Down 15 lbs - not one comment from anyone

[Anonymous]

I have dropped a pant size and I think I generally look less “puffy”…from 190 to 175…is this just not a significant enough drop for a person of my size? Mid-40s woman.

FWIW I am not changing for anyone but surprising myself I would appreciate that validation as encouragement to continue, you know?

[Anonymous]

People probably think you look healthier, but not drastic enough to mention.

[Anonymous]

Congrats! But... come on what should they say and why would you think anyone would even notice?
People get easily offended these days and any such comment might be perceived as saying oh, no... you were so bad...

[Anonymous]

Same here - lost 15. No comments. My boobs are smaller, for sure, and my arms, so maybe it just isn't that noticeable? I agree - I don't need others' noticing, but I still with they would. Good for you! 15 is a lot! I just envision the weight in bags of potatoes or flour, and you realize just how much weight it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People probably think you look healthier, but not drastic enough to mention.

Agree, I also lost 12 pounds last summer and no one really noticed except my husband.

[Anonymous]

Well done - I’ve been trying to do that without success. I don’t comment on people’s weight in person. It can be insulting. If you bring it up, you’ll get more feedback.

[Anonymous]

They notice but don’t mention it because some people get offended when you comment on their appearance.

[Anonymous]

If it is slow and people see you all the time, they won't notice.

Also it is better than my mother in law saying to me, you look great! Now you finally are back to the weight you were on your wedding day...

(Meant as a compliment and the intent was good I believe, but made me feel bad)

[Anonymous]

Many people consider it rude to comment on weight loss.

[Anonymous]

Also, I don't know about everyone else but I make it a point not to comment on weight changes -- it's just too risky.

[Anonymous]

The etiquette now is not to mention weight loss.

Imagine: I see you for the first time and notice that you look thinner. Before I blurt something out I wonder:

Are you ill?
Will you think I thought you were fat before?
How will you feel if you gain weight again?

I sometimes can't help myself ( I am old) but try to limit my remarks to: You look great! Sight for sore eyes, etc.

PS I lost 15 pounds and MY HUSBAND didn't notice, LOL

[Anonymous]

I would never comment on that. For one thing, I don't know if the person is trying to lose weight (people can drop weight for a lot of reasons, the last time I had a significant weight loss it was due to a severe stretch of depression and anxiety which left me sleepless and too anxious to actually prepare or finish a meal). I can think of many reasons not to mention someone's weight.

But also, who is it you are expecting to notice?

[Anonymous]

I never comment on people's weight. It is like saying you have thought of them as fat/heavy/unattractive in the past...and I really pay attention to your body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many people consider it rude to comment on weight loss.

+1 I don’t comment on anyone’s body size/shape ever. I’ll compliment an outfit, a haircut, but never anything about weight.

[Anonymous]

Yep, better to not mention. If you want compliments you're going to have to solicit them and say you feel great now that you're following a new diet/exercising more or whatever the secret is. Then people might be more likely to comment after you open the door.