Met the love of my life in 2nd grade

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Gross. Disengage and get therapy, or get a divorce. Your poor wife.

But my poor wife doesn't touch me, it's as if the second she got pregnant, anything intimate with us went away. That was over 12 years ago if you follow the timeline back to when my son was conceived. I do stuff with my son all the time, she doesn't come along. She does stuff with her friends, she works part time and that is her money to do with as she pleases. I pay all the bills, take care of everything. My wife has it made compared to others out there.

Nah, this is on you. Plus, you already said you didn't even want to marry your wife *on your wedding day.*

You are cray cray. Your wife probably picks up on this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

I will not physically cheat, ever.

You have already cheated/are cheating. You're having an emotional affair and you've been physical with her - you yourself state you came close to having sex. So don't even try to stand on that moral leg, because it's gone. And even the physical encounter aside... if your wife read all your texts, would she be ok with this "friendship"? I'm thinking she'd be running for the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did she get divorced because of her feelings for you? Are you sure she is as obsessed with you as you are with her?

No, she didn't even know how I felt when she was getting divorced. I told her 2 years after her divorce. When I found out she was getting divorced I cut all ties with her because it was too tempting knowing she was available. That lasted 6 months and I missed her desperately. When I told her how I felt about her she told me that she cared for me too. She is everything I have ever wanted. I was like a lost puppy all throughout middle school, high school and kept in touch during college years and have still kept in touch. There must be a reason why. She is in my heart, my head. I try and try and I can't get her out. When I cut off communication because I know this is unhealthy I go into a deep depression. My wife even notices and has made comments about snapping out of it.

She is my life long fantasy dream fate whatever you call it. I know it's her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

I will not physically cheat, ever.

You have already cheated/are cheating. You're having an emotional affair and you've been physical with her - you yourself state you came close to having sex. So don't even try to stand on that moral leg, because it's gone. And even the physical encounter aside... if your wife read all your texts, would she be ok with this "friendship"? I'm thinking she'd be running for the door.

We didn't have sex. We just kissed and touched.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I thought OP was going to say "Now, we are in 3rd grade, still in love."

I peg him for a fifth grader, that’s the maturity level of this post.

I'm 45 and depressed about the life I could have had

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

I will not physically cheat, ever.

You have already cheated/are cheating. You're having an emotional affair and you've been physical with her - you yourself state you came close to having sex. So don't even try to stand on that moral leg, because it's gone. And even the physical encounter aside... if your wife read all your texts, would she be ok with this "friendship"? I'm thinking she'd be running for the door.

We didn't have sex. We just kissed and touched.

Wonder if your wife would give you a pass since you didn't actually have sex. This is stupid. You are having an affair. Just get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

I will not physically cheat, ever.

You have already cheated/are cheating. You're having an emotional affair and you've been physical with her - you yourself state you came close to having sex. So don't even try to stand on that moral leg, because it's gone. And even the physical encounter aside... if your wife read all your texts, would she be ok with this "friendship"? I'm thinking she'd be running for the door.

We didn't have sex. We just kissed and touched.

You are a troll right?

If not, have you been tested for profound intellectual disabilities?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

I will not physically cheat, ever.

You have already cheated/are cheating. You're having an emotional affair and you've been physical with her - you yourself state you came close to having sex. So don't even try to stand on that moral leg, because it's gone. And even the physical encounter aside... if your wife read all your texts, would she be ok with this "friendship"? I'm thinking she'd be running for the door.

We didn't have sex. We just kissed and touched.

Wonder if your wife would give you a pass since you didn't actually have sex. This is stupid. You are having an affair. Just get a divorce.

I haven't even seen her since that night 2 years ago, and before that it had been over 15 years. That's not an affair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

I will not physically cheat, ever.

You have already cheated/are cheating. You're having an emotional affair and you've been physical with her - you yourself state you came close to having sex. So don't even try to stand on that moral leg, because it's gone. And even the physical encounter aside... if your wife read all your texts, would she be ok with this "friendship"? I'm thinking she'd be running for the door.

We didn't have sex. We just kissed and touched.

Wonder if your wife would give you a pass since you didn't actually have sex. This is stupid. You are having an affair. Just get a divorce.

I haven't even seen her since that night 2 years ago, and before that it had been over 15 years. That's not an affair.

But you think about her every day? Of course it's an affair. Why do you even want to stay married to your wife?

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound narcissistic. Only a narcissist would construct this fantasy romance and also believe that his long-suffering wife is better off being married to him. Why in the world did you get married? Let me guess— because everyone expected it, you had invited a lot of guests, you were the center of attention...

I feel truly sorry for your wife. You are living in a bad romance novel and she’s unaware. She’s living a false marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did she get divorced because of her feelings for you? Are you sure she is as obsessed with you as you are with her?

No, she didn't even know how I felt when she was getting divorced. I told her 2 years after her divorce. When I found out she was getting divorced I cut all ties with her because it was too tempting knowing she was available. That lasted 6 months and I missed her desperately. When I told her how I felt about her she told me that she cared for me too. She is everything I have ever wanted. I was like a lost puppy all throughout middle school, high school and kept in touch during college years and have still kept in touch. There must be a reason why. She is in my heart, my head. I try and try and I can't get her out. When I cut off communication because I know this is unhealthy I go into a deep depression. My wife even notices and has made comments about snapping out of it.

She is my life long fantasy dream fate whatever you call it. I know it's her.

You are obsessed with her. She cares for you, a friend she has known since 2nd grade. Do you realize that you are not even on the same level in emotions?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:first time poster on here, but need to get stuff off my chest. I met the love of my life in 2nd grade. She has been on my mind every single day since then. Every. Single. Day.
I never had enough courage to be anything more than a good friend with her. Fast forward and we are both in our mid 40's now. She was married, is divorced (for 4 years). I'm still married.

I think about her everyday. Everyday. All day. She is the one.

My wife and I are room mates. We haven't been intimate in over 10 years. Neither of us wants to, we sleep in separate rooms or the couch most nights. I never should have married her. On our wedding day, it wasn't her I saw walking down the aisle. We have 1 child, 6th grade. I can't be that divorced family. I can't. My parents stayed together, both have passed away. Both loved the one. Both knew how I felt about the one. We live about 5 hours away from each other. We text daily. I wouldn't want my wife to see some of the texts. I help her with things I can do from here, screen shots on how to fix something, advice, sexts, you name it. We met up 2 years ago when she was in town for work and had dinner. I finally told her how I felt and ended up spending the night at her hotel. Wife thought I was working an overnight shift. We didn't have sex, but it was close. I couldn't do it. My heart and body wanted to, but my brain told me it was morally wrong. She knows how I feel about her and says she feels the same. I struggle every single day.

Yes you can. Way better to Divorce than be the guy you are being now. No one will be scandalized if you divorce, but if you have any affair with the Lloyd of your life from second grade, well, folks will think you have a screw loose. Just divorce and live your life and let your wife live hers.

I will not physically cheat, ever.

You have already cheated/are cheating. You're having an emotional affair and you've been physical with her - you yourself state you came close to having sex. So don't even try to stand on that moral leg, because it's gone. And even the physical encounter aside... if your wife read all your texts, would she be ok with this "friendship"? I'm thinking she'd be running for the door.

We didn't have sex. We just kissed and touched.

Wonder if your wife would give you a pass since you didn't actually have sex. This is stupid. You are having an affair. Just get a divorce.

I haven't even seen her since that night 2 years ago, and before that it had been over 15 years. That's not an affair.

But you think about her every day? Of course it's an affair. Why do you even want to stay married to your wife?[/quote] I think about my son and my job and my house everyday too, that's not an affair. I do not want to get divorced for my child. And my wife caused me to start feeling this way when she stopped touching me 12 years ago when I gave her a child. She is 9 years older than me and thought she wasn't going to get married or have a child. So, don't feel sorry for my wife that gets to do whatever she wants. She is a hair dresser working 16 hours a week. She has someone come and clean the house every week. She doesn't have to lift a finger. She goes to yoga, the gym, girls lunches, spa whenever she wants.

[Anonymous]

OP, I believe you. But I don't understand why you never tried anything especially when you were still in school together.

[Anonymous]

OP make up your mind. Did you regret marrying your wife from the first day or after you stopped being intimate?

You are either totally detached from reality or a troll.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you told your wife you made out with someone else and text her intimately on a daily basis, you're saying she'd be fine with it and still think you were being loyal? And if the situation was reversed, you wouldn't think she cheated? I call BS. You can tell yourself whatever you need to, but you're not any different from the other cheaters who post on this board.