What’s wrong with some parents?

[Anonymous]

I was with a friend and her daughters were picking flowers with my daughter. I told my daughter to stop and she did. She knows better. I mentioned to my friends and they didn’t seem to care. They gave them each a bag to put all the flowers they had collected. My daughter also wanted something to collect the flowers and I told her she cannot go around picking flowers from parks and hotels.

I thought my friends were rude and not parenting but clearly they are nothing compared to some of the parents mentioned on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Picking flowers by the roots kills the plant. They won't grow back. Flowers in a public place are for others to enjoy - not just you. Kids shouldn't be yelled at by strangers - but they can be taught this kindly. It's part of learning consideration.

[Anonymous]

If OP was talking about buttercups or another flower in a grassy area, fine...but she specifically said it was in a flower bed. It's not okay to let our kids pick flowers from a garden. And please don't use this as an opportunity to put down all little boys, that's not fair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with putting flowers in the sandbox?

And why yell at other people's kids? Too coward to approach the moms - in a diplomatic manner if course - and get context (maybe it's permissible in their culture, maybe there's an SN issue) or let them know?

Pulling up park flowers by the roots and putting them in the sandbox doesn’t seem wrong to you?

I bet adults yell at your brats all the time. Try being a better parent.

One could argue the kids are being creative and using their imagination.

Dogs pee on flower beds and thus "destroy " them . Get angry with them too.

Aren't the dogs just being creative like your little brutish artistic monster?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with putting flowers in the sandbox?

And why yell at other people's kids? Too coward to approach the moms - in a diplomatic manner if course - and get context (maybe it's permissible in their culture, maybe there's an SN issue) or let them know?

What’s wrong with pulling flowers by the root out of a garden bed in a public area that a landscaper planted for all to enjoy? That’s your question? If it was wildflowers in a field, that’s one thing. This was not that and is totally disrespectful and inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It was me. My son likes to play. Flowers shcwowers. Go hug a tree.

Stop trolling. You’re just embarrassing yourself.

It wasnt literal silly. I am the parent who lets her kids play snd be a kid. Im not telling you how to parent your kid. More parents should mind their business unless it is directly harming you and yours. What was your kid doing during while tending to others kids?

Are you trolling? No one is this stupid and selfish!

Kids being kids doesn’t involve destroying a garden in a PUBLIC place. If you want to “parent your way” let your kid pull up the flowers in your own garden and not the plants in a public (for everyone paid by taxpayers) garden!

I would sternly correct your kid.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of lazy and inconsiderate parents out there. They are raising brats who will never be successful in life because they won’t be able to self-regulate or seek the greater good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was me. My son likes to play. Flowers shcwowers. Go hug a tree.

Stop trolling. You’re just embarrassing yourself.

It wasnt literal silly. I am the parent who lets her kids play snd be a kid. Im not telling you how to parent your kid. More parents should mind their business unless it is directly harming you and yours. What was your kid doing during while tending to others kids?

Are you trolling? No one is this stupid and selfish!

Kids being kids doesn’t involve destroying a garden in a PUBLIC place. If you want to “parent your way” let your kid pull up the flowers in your own garden and not the plants in a public (for everyone paid by taxpayers) garden!

I would sternly correct your kid.

I think the kids (and their parents) were wrong here too, but what's with all of you that insist that the kids need to be "sternly" corrected? A six year old might not know the difference between planted plants and dandelions. Just explain it to them nicely - "Oh hey guys! These flowers actually aren't for picking, they're for everyone to see and enjoy. See how they are part of the garden here? Why don't you go pick those dandelions that aren't part of this pretty garden (or "can you go find some pretend flowers for your sandbox garden instead?" if there are no dandelions).

[Anonymous]

One of my earliest memories was picking flowers for my mother when I was 5, and thinking how happy she would be. Next thing I know, my mother marches me up to another woman to apologize for picking her flowers. This is when I learned about private property. Apparently it hadn't sunk in before.

Yes, it's all about parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was with a friend and her daughters were picking flowers with my daughter. I told my daughter to stop and she did. She knows better. I mentioned to my friends and they didn’t seem to care. They gave them each a bag to put all the flowers they had collected. My daughter also wanted something to collect the flowers and I told her she cannot go around picking flowers from parks and hotels.

I thought my friends were rude and not parenting but clearly they are nothing compared to some of the parents mentioned on this thread.

Yes, I've been in this situation too. I stop my kids from pulling leaves off bushes and trees when we are walking around our neighborhood. Because those plants are not OURS to destroy. Same with flowers. We don't pick other people's flowers. We can pick wild flowers, yes. Dandelion, buttercups, anything weed like. But the neighbor's daffodils are off limits. It's about respecting other people's property and leaving public spaces as nice as when you arrived.

I have had a few awkward exchanges with a neighbor/friend who lets her kids rip things to shreds. I won't allow it when they are on my street, because I respect my neighbors and don't want them upset. She always seems to be surprised I'm stopping them. I don't yell at them, but I will repeatedly ask them to stop, her children included. If my child is still participating, I will pull my kid aside and tell them if they do it again, the play date is over. But it is irritating the other mom doesn't seem to grasp the concept that these plants are not yours to destroy. We are otherwise good friends, but this theme does come up now and then in our parenting, and creates some tension.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many park mothers are jerks. I’ve had to correct bratty kids more times than I can count as a nanny of 15 years. Hideous, cruel, pig behavior and the mothers just sit there. I had one mother and her son escorted out of an indoor playground once for throwing balls at my toddler charge. The kid was about six and the mother just stood there. I told the kid to stop and the mother got huffy so I told the manager and they escorted them out.

Bravo! More of this needs to happen! Thank you!

Those moms always get huffy - they would rather do that than actually parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They must be the moms who didn’t even blink while their boys threw rocks at ducks the other day. I though about saying something but the moms looked so proud of their boys so it would have been a lost cause. Plus the moms all had matching yeti wine tumblers with vinyl monogram stickers, which I took as a warning to not engage.

People are animals. That’s all you need to know.

That's horrible. (I lol'd at the "yeti wine tumblers," though )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with putting flowers in the sandbox?

And why yell at other people's kids? Too coward to approach the moms - in a diplomatic manner if course - and get context (maybe it's permissible in their culture, maybe there's an SN issue) or let them know?

Pulling up park flowers by the roots and putting them in the sandbox doesn’t seem wrong to you?

I bet adults yell at your brats all the time. Try being a better parent.

One could argue the kids are being creative and using their imagination.

Dogs pee on flower beds and thus "destroy " them . Get angry with them too.

Dogs are nice. Your brats are not.

[Anonymous]

This is why we can't have nice things. Because parents think its ok for their entitled brats to tear up public flower beds.

[Anonymous]

I bet they're the type of mom clique that sits there and talks loudly about the mom who isn't there. Or worse: talks about her kid. I always gave those moms a wide berth and didn't want to interact with them. They showed me who they are inside. Ugly.