which one would you do? flying, driving, bridal shower, mother's day conundrum

[Anonymous]

F this baby shower noise, tell DH you’re flying to baby shower and fly to Miami for a ladies weekend with friends instead. Do what YOU want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:F this baby shower noise, tell DH you’re flying to baby shower and fly to Miami for a ladies weekend with friends instead. Do what YOU want.

Are you posting on the right thread? OP's already said she WANTS to go to the BRIDAL shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:F this baby shower noise, tell DH you’re flying to baby shower and fly to Miami for a ladies weekend with friends instead. Do what YOU want.

Are you posting on the right thread? OP's already said she WANTS to go to the BRIDAL shower.

I love how people are continuing to tell her not to go, because it’s a little far and she has young kids. Newsflash: some people WANT to be there to support their friends/family and will make it work even if it’s a bit expensive or inconvenient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s just mother’s day ffs. If flying is too expensive, then drive. Take your kids if you want, don’t if you don’t want.

Do you normally have trouble with executive functioning?

You again. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:F this baby shower noise, tell DH you’re flying to baby shower and fly to Miami for a ladies weekend with friends instead. Do what YOU want.

Are you posting on the right thread? OP's already said she WANTS to go to the BRIDAL shower.

I love how people are continuing to tell her not to go, because it’s a little far and she has young kids. Newsflash: some people WANT to be there to support their friends/family and will make it work even if it’s a bit expensive or inconvenient.

Thanks. I really do want to go! It’ll be beautiful and special.

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone.

I “enjoy” DCUM for this purpose: gathering info from random people on what they would do.

$270 is a lot of money but driving with 2 kids and staying at my moms house is a PITA. But then I’ll “miss” mother’s Day with my own kids and my mom will miss seeing the kids.

[Anonymous]

I'd drive by myself. Flying is such a hassle most of the time and in my experience more likely to have delays when flying than when driving. I like the freedom of driving (not bound by airlines' schedules, primarily). I wouldn't take your kids because that's just too much trouble with kids those ages unless this is family you don't see often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd drive by myself. Flying is such a hassle most of the time and in my experience more likely to have delays when flying than when driving. I like the freedom of driving (not bound by airlines' schedules, primarily). I wouldn't take your kids because that's just too much trouble with kids those ages unless this is family you don't see often.

It doesn’t make sense for me to drive myself. If I’m driving, I don’t really have an excuse to not bring them. If I chose to fly, it’s my “out” for not bringing the kids. I know it could take longer overall and it is expensive, but I would be alone and that in and of itself would be nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd drive by myself. Flying is such a hassle most of the time and in my experience more likely to have delays when flying than when driving. I like the freedom of driving (not bound by airlines' schedules, primarily). I wouldn't take your kids because that's just too much trouble with kids those ages unless this is family you don't see often.

It doesn’t make sense for me to drive myself. If I’m driving, I don’t really have an excuse to not bring them. If I chose to fly, it’s my “out” for not bringing the kids. I know it could take longer overall and it is expensive, but I would be alone and that in and of itself would be nice.

This makes NO sense. You do not need an excuse to travel alone.

[Anonymous]

You must value your own time at $0, because you’ve spent at least $270 worth of time heming and hawing about this with strangers.

[Anonymous]

In your shoes I would go by myself (using either transportation method) and spend a nice Mother’s Day with my mom. I would make it a beautiful day for the two of us where I tell her how much I love her and what have learned from her and let her give me all kinds of mothering tips and do what mothers do. Tell her how much children love her and are so excited to celebrate with her when she comes to visit you all in May. My mom would eat that up and enjoy having rare alone adult time with me. Then I would go home and celebrate the following weekend with my husband and kids because in the end Mother’s Day is letting them celebrate you regardless of what calendar day that happens. It irks me when people assign more value to the specific date then to the actual sentimental reason behind the celebration. Any day can be Mothers Day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd drive by myself. Flying is such a hassle most of the time and in my experience more likely to have delays when flying than when driving. I like the freedom of driving (not bound by airlines' schedules, primarily). I wouldn't take your kids because that's just too much trouble with kids those ages unless this is family you don't see often.

It doesn’t make sense for me to drive myself. If I’m driving, I don’t really have an excuse to not bring them. If I chose to fly, it’s my “out” for not bringing the kids. I know it could take longer overall and it is expensive, but I would be alone and that in and of itself would be nice.

This makes NO sense. You do not need an excuse to travel alone.

Must be nice to have parents that don't hassle you about this kind of thing!

[Anonymous]

You don’t need an out to drive solo...you have tiny kids and a six hour drive. That’s your out.

[Anonymous]

Fly by yourself, spend Sunday morning with your mom. Definitely seems worth $270 to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is mother's day important to you for some reason? I'd just celebrate that another weekend.

+1 Mother's Day happens every year & can easily be celebrated a week early or a week late. The bridal shower is a one time event that is only happening on that specific date. Unless you can't take the time off from work or you are a SAHM & your husband can't take time off of work & there is absolutely nobody else who could watch your kids the extra day (s) while he is at work, why not go alone for a long weekend (3 or 4 days)?That would really make either the cost of the plane ticket seem more worth it.You would have extra time to spend with your own mom (& any other family or friends that live nearby) while you are there & could celebrate an early or belated Mother's Day with your DH & kids the weekend before or after without having to deal with kids who are tired from not sleeping well the night before or having to worry making the long trip home afterwards.