What’s wrong with some parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Annoying, but honestly they shouldn’t be planting flowers on a playground, of course kids will pull them up.

Weird. We have several kids and they have never pulled a single flower at the park.

Parenting is awesome. More people should try it.

+1
Uprooting flowers in a flower bed at the park is not normal and the parents should have stopped it.

[Anonymous]

I think it's the whole Positive Parenting trend.

I'm a so-called positive parent, but I've noticed people totally misunderstand it. The idea was that instead of just punishing your child for doing something wrong, you teach them the right thing to do instead. But somehow that got twisted into never correcting your child, instead let them do whatever they want and praise them when it's good behavior. I think out of some fear that correcting a child will traumatize them. Also, it's a lot more effort to teach than to just ignore or scream, so most parents don't want to do it.

Sort of like:

Traditional parenting: scream at kid for ripped up flowers, provides no alternatives

Positive parenting: explains that ripped up flowers is wrong, directs child to another activity such as collecting pinecones and playing with those. Repeat over and over until child understands.

Misinterpretation of positive parenting: ignores the pulling up flowers and praises child when he does something else.

Same thing with dogs nowadays. Everyone jumped on the positive training bandwagon, and now it's considered abuse to correct your dog in anyway. People just let the dog misbehave and just toss treats at it when it's "good". That's not actually teaching anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you pull leaves off trees? Serious question. Because I do this for my son to feel the different textures…maybe ill stop it.

Plucking a single leaf won't hurt the tree, but I've seen kids stripping whole branches and trying to break branches off trees altogether. That will invite disease into the tree and eventually kill it (within 5ish years depending on the age and size of the tree).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It was me. My son likes to play. Flowers shcwowers. Go hug a tree.

Stop trolling. You’re just embarrassing yourself.

It wasnt literal silly. I am the parent who lets her kids play snd be a kid. Im not telling you how to parent your kid. More parents should mind their business unless it is directly harming you and yours. What was your kid doing during while tending to others kids?

Can you pull leaves off trees? Serious question. Because I do this for my son to feel the different textures…maybe ill stop it.

Okay, I'll feed the two trolls.

Plants that are growing wild in uncultivated areas (meadows, fields, untended common grounds, woods, etc) are free game. Plants that you are planting and caring for, like in your yard are free game.

Plants (flowers, bushes, landscaping, trees) that are in someone else's yard, in publicly tended areas or in privately landscaped areas are off-limits. If someone else is raising plants or paying someone to landscape or tend to plants, you and your children should not be damaging them. And even though it doesn't seem like taking a leaf or two off of a tree are hurting it, you still should respect that someone else is tending to that tree. You can pull a branch down and your child can feel the leaf and the texture without taking the leaf off.

So teach your children to respect public and private property that does not belong to you, including the plants.

So, for the first troll, if you want to "let your kids play" and pull up plants, keep them at home and let them pull up the plants that you paid for and that you've been taking care of. Don't destroy someone else's landscaping because you don't bother to teach your child proper boundaries.

Well said.

Wrong. The "uncultivated areas" around here are national park land, or municipal park land, and what PP suggests is actually illegal. It's not free game at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you pull leaves off trees? Serious question. Because I do this for my son to feel the different textures…maybe ill stop it.

Plucking a single leaf won't hurt the tree, but I've seen kids stripping whole branches and trying to break branches off trees altogether. That will invite disease into the tree and eventually kill it (within 5ish years depending on the age and size of the tree).

I don't let my (toddler) kid pull at any plants, even trees or weeds because it makes it easier to keep her out of people's nice flowerbeds. They can feel different textures without pulling things off/up.

[Anonymous]

I would tell my kid to stop if he was picking flowers from a flower bed. However, I would not yell at someone else's kid for doing that. I don't think you should correct other people's kids unless it's absolutely necessary (like they are hurting another child or an animal)

[Anonymous]

As a teacher I see kids all the way up to 5th grade destroying things at school and genuinely appearing to have no idea that what they’ve done is wrong. They aren’t being sneaky or mean or testing limits. They pull down items from bulletin boards, write on furniture, pick at the soft edges of their work tables until they are coming apart, etc. When you tell them it’s not allowed they look at you and say, “Oh. Sorry.” I feel sorry for them, really.

Personally, I hate correcting my own kids when they’re having fun but it is not fair to them to send them off into the world acting like jerks.

[Anonymous]

Here’s one: my DS19 was playing pick up basketball with a group of other men outside at our community basketball court within a large park. They had an end court that is adjacent to a field.

A boy about 4 kept running into center court and the game stopped a few times. The team had to wave mom over to collect her kid so they could resume play. Mom crouched at
asphalt sideline and attempted to coerce her kid back while the group of men stood and sweated. Mom muttered something like, “he loves basketball” and walked away with kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s one: my DS19 was playing pick up basketball with a group of other men outside at our community basketball court within a large park. They had an end court that is adjacent to a field.

A boy about 4 kept running into center court and the game stopped a few times. The team had to wave mom over to collect her kid so they could resume play. Mom crouched at
asphalt sideline and attempted to coerce her kid back while the group of men stood and sweated. Mom muttered something like, “he loves basketball” and walked away with kid.

I don't see the issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s one: my DS19 was playing pick up basketball with a group of other men outside at our community basketball court within a large park. They had an end court that is adjacent to a field.

A boy about 4 kept running into center court and the game stopped a few times. The team had to wave mom over to collect her kid so they could resume play. Mom crouched at
asphalt sideline and attempted to coerce her kid back while the group of men stood and sweated. Mom muttered something like, “he loves basketball” and walked away with kid.

I don't see the issue?

You don’t stand at the sideline and try to get your kid off the court. You walk over and pick him up. No one needs the kid interrupting the game and they certainly shouldn’t have to wait for you to talk to him about getting off the court.

[Anonymous]

Some moms don’t get a ton of opportunities to socialize so maybe they said eh, if a few flowers have to die so I can talk to adults for once this month then so be it.

Not great but I get it.

[Anonymous]

Don't pull the flowers!! Lazy parents!! Don't do that to our community and especially our neighbors gardens.

When I see kids trying to pull tulips and other flowers I tell them no, don't pull those flowers. You can pull weed flowers like dandilions from the grass.

And tell your kids to stop pulling thier neighbors flowers, they work hard to plant them! It's always the parents fault, not the kids.

When I see children misbehaving I blame their parents for the lack of discipline. You should start as early as 1 year and a half.

Don't have kids if it's so much work.

[Anonymous]

To the LAZY PARENTS, grow some FLOWERS and let your kids TAKE THEM FROM YOUR GARDEN. AHOLES. Grow your own and destroy it. Not from other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some moms don’t get a ton of opportunities to socialize so maybe they said eh, if a few flowers have to die so I can talk to adults for once this month then so be it.

Not great but I get it.

Yay! More stupid excuses for lazy parenting!

[Anonymous]

Kids learn that not all adults will like what they do. Teachers, bosses ... learn it now. These kids, now and increasingly, have to answer to other adults beyond their parents.