Men and emotional connectedness

[Anonymous]

Ok I have a question, my DH is not super emotional as I think many men are not. I'm trying to figure out how to stay emotionally connected to him. Ladies what do you do specifically or ask of your spouse to feel that connection?

[Anonymous]

Sex.

[Anonymous]

Give him plenty sex and he'll feel an emotional connection to you. Easy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give him plenty sex and he'll feel an emotional connection to you. Easy!

It's just sex? What about talking or feelings?

[Anonymous]

I think he feels emotionally connected to me when we do things together. Cook, hike, sing, play sports, go to concerts, etc.

[Anonymous]

Listen to him! Really sincerely and then don’t try and fix him.

[Anonymous]

Sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he feels emotionally connected to me when we do things together. Cook, hike, sing, play sports, go to concerts, etc.

This. Add in just talking. DH is able to sort out work issues by talking things through with me. We talk about everything from silly stuff to deep things. DH isnt super emotional (then again neither am I) but we have a great emotional connection

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give him plenty sex and he'll feel an emotional connection to you. Easy!

It's just sex? What about talking or feelings?

He only has feelings and wants to talk after we have sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Listen to him! Really sincerely and then don’t try and fix him.

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Make him feel heard and respected (don't try to change him). Make him feel desired and loved (through enthusiastic sex). That's it.

[Anonymous]

Sex for him. Talking for you.

[Anonymous]

I don't buy it that men are "less emotional" or "only have feelings" after sex.

They have feelings all the time. But are socially conditioned not to talk about them as openly as women. There are very specific contexts in which they are "allowed" to be open, and after sex is one. Anger is one.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I are very different, but there are a handful of shows we like watching together and we really enjoy road trips. We feel most connected when doing those things. Pick some things you both like and do them together.

[Anonymous]

Yes, sex is important for both sexes. Men aren’t robot orgasm sex fiends. Be the person in his life who truly listens, provides her perspective on any matter and knows when to let him chill.

And just get over the small stuff... he may never replace the TP and continue to pile large pizza boxes on top of an overflowing trash can or whatever it is that drives you nuts.

Hug him and be a catalyst for his sensitive side. Men typically have a hard time dealing with emotions that females easily navigate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, sex is important for both sexes. Men aren’t robot orgasm sex fiends. Be the person in his life who truly listens, provides her perspective on any matter and knows when to let him chill.

And just get over the small stuff... he may never replace the TP and continue to pile large pizza boxes on top of an overflowing trash can or whatever it is that drives you nuts.

Hug him and be a catalyst for his sensitive side. Men typically have a hard time dealing with emotions that females easily navigate.

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