Met the love of my life in 2nd grade

[Anonymous]

first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Gross. Disengage and get therapy, or get a divorce. Your poor wife.

[Anonymous]

I thought OP was going to say "Now, we are in 3rd grade, still in love."

[Anonymous]

Messed up!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

[Anonymous]

Omg. Seek help. Seriously. There is no chance she is the love of your life. You have made it up in your head. And probably ruined your real marriage in the process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg. Seek help. Seriously. There is no chance she is the love of your life. You have made it up in your head. And probably ruined your real marriage in the process.

+1

[Anonymous]

You should get a divorce. I think you're kind of crazy but if you've really been into this girl for like 35 years than just do it. But realize that you have SERIOUSLY romanticized her and real life is never as pretty as a fantasy. But seriously you should let your wife go find someone that isn't comparing her to some lifelong childhood fantasy.

[Anonymous]

It would be better to divorce and admit that you made a mistake. Or at least tell your wife about your true love and see if she wants to continue raising your child in the same home with you. Given the state of your marriage, she might be willing to have an open marriage and may like to see someone else herself.

[Anonymous]

You don't actually know this person you claim to be "the love of your life". She's a fantasy you've constructed that your wife can never live up to because she's a real, flawed person, not someone you've built up in your head.

People change a lot between school and adulthood, and a sexy encounter and some texts don't make this woman your soulmate. If you leave your wife for her, I'm betting after a decade, a kid or two, and a life of everyday drudgery, you'll be thinking you made a terrible mistake and escaping into yet another fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't actually know this person you claim to be "the love of your life". She's a fantasy you've constructed that your wife can never live up to because she's a real, flawed person, not someone you've built up in your head.

People change a lot between school and adulthood, and a sexy encounter and some texts don't make this woman your soulmate. If you leave your wife for her, I'm betting after a decade, a kid or two, and a life of everyday drudgery, you'll be thinking you made a terrible mistake and escaping into yet another fantasy.

+1

[Anonymous]

Did she get divorced because of her feelings for you? Are you sure she is as obsessed with you as you are with her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

But my poor wife doesn't touch me, it's as if the second she got pregnant, anything intimate with us went away. That was over 12 years ago if you follow the timeline back to when my son was conceived. I do stuff with my son all the time, she doesn't come along. She does stuff with her friends, she works part time and that is her money to do with as she pleases. I pay all the bills, take care of everything. My wife has it made compared to others out there.

Gross. Disengage and get therapy, or get a divorce. Your poor wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

I will not physically cheat, ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought OP was going to say "Now, we are in 3rd grade, still in love."

I peg him for a fifth grader, that’s the maturity level of this post.