Anyone’s child get pregnant during college?

[Anonymous]

Mine is scheduled to return to campus in 2 weeks for her junior year but just told us she’s 5 weeks pregnant.

[Anonymous]

How about father a child while in college?

[Anonymous]

My brother got his girlfriend pregnant between junior and senior year. They lived in an apartment and finished out their college together.

They eventually married and my niece is the best person on the face of the earth... speaks 4 languages, is unbelievable and I love her with all my heart.

[Anonymous]

What does she want to do?

Small consolation, but at least she trusted you enough to tell you as soon as she found out.

Hugs.

[Anonymous]

My friend did while a sophomore. She dropped out, lived at home to stay close during the pregnancy, attended a local college for an associates degree. Eventually married the guy and had 2 more kids. She did ok from a professional perspective (paralegal rather than the attorney she wanted to be), but marrying that guy was the worst mistake of her life. Every month we meet up and always mentions that she wants a do over in the husband category. I expect her to divorce when the youngest goes to college.

All this to say - support your dd. Don’t pressure her to marry the guy simply because he’s the dad. Life’s to short to marry for the wrong reasons.

[Anonymous]

I would encourage your daughter to meet with a counselor to explore adoption or parenting. Her college may have resources to help her. Belmont Abbey College has a special dormitory for parenting students and accepts students from other colleges.
http://belmontabbeycollege.edu/about/miravia/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would encourage your daughter to meet with a counselor to explore adoption or parenting. Her college may have resources to help her. Belmont Abbey College has a special dormitory for parenting students and accepts students from other colleges.
http://belmontabbeycollege.edu/about/miravia/

First, OP should ask her daughter whether daughter would like to continue the pregnancy. And support whatever decision is made.

[Anonymous]

Sending good thoughts your way. Does she want to have the baby, keep the baby? Is she seriously involved with the father? She could go back to school for the fall semester and then take a semester off in the spring and the baby would be 5 or 6 months old before she went back the next fall. Her school may have some kind of assistance or child care center for young parents, or she could live at home and transfer. If she’s already halfway through college it would be best if she could finish.

[Anonymous]

I did. Had an abortion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did. Had an abortion.

+1. It was a good decision for me.

[Anonymous]

OP here. She will not abort. Right now she wants to do the fall semester and then reevaluate...I do worry about the idea she’ll take time off and then never go back...adoption is still on the table too though.

The father goes to a different school 1200 miles away (they met at an internship) and they were never together.

[Anonymous]

I have two friends that got pregnant and had children while in college. In both cases, they took off one semester and came back to school with a baby.

One married her boyfriend and they got an apartment off campus and scheduled classes so they could trade-off on child care. You would see them meeting between classes to hand off the stroller.

The other was a single mom with a lot of help from friends and on-campus childcare. Lots of college girls, including me, were more than willing to babysit!

Both of my friends had families that were supportive, financially and emotionally. It was hard- academically, physically, and socially- but people can do hard things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother got his girlfriend pregnant between junior and senior year. They lived in an apartment and finished out their college together.

They eventually married and my niece is the best person on the face of the earth... speaks 4 languages, is unbelievable and I love her with all my heart.

This happened to a friend of ours in college. I think they had not been dating long.

They did the same thing. Had an amazing little girl. Last I heard they are still happily married, some 25 years and a couple of kids later.

[Anonymous]

I would assist her in getting to a counselor and a compassionate OB soon.

If she intends to have the baby, she needs to notify the father.

What are her and your finances like? Spending the cash for her to go away to college seems short-sighted if she's going to become a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would encourage your daughter to meet with a counselor to explore adoption or parenting. Her college may have resources to help her. Belmont Abbey College has a special dormitory for parenting students and accepts students from other colleges.
http://belmontabbeycollege.edu/about/miravia/

It's 2018, haven't we moved past the notion that pregnant girls must be sent away somewhere to have their babies?