which one would you do? flying, driving, bridal shower, mother's day conundrum

[Anonymous]

I have a bridal shower in my hometown in May. Shower is the day before mother's day.

1. I could fly up by myself: leave Friday, fly home after the shower Saturday. I'll be home with my husband and sons on Sunday for mother's day. Leave the kids (age 2.5 and 15 months) with my husband. Will cost about $270 and that's a big expense for us.

2. We all drive to my hometown (6 hour drive). Cons are that we all sleep very poorly there, and driving 6 hours with my boys isn't really fun. We would celebrate mother's day there with my mom and us. Pros are that it won't cost $270.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t you drive up by yourself? Yeah, it’s a long drive, but doable, and then you don’t have to drag your kids and save the $270.

[Anonymous]

I would skip the shower unless it’s for your sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you drive up by yourself? Yeah, it’s a long drive, but doable, and then you don’t have to drag your kids and save the $270.

+1

But I would run the numbers to see what gas, tolls, wear & tear on the car, and the per-driving-hour toll on your sanity would cost as compared to $270.

[Anonymous]

I have to go to the shower.

I cannot drive myself and show up without my boys. I could fly: “oh, it’s just me flying up!” And then I don’t have to bring them. But if I drive, they might as well be with me.

[Anonymous]

Option 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to go to the shower.

I cannot drive myself and show up without my boys. I could fly: “oh, it’s just me flying up!” And then I don’t have to bring them. But if I drive, they might as well be with me.

I don’t quite understand this - it’s not like they’re invited to the bridal shower, right? - but okay. I’d fly then. By the time you factor in gas, etc. there won’t be much of a differential.

[Anonymous]

Skip the shower unless it's a sister or a cousin who is practically like a sister. Why do you "have" to go?

[Anonymous]

Is mother's day important to you for some reason? I'd just celebrate that another weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Skip the shower unless it's a sister or a cousin who is practically like a sister. Why do you "have" to go?

This exactly. People who live 6 hours away aren't usually expected at showers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to go to the shower.

I cannot drive myself and show up without my boys. I could fly: “oh, it’s just me flying up!” And then I don’t have to bring them. But if I drive, they might as well be with me.

I don’t quite understand this - it’s not like they’re invited to the bridal shower, right? - but okay. I’d fly then. By the time you factor in gas, etc. there won’t be much of a differential.

They would stay and visit with my parents and my mom would be delighted if they come (although she’s coming to us 2x in May anyway).

Is it rude to leave Saturday and not spend mother’s day with her?

[Anonymous]

It’s annoying to schedule a shower on mother’s day wknd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Skip the shower unless it's a sister or a cousin who is practically like a sister. Why do you "have" to go?

This exactly. People who live 6 hours away aren't usually expected at showers.

It wasn’t a question of going. I am going, I want to go, I’m excited to go. Just trying to figure out how to get there.

[Anonymous]

I'd go with the kids because then you've visited and won't have to go back for a while. I HATE staying at relatives houses with my kids that age unless they have 2 guest rooms for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s annoying to schedule a shower on mother’s day wknd

YES. Don’t even get me started. Definitely annoyed with this.