Cameras and paranoid DH

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[Post New]09/04/2018 13:02
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Anonymous
Leave, now. My former step dad had a mental illness, paranoid personality disorder, and he did something like this. What started as potentially borderline normal security procedures quickly moved to literally putting tin foil on the windows. She took him to several doctors but of course they were also out to get him so she eventually left him. It was terrifying. See if you can get him agree to treatment before he is too far gone. Cameras monitoring his own wife at home, and he won’t give you access, is way far beyond normal.
[Post New]09/04/2018 17:17
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Anonymous
If this is new, tell him to see a doctor. Brain tumors can change ones personality.
[Post New]09/04/2018 17:55
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did you post before? Someone posted about a paranoid DH who got an alarm system for the front door and turned it on remotely when she was in the house.


OP here. No, that was not me. We do have an alarm (with interior motion detectors), which makes this all the more ridiculous. I might have accepted the exterior cameras (recording, not alerting him) because they’d capture the face of anyone breaking in. Once they’re in, why do we need another video? The motion detectors would alert the alarm company.

He has no real reason for the paranoia. Nothing remotely bad has ever happened to him or anyone in his family.

We have no kids, although we were letting nature take its course there.

We are currently not speaking. I was visiting my parents for Labor Day weekend and expected he’d have taken care of the cameras while I was away. No luck.


Is he paranoid about you cheating? Is he trying to monitor and control you? Or is he paranoid about something happening to you?
[Post New]09/05/2018 05:45
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Anonymous
Another vote that you should leave this guy ASAP (and most certainly before you have a baby with him!)
[Post New]09/05/2018 07:13
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Anonymous
OP here. I talked to him on the phone last night. There are 8 cameras all together. Nothing got resolved, so I’m not going back.
[Post New]09/05/2018 07:15
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to him on the phone last night. There are 8 cameras all together. Nothing got resolved, so I’m not going back.

Good. Move on.
[Post New]09/05/2018 08:47
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Anonymous
Hah. So long as you ARE there I would just smash every camera I find... and keep doing so. The cost and effort of replacing them will eventually wear on him. You can even buy devices that detect hidden cameras. But yeah, crazy behavior to begin with so I'd get out of there.
[Post New]09/05/2018 09:11
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to him on the phone last night. There are 8 cameras all together. Nothing got resolved, so I’m not going back.


I would add a demand in addition to taking down the cameras - that he see his general doctor, with you allowed to relate your concerns about paranoia.

You are right not to go back. Please visit a lawyer. divorcing someone who is mentally ill can be quite difficult, so you may want to move quickly before his condition deteriorates, especially if he refuses to seek medical evaluation and help.

[Post New]09/05/2018 09:15
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Anonymous
I am really glad to hear that you're sticking to your guns and not going back. His behavior is abusive and it WILL NOT get better. No one should have to live like that, OP.
[Post New]09/05/2018 09:19
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Anonymous
Friends neighbor does this to his KIDS. Honestly he’s videotaping his 8-12 year old girls and their friends who come for sleepovers. He reviews the tapes after sleepovers with his girls ‘to tell them what they did wrong’. !!!
I’d get out now - who cares how much money Mr Crazy Controlling has? Don’t have kids with him.
[Post New]09/05/2018 09:20
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to him on the phone last night. There are 8 cameras all together. Nothing got resolved, so I’m not going back.


That has to be illegal in some way too. I mean, you aren’t consenting to being videotaped so how is that legal?
[Post New]09/05/2018 10:00
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to him on the phone last night. There are 8 cameras all together. Nothing got resolved, so I’m not going back.


That has to be illegal in some way too. I mean, you aren’t consenting to being videotaped so how is that legal?


Depends on where she is. In some states, you only need one person's consent.
[Post New]09/05/2018 10:24
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to him on the phone last night. There are 8 cameras all together. Nothing got resolved, so I’m not going back.

Good. Move on.


+1000. Staying with him just cannot end well. He sounds mentally ill, controlling and ready to abuse you once he gets you fully under his control.
[Post New]09/05/2018 10:31
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Anonymous
Eww so creepy. OP, please don’t go back alone to get you things. See a divorce lawyer now. This will not get resolved. Even if it does, he has shown you who he is and it is SCARY!
[Post New]09/05/2018 10:47
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He obviously suspects you are cheating.

I say teach him a lesson by giving him exactly what he so clearly expects/wants to see. Go to Ashley Madison or Craig's List whatever, and find a bunch of different guys to hook up with, one in front of each and every camera you can find, (including the exterior ones if you can get away with it without getting the cops called on you), finishing each "act" with your middle finger extended directly at the lens.
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