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Anonymous wrote:To the ones coming on here to criticize a player for leaving a team—what is wrong with you??? Do you need to be told this is supposed to be competitive travel lacrosse? No one should have to tell you that players have the right to try out for other teams and move on. Stop being whiny babies about it because it just sounds like jealously that your kid didn’t get the same chance. Grow up.


Absolutely, they have a right to leave if that’s what’s best for them. But they should also keep in mind that the players they spent the last few years carpooling with, playing with, and generally sharing a huge experience with won’t have exactly the same friendship. That’s fine, just recognize you are stepping away from close relationships with the old team and hopefully to ones with the new team.


Omg, this isn't personal. It's club lacrosse.


We’re talking about a group activity for 12 year old girls and you’re saying it’s not personal? You may be positioning your kid for the best college recruiting experience but my daughter, who is not on a top team, is mostly doing this to spend time with her friends outside of school. If one of her friends left her team she would spend a lot less time with her, I’m sure she would still be kind but it’s not the same.


Your DD is doing it for the friendships but you can’t impose the same goals and priorities onto others. Of course the time they spend together will be different, but if she truly values the friendships, as you say, then the relationship should endure beyond the team. If the relationship is conditional to being on the same team, then it wasn’t based on anything real to begin with.


You’ve missed my point. Most of us have had various close friends at different points of our lives based on spending an intense amount of time together. For kids like my daughter this is one of those experiences. She’s going to be kind to anyone leaving her team but the intense friendships will pretty naturally be with those she spends a lot of time with, and I hope for anyone going to a new team they make those new big friendships as well. Seems like a natural change when you move to a new group.
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I’m sorry your kid is such a special snowflake. Go join a rec team!

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Anonymous wrote:To the ones coming on here to criticize a player for leaving a team—what is wrong with you??? Do you need to be told this is supposed to be competitive travel lacrosse? No one should have to tell you that players have the right to try out for other teams and move on. Stop being whiny babies about it because it just sounds like jealously that your kid didn’t get the same chance. Grow up.


Absolutely, they have a right to leave if that’s what’s best for them. But they should also keep in mind that the players they spent the last few years carpooling with, playing with, and generally sharing a huge experience with won’t have exactly the same friendship. That’s fine, just recognize you are stepping away from close relationships with the old team and hopefully to ones with the new team.


Omg, this isn't personal. It's club lacrosse.


We’re talking about a group activity for 12 year old girls and you’re saying it’s not personal? You may be positioning your kid for the best college recruiting experience but my daughter, who is not on a top team, is mostly doing this to spend time with her friends outside of school. If one of her friends left her team she would spend a lot less time with her, I’m sure she would still be kind but it’s not the same.


Your DD is doing it for the friendships but you can’t impose the same goals and priorities onto others. Of course the time they spend together will be different, but if she truly values the friendships, as you say, then the relationship should endure beyond the team. If the relationship is conditional to being on the same team, then it wasn’t based on anything real to begin with.


You’ve missed my point. Most of us have had various close friends at different points of our lives based on spending an intense amount of time together. For kids like my daughter this is one of those experiences. She’s going to be kind to anyone leaving her team but the intense friendships will pretty naturally be with those she spends a lot of time with, and I hope for anyone going to a new team they make those new big friendships as well. Seems like a natural change when you move to a new group.
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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry your kid is such a special snowflake. Go join a rec team!

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Anonymous wrote:To the ones coming on here to criticize a player for leaving a team—what is wrong with you??? Do you need to be told this is supposed to be competitive travel lacrosse? No one should have to tell you that players have the right to try out for other teams and move on. Stop being whiny babies about it because it just sounds like jealously that your kid didn’t get the same chance. Grow up.


Absolutely, they have a right to leave if that’s what’s best for them. But they should also keep in mind that the players they spent the last few years carpooling with, playing with, and generally sharing a huge experience with won’t have exactly the same friendship. That’s fine, just recognize you are stepping away from close relationships with the old team and hopefully to ones with the new team.


Omg, this isn't personal. It's club lacrosse.


We’re talking about a group activity for 12 year old girls and you’re saying it’s not personal? You may be positioning your kid for the best college recruiting experience but my daughter, who is not on a top team, is mostly doing this to spend time with her friends outside of school. If one of her friends left her team she would spend a lot less time with her, I’m sure she would still be kind but it’s not the same.


Your DD is doing it for the friendships but you can’t impose the same goals and priorities onto others. Of course the time they spend together will be different, but if she truly values the friendships, as you say, then the relationship should endure beyond the team. If the relationship is conditional to being on the same team, then it wasn’t based on anything real to begin with.


You’ve missed my point. Most of us have had various close friends at different points of our lives based on spending an intense amount of time together. For kids like my daughter this is one of those experiences. She’s going to be kind to anyone leaving her team but the intense friendships will pretty naturally be with those she spends a lot of time with, and I hope for anyone going to a new team they make those new big friendships as well. Seems like a natural change when you move to a new group.


Best of luck to your daughter on her new team, I hope she makes lots of new friends.
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Anonymous wrote:To the ones coming on here to criticize a player for leaving a team—what is wrong with you??? Do you need to be told this is supposed to be competitive travel lacrosse? No one should have to tell you that players have the right to try out for other teams and move on. Stop being whiny babies about it because it just sounds like jealously that your kid didn’t get the same chance. Grow up.


Absolutely, they have a right to leave if that’s what’s best for them. But they should also keep in mind that the players they spent the last few years carpooling with, playing with, and generally sharing a huge experience with won’t have exactly the same friendship. That’s fine, just recognize you are stepping away from close relationships with the old team and hopefully to ones with the new team.


Omg, this isn't personal. It's club lacrosse.


We’re talking about a group activity for 12 year old girls and you’re saying it’s not personal? You may be positioning your kid for the best college recruiting experience but my daughter, who is not on a top team, is mostly doing this to spend time with her friends outside of school. If one of her friends left her team she would spend a lot less time with her, I’m sure she would still be kind but it’s not the same.


Your DD is doing it for the friendships but you can’t impose the same goals and priorities onto others. Of course the time they spend together will be different, but if she truly values the friendships, as you say, then the relationship should endure beyond the team. If the relationship is conditional to being on the same team, then it wasn’t based on anything real to begin with.


You’ve missed my point. Most of us have had various close friends at different points of our lives based on spending an intense amount of time together. For kids like my daughter this is one of those experiences. She’s going to be kind to anyone leaving her team but the intense friendships will pretty naturally be with those she spends a lot of time with, and I hope for anyone going to a new team they make those new big friendships as well. Seems like a natural change when you move to a new group.


Look, I get that at this age being in close proximity certainly helps kids to maintain relationships. But it’s very common and natural for kids to come and go year to year. It’s all a part of the experience and, frankly, life in general. But I've found with my older girls that many of these girl stay in touch if there was a friendship there to begin with, even when their adult parents are acting bitter and immature about a family’s choice to stay or go.
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Anonymous wrote:My money’s on BLC. YJMA parents have no illusions there are just a few girls carrying the rest of the team.


And there best player just left. Hence the drama.


No drama really.
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Is this YJ or BLC?
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Anonymous wrote:My money’s on BLC. YJMA parents have no illusions there are just a few girls carrying the rest of the team.


And there best player just left. Hence the drama.


No drama really.


Just a lot of whining
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Anonymous wrote:Has any team posted their rosters yet?


Mnd updated theirs
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Anonymous wrote:Is this YJ or BLC?


YJ.
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Anonymous wrote:Is this YJ or BLC?


YJ.


I don’t think so, there is no one superstar on YJ and no hard feelings about the one player leaving or three joining.
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So all this is for the BLC girl that left, who may or may not be their best player?
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Anonymous wrote:So all this is for the BLC girl that left, who may or may not be their best player?


There is a family who are former teammates who likes to stir things up on here, I don’t think there are actual hard feelings from almost anyone from any team. Don’t believe everything you read on an anonymous message board.
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Anonymous wrote:Is this YJ or BLC?


YJ.


I don’t think so, there is no one superstar on YJ and no hard feelings about the one player leaving or three joining.


Always felt like YJ was two top girls with maybe two others a tier behind. Sounds like one of those top two left.
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This whole thread is a load of BS. Both the girls leaving BLC and YJ are at SR, along with several other girls from both teams. They will all still see each other - and play on the school team - all the time. No one is losing any friends because a couple girls are going to alternative travel teams. Good grief.

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Anonymous wrote:So all this is for the BLC girl that left, who may or may not be their best player?


There is a family who are former teammates who likes to stir things up on here, I don’t think there are actual hard feelings from almost anyone from any team. Don’t believe everything you read on an anonymous message board.
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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is a load of BS. Both the girls leaving BLC and YJ are at SR, along with several other girls from both teams. They will all still see each other - and play on the school team - all the time. No one is losing any friends because a couple girls are going to alternative travel teams. Good grief.

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Anonymous wrote:So all this is for the BLC girl that left, who may or may not be their best player?


There is a family who are former teammates who likes to stir things up on here, I don’t think there are actual hard feelings from almost anyone from any team. Don’t believe everything you read on an anonymous message board.


If that’s true it sounds like SR should be pretty solid for this age group
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