I don’t care for my brother’s girlfriend
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Anonymous
| No question, just want somewhere to vent. My brother introduced me to his new girlfriend yesterday. She’s older than him, divorced, and has a child. I wanted to give her a chance because he really cares for her, but she has no personality. I tried to make conversation with her and she kept giving me one word responses. Other times, she would sit and stare. I swear she never got up from her seat until they left. I asked my brother about her and he said she’s shy. I find it weird that someone damn near 40 is that “shy”. He could’ve done better! |
Anonymous
| Maybe her brother warned her that you were judgmental and mean-spirited, and she got nervous when she saw that you live up to his description. |
Anonymous
| Have you only met her the one time? Perhaps on the second meeting she'll open up more. If she's shy, she was probably really nervous meeting her boyfriend's family. How was she with her kid? |
Anonymous
| It doesn't sound like she likes you either. |
Anonymous
| How old is your brother? |
Anonymous
| I am 42 and like her. It's called an introvert. Stop making rash judgments about people without getting to know them. |
Anonymous
Although I might have phrased this more kindly I agree w/ the basic thought. Try to be gracious OP. |
Anonymous
| Luckily whether you like her or not means nothing! Whew, glad we solved that. |
Anonymous
| Man. Hard to please. Who cares what their brother's girlfriend is like? You're not dating her or trying to be her best friend. I wouldn't speak to you either if I knew every action and work I spoke was going to be judged. |
Anonymous
Her kid wasn’t there. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
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Op, give her a break. It’s really hard to be introduced to your partners family. It can feel intimidating. I’m very shy myself and tend to talk too much when I’m nervous, I’m sure if she was overly chatty you would be complaining about that too.
Be nice, try to engage in conversation and do what you can to help her feel comfortable amongst strangers. Base your opinion off her from how happy she makes your brother, not your personal judgements after meeting her for all of an hour. |
Anonymous
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Give her another chance. You may like her better, even f you don't you only have to see her at family gatherings.
Though I must say as a shy person and introvert I do try to be personable when meeting people such as SO family members. |
Anonymous
| Read up on introverts. You might learn something, like how to give people a bit of space and room to open up. |
Anonymous
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What a nasty judgemental person you are, OP. |