which one would you do? flying, driving, bridal shower, mother's day conundrum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd go with the kids because then you've visited and won't have to go back for a while. I HATE staying at relatives houses with my kids that age unless they have 2 guest rooms for us.

Thought of this, but we are definitely going back in August for the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Our moms act like Mother's Day is all about them so we have to visit them and spend time with them. Idk it's a big deal with both our moms I feel they don't spend Mother's Day with my babies. Regardless of the whatever I'd want to do.

[Anonymous]

Don't take the kids. Fly. Enjoy your weekend alone.

[Anonymous]

People who don't factor in the cost of their time spent doing something baffles me. Is it because I'm in a profession that bills based on the time I spend doing my job? Is that it? It's just second nature to me.

Spending 12 hours in a car + gas + tolls + wear & tear + any maintenance that needs to be done prior to the drive = more than $270 IMO.

Fly! No brainer. You could even push your flight back so that you can do a mother's day breakfast with your mom.

[Anonymous]

While my work time has a monetary value, my free time does not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who don't factor in the cost of their time spent doing something baffles me. Is it because I'm in a profession that bills based on the time I spend doing my job? Is that it? It's just second nature to me.

Spending 12 hours in a car + gas + tolls + wear & tear + any maintenance that needs to be done prior to the drive = more than $270 IMO.

Fly! No brainer. You could even push your flight back so that you can do a mother's day breakfast with your mom.

This! Time and the exhaustion of the drive do matter. Fly. I like the idea of returning on the Sunday after seeing your own mom. That would also give you a whole day and evening to have a grown-ups only visit with your family/friends. That is a luxury you can give yourself for Mother's Day--and you'd still see your kids ON Mother's Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While my work time has a monetary value, my free time does not.

So free time is priceless...a good reason to spend it actually with people and doing things, rather than spending it in a car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While my work time has a monetary value, my free time does not.

So free time is priceless...a good reason to spend it actually with people and doing things, rather than spending it in a car.

Listen its a 6 hour drive. How much time are you really saving? So its like...DC to Boston, except a little less if its a true 6 hours.

So you leave your house at 8 am. Arrive at airport for your 10:00am flight at 8:45. Check in. Get on the airplane. Take off a little delayed at 10:20. Arrive at 11:30. Off the airplane and out of the airport by noon. At your location by 12:30-1 instead of 2pm. You have saved yourself 60-90 minutes in travel and had to deal with public transportation and don't have a car.

But OP if you don't want to deal with your kids I'd fly. I know exactly what you mean by that my mom would be really annoying if I drove in without the kids because its like, you drove and you wouldn't have paid for their tickets. My mom would be annoyed if I left early but I would also want to.

[Anonymous]

All that matters is the $270. If you don't want to go at all, you don't have to. Don't go. I probably wouldn't go at all - - not with kids that age unless you needed some time away for yourself, and that to you, was worth $270.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to go to the shower.

I cannot drive myself and show up without my boys. I could fly: “oh, it’s just me flying up!” And then I don’t have to bring them. But if I drive, they might as well be with me.

I don’t quite understand this - it’s not like they’re invited to the bridal shower, right? - but okay. I’d fly then. By the time you factor in gas, etc. there won’t be much of a differential.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Stay home and allow your DH and DC to treat you.

[Anonymous]

It’s just mother’s day ffs. If flying is too expensive, then drive. Take your kids if you want, don’t if you don’t want.

Do you normally have trouble with executive functioning?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is mother's day important to you for some reason? I'd just celebrate that another weekend.

+1. Option one. Your kids are young and this isn't your first Mothers day

[Anonymous]

I'd fly and then spend Sunday with mom. But mother's day isn't a big deal to me and I know it would mean a lot to my mom to have me spend time with her.

[Anonymous]

Fly