Nanny asking to leave early because she arrived early

[Anonymous]

Is this nanny very young? Is this her first job? She doesn’t seem to understand the way job hours work.

Maybe she just needs time to learn, but I’m not sure I’d have the patience to be the one teaching her how to act in the working world. Her parents should have taught her that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this nanny very young? Is this her first job? She doesn’t seem to understand the way job hours work.

Maybe she just needs time to learn, but I’m not sure I’d have the patience to be the one teaching her how to act in the working world. Her parents should have taught her that.

+1. Either this is a first job or OP said something that gave her the impression hours were flexible (ie: “I’m a sahm so I’ll be around, we want you to come in about 9 and stay until 5ish” etc)

[Anonymous]

Is she willing to do other work in the first half an hour? Pack lunches? Fold laundry? If so, let her start work. It is silly to have her walk around the block for no reason, unless it truly does not work for you. It sounds like she still can work a fixed schedule. She has asked to start the day half an hour early, which seems like a reasonable request. The fact of asking for it does not seem, on its own, to be unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She voluntarily showed up early so that half hour is on her. Her day, based on your day, ends at X time so she needs to be there until that time. She works set hours, not X hours.

I don’t get this at all. This is completely unacceptable whether or not the employer is working. The nanny sounds very entitled and not professional. How is her job different than anyone else who takes the subway???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She showed up on her second day early as well, and asked to change the schedule to the half hour earlier time because the trains work better for her that way. That earlier time isn’t great for me (baby is usually still napping then) and I told me as much and she said oh but the train schedule works better for me. I don’t strictly need her for the last half hour each days except MAYBE once a week- can i propose that as a compromise, we can do the schedule she proposed, but if I need the actual last half hour we originally agreed to on some day, she wil have to stay for that time and it will not be extra pay?

Look forward a new nanny OP. It’s only going to get worse from here on out. A month from now you’ll be kicking yourself for staying with her. Every interaction is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Starting work on time sometimes means arriving early.
I don't know why some people cannot understand this.

Whether you yourself are working for pay, or not, is not the issue, since you could have something planned at any time and you need to be able to to rely on her providing childcare.

Like a poster suggested, say that it's fine if it's cleared in advance, because you need to check whether you have anything planned. Explain that you hired her to work at set hours, and she's not expected to work if she arrives early.

One of my friends is a nanny and she's the type to arrive early to make sure traffic does not make her late, and to leave right on time. This means that her employers get free minutes in the morning, but that's fine, since it's part of most job descriptions to arrive on time... which means sometimes arriving early.

I don't understand why she can't have a coffee as previously suggested, or read a book or tend to her emails or knitting, or something if she gets there early? Why would she start working?

Because it's not relaxing to hang out in your employer's home, the kids may not understand that you aren't on the clock, and she has stuff to do when she isn't working.

So the nanny can spend that half hour in Starbucks and show up at OP's when she's scheduled to show up.

Many residential neighborhoods do not contain a Starbucks, or any short order restaurants walkable from public transit. Shocking, I know.

[Anonymous]

You need to get rid of her immediately. Everything is about her & focused on her. Poor judgement and the wrong priorities. She agreed to the job and is now trying to change it on day 2. I wouldn’t trust her judgement or to put the baby first. What you are doing with your time is irrelevant. Be happy for the big read flags right off the bat

[Anonymous]

I hate to say it but it seems like she’s steamrolling you. I get the comments of “it doesn’t hurt to ask” but it doesn’t sound like she’s respecting that her proposed schedule doesn’t work for you

[Anonymous]

Op here. You guys called it. Nanny said today she wanted to quit because I could not accomodste her change in schedule. I am so mad. I turned down all these other candidates and now I’m back to square 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. You guys called it. Nanny said today she wanted to quit because I could not accomodste her change in schedule. I am so mad. I turned down all these other candidates and now I’m back to square 1.

Better you find out now than later. She knew the hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. You guys called it. Nanny said today she wanted to quit because I could not accomodste her change in schedule. I am so mad. I turned down all these other candidates and now I’m back to square 1.

Good luck with your search.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. You guys called it. Nanny said today she wanted to quit because I could not accomodste her change in schedule. I am so mad. I turned down all these other candidates and now I’m back to square 1.

Better you find out now than later. She knew the hours.

+1. If it hadn’t been the hours, it would have been something else. Good riddance.

[Anonymous]

You don’t work….you have time to find a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Not trying to be snarky, but just curious why you need a Nanny if you do not work.

I think your Nanny needs to fully understand that just because she arrived a half-hr. earlier does not give her an automatic right to leave earlier.

You set the hours that you need her there > not her!
If she cannot accept that this is how jobs work, then she is not the right person for your needs and you need to continue your search.

Wishing you the best. 😃

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. You guys called it. Nanny said today she wanted to quit because I could not accomodste her change in schedule. I am so mad. I turned down all these other candidates and now I’m back to square 1.

Better you find out now than later. She knew the hours.

+1. If it hadn’t been the hours, it would have been something else. Good riddance.

You dodged a bullet. She would have been problematic for other reasons, too. Better now than later after the kids might be attached.