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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH is like that. He is talkative with strangers but not with me. Go figure.[/quote]

Well I didn't mean to be rude to the realtor but today after seeing two houses he was about to go down the chatty path and discuss all the features with the realtor before we had even discussed any of it. I shut it down and said, " We can discuss it later and make our decision". Am I wrong here? We are seeing these homes and then the personal comparing and decision making process should be between the 2 of us! He wants to chat about it with the realtor before we have even had an opportunity ! [/quote]

I did that ALL the time with our realtor. But my husband just doesn't share much. So I shared all my thoughts with the realtor (but for me, it's not out of character. I talk more with almost everyone we encounter because my husband is super introverted.) But my husband better not complain about it unless he's willing to discuss it with me as much as the realtor did.

I don't know about "wrong," but I don't think it was smart for you to shut your husband down. The more you both can discuss with your realtor, the better. One, you should get her feedback, because she has seen a lot more houses than you have. Second, it's good for her to know what your reactions are, because it helps her narrow down better houses to show you in the future. There is no need to be secretive about it. She's like a therapist, she's on your side. She's even legally obligated to be on your side. The more she knows about your true feelings about a place, the better. And afterwards, you and your husband can discuss things in more depth And you can also discuss the realtor's input more freely. Sometimes I found our realtor's partner's input really annoying, when she was the one showing us houses, and I could discuss with my husband the way I thought she was trying to herd us toward a certain type of house, etc.  OP, you should take a good look at why this bothers you so much. Buying a house is a really important decision. Getting annoyed just because your husband wants to talk about the houses with your realtor (whose job is to talk about houses with her clients) is a sign that there is something deeper going on. If you can't figure out what that is and move past it to allow your husband to express himself freely, then you need to be honest with him and try to find a different realtor. Or is it that you feel they are excluding you? Do they listen to your opinions? If not, that also means you should have a talk with your husband, and if things don't change, find a new realtor. [/quote]

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