Down 15 lbs - not one comment from anyone

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I never comment on that. It’s rude and it implies “wow you were fat before.”

+1
Never, ever ever. I had too many friends with eating disorders in high school; I do not comment on bodies.

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I have lost about 25 lbs. Not a peep from anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people consider it rude to comment on weight loss.

This. So many internet articles about how offended women were when people complimented their weight loss. No one will say anything.

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I know the common theme is that people no longer comment on weight loss, but this is simply not true. I am the pp upthread who lost 70 lbs., and over the years of losing it, I have received a ton of comments/compliments, particularly at work and from men and women.

People are not as socially conscious as you are making them out to be. And I agree that the compliments start to get old. I am not a sensitive person, but I could see how it could become offensive after a while.

They aren't saying anything because 15 pounds is not a drastic/noticeable loss. Contrary to popular belief about wokeness, people are still very much people.

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I would never comment even if I noticed. I think people who comment on weight loss are creepy.

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I think people know better than to comment on another person's weight.

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I do not comment on other women's weight, ever. It can be triggering. I think society is evolving to understanding that commenting on someone's weight, even when positive, is not always appreciated or welcomed.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people know better than to comment on another person's weight.

Unless you are thin. Many people find it perfectly acceptable to comment on your weight if are thin

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Unless it is a friend who brought it up herself (at which point I’d talk to her about it and congratulate her), I wouldn’t comment on a friend’s weight at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I have dropped a pant size and I think I generally look less “puffy”…from 190 to 175…is this just not a significant enough drop for a person of my size? Mid-40s woman.

FWIW I am not changing for anyone but surprising myself I would appreciate that validation as encouragement to continue, you know?

People don't want to mention your weight unless it's too obvious not to mention. I used to work in an office full of very polite old men-- I was eight months pregnant before one of them tentatively mentioned it. I think he was so deeply afraid that I had been hitting the potato chip bags too hard--and didn't want to take the slightest risk of offending me.
I'm one of the idiots who congratulated a woman on her pregnancy (she had gained a lot of weight in her stomach and I hadn't seen her in 6 months). I still burn with remorse- it was awful and the rudest, most unthinking thing I've ever said.

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OP, on a a slightly different note, I wonder if you should just more actively seek some affirmation? I would be not only be OK with, but would enjoy celebrating a friend's weight loss if she made clear she was happy about it--just mention your new fitness kick or healthy eating plan, etc. While this type of conversation might be weird around co-workers and neighbors, close friends would probably be happy to have you "fish" for some well-deserved kudos!

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I would never comment on anyone’s weight. I might give you a “you look great,” “pretty outfit,” etc but nothing about weight.

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Anonymous wrote:I have dropped a pant size and I think I generally look less “puffy”…from 190 to 175…is this just not a significant enough drop for a person of my size? Mid-40s woman.

FWIW I am not changing for anyone but surprising myself I would appreciate that validation as encouragement to continue, you know?

At your weight (depending on height) I'd say they'll start noticing after 25 pounds if your under 5'3" and they'll really notice like 'oh wow'.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people know better than to comment on another person's weight.

Unless you are thin. Many people find it perfectly acceptable to comment on your weight if are thin

Oh, won’t anyone consider the poor, underrepresented thin people!?! They’re so put upon!! And no one ever mentions weight or body shape to fat people, not ever!

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Interesting. I would have thought that people would want to acknowledge someone more. Not a stranger but colleagues and friends. Didn’t realize that weight loss was such a touchy subject to be honest.