33 and Still Single..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At 33? You’re fine. Don’t rush it or you’ll end up in an unhappy relationship, where you’ve settled

Completely agree.

—someone who settled at 29 and divorced at 34 (but it was the best thing that ever happened to me)

Do you mean the relationship, or the divorce?

The divorce. I am so much better off having split from my XH than resigning myself to a boring life with the wrong guy who was “good on paper” but we were roommates at home and not much more. I feel like I truly got to know myself having taken a year or so to live alone and not date during the separation and finalization of things. I know myself. I know what I want and what I won’t put up with. Thank God I didn’t have kids just because it would have been the next logical step and easier than starting over with someone new.

Your comment is sad because it’s obvious you have no clue how self absorbed and immature you sound. Marriage is hard work and most people ARE boring after you’ve spent years being married to them. You’ll most likely end up alone because there’s no perfect relationship. If you do remarry you’ll find out that a few years into the marriage you’re in the same place that you were with your ex.

She doesn’t sound self absorbed or immature at all, just sounds like she licked a poor match from the beginning. You sound very Focus on Family ish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you won't have children but that doesn't mean you won't get married to the right person.

I never found Mr. Right, but I did adopt a newborn in my 40s.

Then I didn’t need Mr. Right.

Don’t give up on the baby front. Plenty of time.

No there is not “plenty of time.” We need to stop lying to women in that way. Your route doesn’t appeal to everyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you won't have children but that doesn't mean you won't get married to the right person.

I never found Mr. Right, but I did adopt a newborn in my 40s.

Then I didn’t need Mr. Right.

Don’t give up on the baby front. Plenty of time.

No there is not “plenty of time.” We need to stop lying to women in that way. Your route doesn’t appeal to everyone

+1

You are not doomed OP but you do have to be realistic. Do your best to get to a happy medium where you’re not freaking out and desperate yet aware of time and the necessity to be realistic about who you’ll end up with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you won't have children but that doesn't mean you won't get married to the right person.

I never found Mr. Right, but I did adopt a newborn in my 40s.

Then I didn’t need Mr. Right.

Don’t give up on the baby front. Plenty of time.

No there is not “plenty of time.” We need to stop lying to women in that way. Your route doesn’t appeal to everyone

She could have 10 years to have a baby. You don’t know. We need to stop freaking women out that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you won't have children but that doesn't mean you won't get married to the right person.

I never found Mr. Right, but I did adopt a newborn in my 40s.

Then I didn’t need Mr. Right.

Don’t give up on the baby front. Plenty of time.

Thank you for this reminder! We put so much pressure on women to find a man and have babies and freak them out about the clock so they end up with a crap man forever connected with a child. You don’t need a man to be a mother. So many kids need a home. Don’t wait for a man most aren’t worth it,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you won't have children but that doesn't mean you won't get married to the right person.

I never found Mr. Right, but I did adopt a newborn in my 40s.

Then I didn’t need Mr. Right.

Don’t give up on the baby front. Plenty of time.

Thank you for this reminder! We put so much pressure on women to find a man and have babies and freak them out about the clock so they end up with a crap man forever connected with a child. You don’t need a man to be a mother. So many kids need a home. Don’t wait for a man most aren’t worth it,

Thus Spake Cat Lady