Why do women no-show on dates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think sometimes women do it because we're trained to be people pleasers and to not say no. So, they really didn't want to go on the date, but didn't feel empowered to say no, but just really really didn't want to go so they no showed instead of just being direct in the first place.

Other women may have had good intentions when they accepted then heard something about you they didn't like, or a friend said something about you snarky or something daft like that so they decided not to go.

Others have a terrible sense of direction and may have gone to the wrong place or gotten lost. Others may have gotten the time wrong.

Women as a group tend to have good intuition, so they may have gone to the meeting place and something felt off to them so they left.

There are as many reasons as there are women.

Fair enough

[Anonymous]

I agree with the above PP.

I once cancelled a date because he picked a restaurant in a very busy part of town on a Friday night. I mean the steets were packed, there was people everywhere and I’m not into crowds. After half an hour I couldn’t find parking and he was texting me, asking where I was. I just called him point blank and said I couldn’t find parking and wasn’t going to be able to come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think sometimes women do it because we're trained to be people pleasers and to not say no. So, they really didn't want to go on the date, but didn't feel empowered to say no, but just really really didn't want to go so they no showed instead of just being direct in the first place.

Other women may have had good intentions when they accepted then heard something about you they didn't like, or a friend said something about you snarky or something daft like that so they decided not to go.

Others have a terrible sense of direction and may have gone to the wrong place or gotten lost. Others may have gotten the time wrong.

Women as a group tend to have good intuition, so they may have gone to the meeting place and something felt off to them so they left.

There are as many reasons as there are women.

Fair enough

NP : I still don’t get why it’s beyond them to communicate their intentions beforehand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think sometimes women do it because we're trained to be people pleasers and to not say no. So, they really didn't want to go on the date, but didn't feel empowered to say no, but just really really didn't want to go so they no showed instead of just being direct in the first place.

Other women may have had good intentions when they accepted then heard something about you they didn't like, or a friend said something about you snarky or something daft like that so they decided not to go.

Others have a terrible sense of direction and may have gone to the wrong place or gotten lost. Others may have gotten the time wrong.

Women as a group tend to have good intuition, so they may have gone to the meeting place and something felt off to them so they left.

There are as many reasons as there are women.

Fair enough

NP : I still don’t get why it’s beyond them to communicate their intentions beforehand.

because if your spidey senses are tingling, you don't want to alert the serial killer or stalker that you think he's a serial killer or stalker! Survival 101

[Anonymous]

I don't know, OP. I could never do that to someone, it's rude and a little cruel.

[Anonymous]

Woman here. Have never done it but have had it done to me. It's rude either way.

[Anonymous]

The OP is asking about a no-show, no contact type of rude behavior. Not one where she has genuine difficulty keeping the date and let's him know.

The only correct move in this instance is to ignore her (she has already put you on ignore) and move on with no further contact. Better she shows her true colors now than after a wasted date. This really is better for you.

There are plenty more woman to date. For whatever reason, you didn't hit it off with this one and she was too childish to let you know politely decline the date. Don't dwell on it or wonder why. It happens. Happens to women too.

[Anonymous]

I only did it once - after emailing with a guy who mentioned his dog, and telling him that unfortunately, I was allergic, he showed up for our date at an outdoor café with the dog in tow. I was so irritated that I walked by without going in and circled around to my car.

[Anonymous]

It’s female privilege. Our society allows women to get away with behavior that would have a man arrested. Women really do not care about the littles...that is anyone they think is beneath them. This is why there are some many mean girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here. Have never done it but have had it done to me. It's rude either way.

Totally. Guy who has been on a couple of blind dates where the women were not my type but I stayed and we had a nice time chatting and evening out. If a woman is going to take her time to dress up and meet me, the least I could do is show up. Not sure how it works on the woman's side, though.

[Anonymous]

Three times now I've been told at the last minute by three different women that "they have a plumbing leak in their kitchen and the plumber is coming tonight to fix it." Always a kitchen leak, always a plumber coming at 6 or 7pm on a Friday night.

If any of those women had me as a boyfriend they'd learn that I have plumbing skills, I have a snake, and I can sweat a pipe better than most.

What I resent is wasting my time on someone who has not intention of meeting, and setting aside a scarce Friday night for someone who had no intention of meeting me.

[Anonymous]

They dug up dirt on the internet. Don’t want to tell you they aren’t interested anymore because you will get all defensive. If they no show you are pissed and don’t want to deal with them, win win for woman.

[Anonymous]

That woman reported my post for calling her a sexless hag and got it removed

Ha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They dug up dirt on the internet. Don’t want to tell you they aren’t interested anymore because you will get all defensive. If they no show you are pissed and don’t want to deal with them, win win for woman.

Then why not just ghost instead of sending something back? Ghosting isn't great, but at least you don't have to be an a'hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They dug up your non-World-Bank-executive zip code on the internet. Don’t want to tell you they aren’t interested anymore because you will get all defensive. If they no show you are pissed and don’t want to deal with them, win win for woman.

Fixed it.