Other Man or Woman, Do You Ever Feel Guilt or Remorse

[Anonymous]

It obviously takes two to tango. But do the Other Man or Woman ever feel guilt or remorse for contributing to the breakup of a marriage, particularly one with children?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

No, because your husband is wealthy and my ticket to a better life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It obviously takes two to tango. But do the Other Man or Woman ever feel guilt or remorse for contributing to the breakup of a marriage, particularly one with children?

Why are you putting a lower value on marriages without children. Are they not worth as much to you? Are they not real marriages worthy of fighting for too? Honestly, does it matter. What about second marriages that don't have children?

[Anonymous]

The destruction factor multiplies when the family is larger. Instead of sabotaging one or two lives, you sabotage three or more directly. It isn’t to say other marriages aren’t valuable, but there is an additional human impacted that matters, forever. Usually the kids get the worst outcome.

[Anonymous]

Sure. Sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The destruction factor multiplies when the family is larger. Instead of sabotaging one or two lives, you sabotage three or more directly. It isn’t to say other marriages aren’t valuable, but there is an additional human impacted that matters, forever. Usually the kids get the worst outcome.

I agree that adults are better prepared emotionally, and in terms of maturity, to deal with the effects and repercussions of a spouse cheating and leaving the marriage for an affair partner. In that sense alone it is not that the OP undervalues marriages without children, it is simply that the impact on marriages with children actually does impact more people, and often because they are young people, it impacts them in much more negative ways.

[Anonymous]

Only if she gets caught. Otherwise, no guilt. I did cause her to cheat and I'm not responsible for what happens in her marriage that caused her to seek sex with another man. That's all on him.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only if she gets caught. Otherwise, no guilt. I did cause her to cheat and I'm not responsible for what happens in her marriage that caused her to seek sex with another man. That's all on him.

Right. Only if the married AP becomes your problem. Which is the worst.

[Anonymous]

To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

Wow sounds like you got screwed. How could you not know he was married? I would be pissed too. Luckily I sleep with openly married men who proclaim they are happy but just want/need sex. No remorse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

Wow sounds like you got screwed. How could you not know he was married? I would be pissed too. Luckily I sleep with openly married men who proclaim they are happy but just want/need sex. No remorse.

You might regret the potential lead poisoning.