Realtor personality
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Anonymous
| DH is not the most friendly or social person but we have a realtor who we are working with. I don't know if it's her, the houses/experience of buying our first home but he is acting so chatty/friendly with her. I'm kind of annoyed! Of course she is laughing at everything he is saying, responding to everything he asks, etc...Meanwhile sometimes I'm managing our kid/kids during the showings. |
Anonymous
| Agent here. I am old and attractive enough but not great. Husbands always like me because we talk more on a business level. Most wives talk about their kids and complain. |
Anonymous
 This is it right here. Oh well. I guess it's just how it is.
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Anonymous
| Realtors are extra out going, chatty most of the time. I always have men coming up me to talk with or ask questions- not to hit on me each time (sometimes just for directions, airplane talk, ask for genuine gift ideas, etc, - even with my husband in the vicinity; I just look approachable. I think men Are easier to talk to too. |
Anonymous
| Many realtors are very chatty. It’s up to you to reign in your husband if you don’t want to be stuck with the kids. The realtor of course sucks up to you both but it seems he’s the one asking all the questions. Tell your DH to swap roles with you next time. He attends to the kids during the showing. |
Anonymous
+1 Say something to DH. Some realtors are stupid enough to believe that either the men have the money or that the men control the money. |
Anonymous
| I’m an anti-social introvert and loved our real estate agent. She helped us buy our new house and sell our old house. She was a woman but instantly made me feel comfortable. Don’t look too much into this. |
Anonymous
| My DH is like that. He is talkative with strangers but not with me. Go figure. |
Anonymous
Well I didn't mean to be rude to the realtor but today after seeing two houses he was about to go down the chatty path and discuss all the features with the realtor before we had even discussed any of it. I shut it down and said, " We can discuss it later and make our decision". Am I wrong here? We are seeing these homes and then the personal comparing and decision making process should be between the 2 of us! He wants to chat about it with the realtor before we have even had an opportunity ! |
Anonymous
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OP, you sound a bit unhinged.
You should be glad that your husband is engaging in the process! |
Anonymous
| He is letting the realtor know his opinion. You should do that too. It isn’t her home. She won’t care if you don’t like it but your feedback will help her narrow your search. Why didn’t you join in the convo? If managing your child is so distracting is there anyone else who can babysit while you househunt? |
Anonymous
I did that ALL the time with our realtor. But my husband just doesn't share much. So I shared all my thoughts with the realtor (but for me, it's not out of character. I talk more with almost everyone we encounter because my husband is super introverted.) But my husband better not complain about it unless he's willing to discuss it with me as much as the realtor did. I don't know about "wrong," but I don't think it was smart for you to shut your husband down. The more you both can discuss with your realtor, the better. One, you should get her feedback, because she has seen a lot more houses than you have. Second, it's good for her to know what your reactions are, because it helps her narrow down better houses to show you in the future. There is no need to be secretive about it. She's like a therapist, she's on your side. She's even legally obligated to be on your side. The more she knows about your true feelings about a place, the better. And afterwards, you and your husband can discuss things in more depth And you can also discuss the realtor's input more freely. Sometimes I found our realtor's partner's input really annoying, when she was the one showing us houses, and I could discuss with my husband the way I thought she was trying to herd us toward a certain type of house, etc. OP, you should take a good look at why this bothers you so much. Buying a house is a really important decision. Getting annoyed just because your husband wants to talk about the houses with your realtor (whose job is to talk about houses with her clients) is a sign that there is something deeper going on. If you can't figure out what that is and move past it to allow your husband to express himself freely, then you need to be honest with him and try to find a different realtor. Or is it that you feel they are excluding you? Do they listen to your opinions? If not, that also means you should have a talk with your husband, and if things don't change, find a new realtor. |
Anonymous
| This sounds like a bit of jealousy on your part, OP. Do you think he’s flirting with her? I highly doubt he would do this right in front of you. But if he is, tell him to stop & include you a bit more in the conversation. He’s probably just excited about the home buying process and has a lot to say. And you should chime in when you can & have him watch your child more while you’re there. |
Anonymous
Yes, you were wrong. You need to discuss your thoughts with the realtor when you are in the house. You need to also do this and you can’t focus with the kids. We took ours to see two houses with the realtor but after that went when they were at school or hired a sitter. This is a big decision and it was too hard to concentrate while managing our young children. We would see s house, discuss with the realtor then if we were serious tell her that we would discuss further on our own and get back to her. Their input is important. There were houses we were considering where the realtor pointed out major issues and told us we could do better if we were patient. |
Anonymous
+1 to all of this. |