Other Man or Woman, Do You Ever Feel Guilt or Remorse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

Wow sounds like you got screwed. How could you not know he was married? I would be pissed too. Luckily I sleep with openly married men who proclaim they are happy but just want/need sex. No remorse.

You might regret the potential lead poisoning.

I didn't give up the goodies right away . Wife lived out of the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

Wow sounds like you got screwed. How could you not know he was married? I would be pissed too. Luckily I sleep with openly married men who proclaim they are happy but just want/need sex. No remorse.

You might regret the potential lead poisoning.

What does that even mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

Wow sounds like you got screwed. How could you not know he was married? I would be pissed too. Luckily I sleep with openly married men who proclaim they are happy but just want/need sex. No remorse.

You might regret the potential lead poisoning.

What does that even mean?

You can tell what a woman is thinking from her hands. For instance, if she is holding a gun, she is angry.

[Anonymous]

My AP doesn't have children, so not really, no.

[Anonymous]

I don't think so. My ex cheated with a coworker. Both of them divorced, so there are now two broken homes for five children under the age of 10.

They are still together, and I assume happy. I don't know.... I limit all my communication with him to just about the children. I've heard from family and friends that he continues to blame me for his affair... at first he was saying that we just grew apart, then I worked too much, at some point he was saying that I didn't make him a better person, and 2 years out he is telling people that I was emotionally odd that the longer we have been divorced, the worse e portrays me to others.

So no. I don't imagine there is any remorse there. I think all the energy is spent on justifying what they know deep down was immoral and unjustifiable.

[Anonymous]

No I hope she cries herself to sleep at night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

Wow sounds like you got screwed. How could you not know he was married? I would be pissed too. Luckily I sleep with openly married men who proclaim they are happy but just want/need sex. No remorse.

Do you have very low self esteem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

Wow sounds like you got screwed. How could you not know he was married? I would be pissed too. Luckily I sleep with openly married men who proclaim they are happy but just want/need sex. No remorse.

Do you have very low self esteem?

No, why should she? The blame is on your husband who cheated, not the other woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

+1
This is spot on - I was the other woman

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, No.

Most married men lie through their teeth to get single women to sleep with them. I cannot speak on married men sleeping with other married women. They know they are at a disadvantage, so they court, hunt and do whatever is necessary to attract your attention. They want you to respond positively, so they are sweet, generous, and loving. They also are better lovers because they put their "all" into it. That is why their wives will notice the new clothes, the focus on fitness, and the renewed spark. They are dating again, and do a much better job than most single men. They are predators, the perpetual cheaters that is, and they do not have time to waste "beating around the bush" with you--they want you.

There is no guilt or remorse after finding out a man is married, you are too busy trying to reconstruct your life after the hurt and anger. Your feelings were real, genuine, and honest, maybe his were too, but you are mad at his deception.

You do wonder, wonder why someone cannot see the obvious signs of his cheating, why would he stay in a marriage that doesn't fulfill him, why can't he put the same energy into solving his marital problems instead of this.

Guilt and remorse. No.

+1
This is spot on - I was the other woman

Pissed, betrayed, and frustrated. Yes.

Suckers with low self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Why do people assume people who cheat have low self esteem. Tiger woods cheated like crazy - do you think he had love self esteem? Some people cheat because they have big egos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people assume people who cheat have low self esteem. Tiger woods cheated like crazy - do you think he had love self esteem? Some people cheat because they have big egos.

Because the cheated-on have to tell themselves something to feel better.

[Anonymous]

I had no remorse at the time, and in retrospect I still have none. I think its because we were never caught, so no harm no foul. Had we been caught and broken homes ensued, I would imagine tremendous remorse.

[Anonymous]

I texted the other woman five times begging her to please be the strong one to put an end to my husband's ongoing affair with her, after he had refused to do so himself. I told the other woman how much I loved my DH, mentioned our children by name, explained how much they loved their dad, and told her that their affair was hurting all of the children, especially our preteen daughter.

I praised the other woman for the intelligence, success, and goodness DH said she possesses, and I asked her to please consider how someone who has so many good things going for them in their own life could possibly take away everything that truly matters from another woman, and particularly from children, who have so little by comparison.

The other woman never responded to my sad and pathetic pleas (and I of course recognize how degrading and debasing this exercise was, but I was willing to do that to save our marriage), and she and DH continued their affair. The other woman did find time to express her irritation at my texts to DH, and he in turn was angry at me for bothering her.

So I suppose the answer is no, the other woman felt neither guilt nor any remorse over destroying our happy family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I texted the other woman five times begging her to please be the strong one to put an end to my husband's ongoing affair with her, after he had refused to do so himself. I told the other woman how much I loved my DH, mentioned our children by name, explained how much they loved their dad, and told her that their affair was hurting all of the children, especially our preteen daughter.

I praised the other woman for the intelligence, success, and goodness DH said she possesses, and I asked her to please consider how someone who has so many good things going for them in their own life could possibly take away everything that truly matters from another woman, and particularly from children, who have so little by comparison.

The other woman never responded to my sad and pathetic pleas (and I of course recognize how degrading and debasing this exercise was, but I was willing to do that to save our marriage), and she and DH continued their affair. The other woman did find time to express her irritation at my texts to DH, and he in turn was angry at me for bothering her.

So I suppose the answer is no, the other woman felt neither guilt nor any remorse over destroying our happy family.

Please get therapy. You will heal.