Cameras and paranoid DH
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Anonymous
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Returned from a business trip to 4 cameras outside the house and 1 in the living room (and I’m guessing there’s probably more I don’t know about). I work from home, so I spend 90% of my life there. DH is now getting notified every time I move past a camera. I have nothing to hide, but I feel like I should have a reasonable expectation of privacy in my own home. DH says I’m doing something shady since I don’t want him to be notified when I come and go. I asked him if he was going to give me access to the cameras as well, and he said no.
So, what now? I’m not staying or working in the house while under surveillance. Get a long term Airbnb and see if he gives it up? How would I even believe he actually removed them? He’s always shown paranoid tendencies, but this takes the cake. |
Anonymous
| He sounds ridiculous. Is he mentally ill? What is his reason for doing the interior camera(s)? Has there been an infidelity issue in the past? |
Anonymous
| RUN away from this relationship. |
Anonymous
| Do you have kids? You need to remove yourself from this relationship. I really hope you don’t have kids. |
Anonymous
| This is very alarming; your DH sounds scary and very unhealthy and irrational. I couldn’t remain in this relationship for another moment. Do you have kids? |
Anonymous
| Put a scarf over the internal camera. |
Anonymous
RUN. This is insane 
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Anonymous
| Something is really wrong with him and your relationship. Do you have kids? I would at least try counseling, but no, I couldn't see living with that long-term. |
Anonymous
| Black spray paint |
Anonymous
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That he won't give you access to the cameras is NUTS.
Turn the camera around. He can't force you to deal with this. Force the issue by not complying. Also, point out to him that it is super weird and not normal. Do you think he would hurt you? |
Anonymous
| Guy here, your husband sounds nuts |
Anonymous
Plus 100, from a man This is only going to get worse. And he won't give you access to the cameras? Man, I feel for you |
Anonymous
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There are so many concerning things about this. The most concerning is that he refuses to give you access to the cameras. The second is that he did not discuss this with you before doing it.
There is something seriously wrong with him. I'm a huge fan of relationship counseling but not in this case. There is something seriously wrong with this guy and given his suspicions about you, you need to get out. I hope to god we don't hear about you on the news. Please keep us posted. |
Anonymous
| Did you post before? Someone posted about a paranoid DH who got an alarm system for the front door and turned it on remotely when she was in the house. |
Anonymous
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If he was really paranoid and evil he would have hidden the cameras and not told you about them. That way you’d never even have known.
Why not just move normally through your day and let him play jr detective and see nothing? |