33 and Still Single..

[Anonymous]

I’m a 33yo single female. I want to get married/have a family, but starting to feel it’s not in the cards for me. I have a good career, great with kids, and fairly attractive. I have met the right one, and I don’t want to rush into something just to have a family. I’m starting to feel like I may be destined to be alone.

[Anonymous]

At 33? You’re fine. Don’t rush it or you’ll end up in an unhappy relationship, where you’ve settled

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 33? You’re fine. Don’t rush it or you’ll end up in an unhappy relationship, where you’ve settled

Completely agree.

—someone who settled at 29 and divorced at 34 (but it was the best thing that ever happened to me)

[Anonymous]

Same here. 33 isn't young so I am worried

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 33? You’re fine. Don’t rush it or you’ll end up in an unhappy relationship, where you’ve settled

Completely agree.

—someone who settled at 29 and divorced at 34 (but it was the best thing that ever happened to me)

I have had 4 girlfriends in the past year follow this same pattern. They're doing really well and much, much happier.

[Anonymous]

Well Op, I feel differently. You need to make it happen. You should "rush it", or you should get out

[Anonymous]

You should know within a few months if you want to marry someone. No more 2 year relationship hoping people will change. I have way to many 40 year old female Co workers who wasted time on relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should know within a few months if you want to marry someone. No more 2 year relationship hoping people will change. I have way to many 40 year old female Co workers who wasted time on relationships

+1 Yep.

Most of the single women I know your age wasted tons of time on the wrong men. And if you want to speed things along, no living together before an engagement, either. (Politically incorrect to say, but it is not wrong)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should know within a few months if you want to marry someone. No more 2 year relationship hoping people will change. I have way to many 40 year old female Co workers who wasted time on relationships

+1 Yep.

Most of the single women I know your age wasted tons of time on the wrong men. And if you want to speed things along, no living together before an engagement, either. (Politically incorrect to say, but it is not wrong)

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 33yo single female. I want to get married/have a family, but starting to feel it’s not in the cards for me. I have a good career, great with kids, and fairly attractive. I have met the right one, and I don’t want to rush into something just to have a family. I’m starting to feel like I may be destined to be alone.

How many guys have you turned down for dates in the last five years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Most of the single women I know your age wasted tons of time on the wrong men. And if you want to speed things along, no living together before an engagement, either. (Politically incorrect to say, but it is not wrong)

Most of the single women I know her age wasted tons of time turning down great guys in pursuit of the man with the perfect resume or perfect income or perfect whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should know within a few months if you want to marry someone. No more 2 year relationship hoping people will change. I have way to many 40 year old female Co workers who wasted time on relationships

+1

It is not panic or give up time, but you do need to get a move on if this is your goal. As one who fooled around for too many years, and pretended that I was 25 when I was really 35, I have some advice for you:

-- As above, you cannot date men indefinitely at this point. You need to find out early on what their dating goals are and cut your losses before you invest too much time in men who are just in it for the fun.

-- You have to start working at meeting men. People who tell you to "just relax" or "you'll meet someone when you least expect it" are wrong. That is great advice when you're in college. It's terrible advice post 30. You have to work at it at this point.

-- It's still a numbers game. Make an effort to meet a lot of men. Let people know you are looking. Use dating services. Go to church. Be proactive!

You can do this OP. There are many success stories here.... I married at 40 and went on to have two kids. I would never recommend this route initially but count my blessings every day that it worked out.

[Anonymous]

And if you want to speed things along, no living together before an engagement, either. (Politically incorrect to say, but it is not wrong)

You lie you lie you lie. I’ll be damned if I propose (again) without an x month trial. I got married a year after we moved in together; fantastic decision to rent together.

If the woman pulled any BS like rationing her time, pulling that Rules nonsense, she would get kicked to the curb.

[Anonymous]

[flash]

Anonymous wrote:

And if you want to speed things along, no living together before an engagement, either. (Politically incorrect to say, but it is not wrong)

You lie you lie you lie. I’ll be damned if I propose (again) without an x month trial. I got married a year after we moved in together; fantastic decision to rent together.

If the woman pulled any BS like rationing her time, pulling that Rules nonsense, she would get kicked to the curb.

What in the world are you so angry about?

Keep busy, OP, and go on as many dates as you can. You never know. See getting out and about as a job.

[Anonymous]

Too late for you