Why do some women have a high need for attention?

[Anonymous]

We’ve all got those friends in our circle. They love male attention and are often over the top in how they go about getting it.

No name calling or negative posts please - I’d really like to understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve all got those friends in our circle. They love male attention and are often over the top in how they go about getting it.

No name calling or negative posts please - I’d really like to understand.

Why not ask the friends in your circle why they need attention and are so over the top in pursuit of it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve all got those friends in our circle. They love male attention and are often over the top in how they go about getting it.

No name calling or negative posts please - I’d really like to understand.

Why not ask the friends in your circle why they need attention and are so over the top in pursuit of it?

Because I don’t want to offend them and I’m not sure they’d have an answer.

[Anonymous]

I think ALL do. It's planted in women by thousands of years of evolution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve all got those friends in our circle. They love male attention and are often over the top in how they go about getting it.

No name calling or negative posts please - I’d really like to understand.

Why not ask the friends in your circle why they need attention and are so over the top in pursuit of it?

Because I don’t want to offend them and I’m not sure they’d have an answer.

Look at it this way. Let's say you had friends in your circle who were alcoholics and wanted to understand.
Well...some people turn to alcohol to relieve stress. Some people began drinking at an early age and developed an alcohol problem or a physical dependence on alcohol as they get older. Some people turn to alcohol when feeling anxious or depressed. Some people have a parent or other relative who was an alcoholic.
In other words there are a number of factors/reasons as to why some people are alcoholics - varies from individual to individual.
Same rule of thumb applies to excessive attention seeking behavior - varies from individual to individual.
If you want to truly understand what issues/factors are the at the root of your friends behavior then you need to ask those individuals.
If you're truly a friend then offending them is the last thing you should be worried about. Helping them should be your main motivation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve all got those friends in our circle. They love male attention and are often over the top in how they go about getting it.

No name calling or negative posts please - I’d really like to understand.

Why not ask the friends in your circle why they need attention and are so over the top in pursuit of it?

Because I don’t want to offend them and I’m not sure they’d have an answer.

Look at it this way. Let's say you had friends in your circle who were alcoholics and wanted to understand.
Well...some people turn to alcohol to relieve stress. Some people began drinking at an early age and developed an alcohol problem or a physical dependence on alcohol as they get older. Some people turn to alcohol when feeling anxious or depressed. Some people have a parent or other relative who was an alcoholic.
In other words there are a number of factors/reasons as to why some people are alcoholics - varies from individual to individual.
Same rule of thumb applies to excessive attention seeking behavior - varies from individual to individual.
If you want to truly understand what issues/factors are the at the root of your friends behavior then you need to ask those individuals.
If you're truly a friend then offending them is the last thing you should be worried about. Helping them should be your main motivation.

OP here: Thanks for the reply.

I don’t see their need for attention as something that needs to be treated - it’s just part of their personality.

[Anonymous]

OP - do you not want attention from guys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve all got those friends in our circle. They love male attention and are often over the top in how they go about getting it.

No name calling or negative posts please - I’d really like to understand.

Some people love attention, OP. Some women in particularly crave validation in the form of male attention. It signals that they are succeeding in being a woman, whatever that means to them. Some people are trying to fill an attention gap with random male attention. Others are vain and like to show off. If it is something that makes it hard for you to be friends with them, certainly distance yourself from those friends. If their behavior becomes dangerous (e.g., a friend who drinks too much and flirts with random strangers at bars may be vulnerable to predators), be a good friend and help keep them safe. Otherwise, you do you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve all got those friends in our circle. They love male attention and are often over the top in how they go about getting it.

No name calling or negative posts please - I’d really like to understand.

Why not ask the friends in your circle why they need attention and are so over the top in pursuit of it?

Because I don’t want to offend them and I’m not sure they’d have an answer.

Look at it this way. Let's say you had friends in your circle who were alcoholics and wanted to understand.
Well...some people turn to alcohol to relieve stress. Some people began drinking at an early age and developed an alcohol problem or a physical dependence on alcohol as they get older. Some people turn to alcohol when feeling anxious or depressed. Some people have a parent or other relative who was an alcoholic.
In other words there are a number of factors/reasons as to why some people are alcoholics - varies from individual to individual.
Same rule of thumb applies to excessive attention seeking behavior - varies from individual to individual.
If you want to truly understand what issues/factors are the at the root of your friends behavior then you need to ask those individuals.
If you're truly a friend then offending them is the last thing you should be worried about. Helping them should be your main motivation.

OP here: Thanks for the reply.

I don’t see their need for attention as something that needs to be treated - it’s just part of their personality.

I know there have been countless studies on personality disorders like depression, manic states, obsessional behavior, and psychosis in an attempt to find out the reasons behind those dysfunctional traits that make some people hard to get along with and interfere with their lives, but I don't know if there's been similar extensive research by mental health professionals to identify why some people are friendly, why some people are funny, why some people are condescending...you know, just part of their personality as you describe. If it's not something so abnormal that it needs to be treated then I think you may be out of luck with regard to truly understanding why people have certain personalities.

[Anonymous]

Absent father or narcissistic mother - personal opinion only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think ALL do. It's planted in women by thousands of years of evolution.

I don't think it's evolution. I think it's internalization of patriarchy that's probably more of a by-product of the agricultural revolution -- so about 12,000 years.

[Anonymous]

Low self esteem and need for external validation... lacking intrinsic self esteem.

Could be a number of things but of my friends like this...

1. Absent father
2. Mother married 5 times
3. Was beaten by mom's husband, was taken by CPS and raised by her grandmother (mother chose to stay with abuser).

[Anonymous]

For the women I know who are like this, it's a form of competition with other women, including their own friends. These type of women are insecure and this is one of the ways - or perhaps the only way - they can excel compared to other women. Maybe they're not as smart, successful, thin, wealthy, or pretty as another woman, but they "win" when they get male attention.

[Anonymous]

Some people shine naturally, without attempting to attract attention. As a matter of fact, some people have to intentionally hide their “glow” around others that may find it too bright.

On the other hand, often people who seek and need unusual amounts of attention are actually searching for validation. I often assume it’s driven by an unmet need somewhere else in their life.

True validation begins within. That’s when everyone’s light can shine and no one be intimidated by it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absent father or narcissistic mother - personal opinion only.

This was my first thought as well. Basic needs weren’t met as a child.