Why do women no-show on dates?

[Anonymous]

I'd love to hear the inane justification for this behavior. Why confirm earlier in the day that you're still on for later than night? I mean, why even answer?

[Anonymous]

Single women with lots of options are self centered and inconsiderate

[Anonymous]

They saw you and secretly left.

[Anonymous]

Women no show and flake way more than men because men are a lot more interested in the interactions that lead up to sex than women are in general

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women no show and flake way more than men because men are a lot more interested in the interactions that lead up to sex than women are in general

Well, duh. The point is why can't they have the dignity to not even set up date? When someone asks "are we still on for tonight?" Don't say yes.

Why is this so hard for you?

[Anonymous]

Women who no show are rude. To act like this is something all attractive women do or have done regularly is too much, this behavior is not common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women who no show are rude. To act like this is something all attractive women do or have done regularly is too much, this behavior is not common.

Thank you, and you're right, it's not common, it's the first time it has happened to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women no show and flake way more than men because men are a lot more interested in the interactions that lead up to sex than women are in general

Well, duh. The point is why can't they have the dignity to not even set up date? When someone asks "are we still on for tonight?" Don't say yes.

Why is this so hard for you?

I think you are addressing a man who was trying to throw out a "women are sexless" barb. Why are you so defensive and angry? If women are no-showing you often then something is up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women no show and flake way more than men because men are a lot more interested in the interactions that lead up to sex than women are in general

Well, duh. The point is why can't they have the dignity to not even set up date? When someone asks "are we still on for tonight?" Don't say yes.

Why is this so hard for you?

I'm the PP you are replying to and I have no idea why women are this rude. I understand the fact that men are more interested in the first date than women are in general though.

The stupidest poster in this thread is the one who called you/OP a misogynist and implied that men no show just as much (they don't).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women who no show are rude. To act like this is something all attractive women do or have done regularly is too much, this behavior is not common.

Thank you, and you're right, it's not common, it's the first time it has happened to me.

I'm sorry, that really does suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women who no show are rude. To act like this is something all attractive women do or have done regularly is too much, this behavior is not common.

Thank you, and you're right, it's not common, it's the first time it has happened to me.

Sorry to hear that. I’m a woman and I’ve never no-showed, although men have done it to me. I think some people just have poor social skills and don’t like conflict, so it’s easier to not show up than to turn someone down. That, or she’s in a coma in the hospital.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women who no show are rude. To act like this is something all attractive women do or have done regularly is too much, this behavior is not common.

Thank you, and you're right, it's not common, it's the first time it has happened to me.

Sorry to hear that. I’m a woman and I’ve never no-showed, although men have done it to me. I think some people just have poor social skills and don’t like conflict, so it’s easier to not show up than to turn someone down. That, or she’s in a coma in the hospital.

Thanks, but why say yes when asked if the date was still on? If I get no response, then I don't waste my time showing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t think OP was implying only women do. I think he was asking why women would do it, since their reasons may be different from men.

Men do no-show for dates, but it is much rarer when a man does it compared to women.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry. This has never happened to me nor have I ever been a no-show, and I’ve been on a LOT of dates. I say that so you’re aware that it’s uncommon and hopefully a one-time thing.

[Anonymous]

I think sometimes women do it because we're trained to be people pleasers and to not say no. So, they really didn't want to go on the date, but didn't feel empowered to say no, but just really really didn't want to go so they no showed instead of just being direct in the first place.

Other women may have had good intentions when they accepted then heard something about you they didn't like, or a friend said something about you snarky or something daft like that so they decided not to go.

Others have a terrible sense of direction and may have gone to the wrong place or gotten lost. Others may have gotten the time wrong.

Women as a group tend to have good intuition, so they may have gone to the meeting place and something felt off to them so they left.

There are as many reasons as there are women.