prefer that my daughters get their moral guidance from me and moral leaders I think are appropriate, so we discuss things like abortion and racism and other things that probably will get called “woke” in a dismissive way.

They don't even understand any of this, no matter how much you try to pretend they're miniature adults. They're not. They're just going to post on here someday about the laughable thing they thought their mother meant when they explained Roe v. Wade to them at 7.

No way you are a parent and don't realize it is not developmentally appropriate to talk to a 7 year old about this. Yes, the repeal of Roe v. Wade will have ramifications in their lives. That is OUR responsibility to deal with, since we are the adults. They are not.

I sincerely hope you are not an actual parent if you don't get that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

I’d like to! But clearly she’s heard something and is trying to process it. Point is I’d like to guide that processing if at all possible.

She has no idea what she's saying. This must be a troll post. Any parent would realize that.

The OP is a parent. I’m a parent. Parenting includes things like talking to your kids about uncomfortable but important things in developmentally appropriate ways. Sometimes even though we would rather “let them be kids.” The repeal of Roe has implications for OP’s 7yo daughter, my 12yo and 5yo daughters, and your daughters, if you have any. I’d prefer that my daughters get their moral guidance from me and moral leaders I think are appropriate, so we discuss things like abortion and racism and other things that probably will get called “woke” in a dismissive way.

They don't even understand any of this, no matter how much you try to pretend they're miniature adults. They're not. They're just going to post on here someday about the laughable thing they thought their mother meant when they explained Roe v. Wade to them at 7.

No way you are a parent and don't realize it is not developmentally appropriate to talk to a 7 year old about this. Yes, the repeal of Roe v. Wade will have ramifications in their lives. That is OUR responsibility to deal with, since we are the adults. They are not.

I sincerely hope you are not an actual parent if you don't get that.

Okay. At what age do you think it is appropriate for children to understand that not everyone wants to or is able to continue a pregnancy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, perhaps start with saying something like “you said something interesting at dinner, can you tell me more about what you meant” ask her what she knows/has heard. Ask if she has any questions and clear up any confusions she has (in an age appropriate way). If she has a question and you’re not sure what an age appropriate answer is, tell her you need some time to think about how to answer and you’ll come back in a day or 2.
This approach got me through the 2016 election and the previous presidency with my elementary schoolers when they came home with questions we hadn’t expected.

This. Find out what prompted her comment. And get a basic sex ed book you can start to share with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t need to be a conversation where everything is explained at once. Start with teaching her the mechanics of where a baby comes from.

At some point you also mention that before it becomes a baby, it’s a fetus growing in a woman’s body, and during that time women should be able to decide whether they are ready to be a mom, and if not, they can go to the doctor and the doctor takes the fetus out of her body until (if) she decides she’s ready to be a mom.

When the mom is ready, does the doctor put the fetus back in???

[Anonymous]

By 7 my kids all knew how babies are made, that there's natural birth and c-sections, and that abortions and adoptions exist.

So explaining that the right to abortion is no longer country-wide and now each state gets to choose if they'll allow it or not was not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't. Let her have her childhood.

+1000

Stop forcing controversial politics on your young kid. That sux. And highly doubt you’re presenting both sides so you’re just programming a robot not a critical thinker.