I don’t care for my brother’s girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No question, just want somewhere to vent. My brother introduced me to his new girlfriend yesterday. She’s older than him, divorced, and has a child. I wanted to give her a chance because he really cares for her, but she has no personality. I tried to make conversation with her and she kept giving me one word responses. Other times, she would sit and stare. I swear she never got up from her seat until they left. I asked my brother about her and he said she’s shy. I find it weird that someone damn near 40 is that “shy”. He could’ve done better!

Sorry but, she isn't dating you. She is dating your brother and obviously he likes her. So, you can vent but, know that you can push your bro away if you don't mind your own business!

[Anonymous]

I hear you OP. Painfully shy people are, well painful, to try to get to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No question, just want somewhere to vent. My brother introduced me to his new girlfriend yesterday. She’s older than him, divorced, and has a child. I wanted to give her a chance because he really cares for her, but she has no personality. I tried to make conversation with her and she kept giving me one word responses. Other times, she would sit and stare. I swear she never got up from her seat until they left. I asked my brother about her and he said she’s shy. I find it weird that someone damn near 40 is that “shy”. He could’ve done better!

Sorry but, she isn't dating you. She is dating your brother and obviously he likes her. So, you can vent but, know that you can push your bro away if you don't mind your own business!

The last thing I want to do is push him away. I’m like a mother to him (our mom passed when he was a teenager) so I tend to be a little overprotective of him. I just don’t want to see him with the wrong woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No question, just want somewhere to vent. My brother introduced me to his new girlfriend yesterday. She’s older than him, divorced, and has a child. I wanted to give her a chance because he really cares for her, but she has no personality. I tried to make conversation with her and she kept giving me one word responses. Other times, she would sit and stare. I swear she never got up from her seat until they left. I asked my brother about her and he said she’s shy. I find it weird that someone damn near 40 is that “shy”. He could’ve done better!

Sorry but, she isn't dating you. She is dating your brother and obviously he likes her. So, you can vent but, know that you can push your bro away if you don't mind your own business!

The last thing I want to do is push him away. I’m like a mother to him (our mom passed when he was a teenager) so I tend to be a little overprotective of him. I just don’t want to see him with the wrong woman.

When you find something actually wrong with her, let us know. Being a single mom isn't "wrong." Being shy and reserved isn't "wrong." Being older than him isn't "wrong." Being divorced isn't "wrong." Sitting--literally sitting is one of the "flaws" you pointed out; you know you sound insane, right?--isn't "wrong."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I hear you OP. Painfully shy people are, well painful, to try to get to know.

I agree. I’m not use to people that are that shy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 42 and like her. It's called an introvert. Stop making rash judgments about people without getting to know them.

The behavior OP describes really isn't what introversion is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No question, just want somewhere to vent. My brother introduced me to his new girlfriend yesterday. She’s older than him, divorced, and has a child. I wanted to give her a chance because he really cares for her, but she has no personality. I tried to make conversation with her and she kept giving me one word responses. Other times, she would sit and stare. I swear she never got up from her seat until they left. I asked my brother about her and he said she’s shy. I find it weird that someone damn near 40 is that “shy”. He could’ve done better!

Sorry but, she isn't dating you. She is dating your brother and obviously he likes her. So, you can vent but, know that you can push your bro away if you don't mind your own business!

The last thing I want to do is push him away. I’m like a mother to him (our mom passed when he was a teenager) so I tend to be a little overprotective of him. I just don’t want to see him with the wrong woman.

You are not his mother, however close you are or what you did for him you are not his mother. Even if you were his mother you don't get to pick his wife. You don't get to determine this. Your brother and your brother alone gets to determine who is right and who is wrong for him. You better accept this quickly or you risk ruining if not losing your relationship with your brother.

[Anonymous]

You're not dating her. Just be polite and respectful. If a friendship naturally forms, that's great. If not, that's okay too.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she just wanted to give you and your brother a chance to talk and not be all in your face and take over?

[Anonymous]

I hear you, OP, but there is not much you can do. Maybe they won't get married/have a child. He may find someone younger and childless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No question, just want somewhere to vent. My brother introduced me to his new girlfriend yesterday. She’s older than him, divorced, and has a child. I wanted to give her a chance because he really cares for her, but she has no personality. I tried to make conversation with her and she kept giving me one word responses. Other times, she would sit and stare. I swear she never got up from her seat until they left. I asked my brother about her and he said she’s shy. I find it weird that someone damn near 40 is that “shy”. He could’ve done better!

A lot of women have inflated views of their male siblings and unrealistic expectation of the kind of women they can land. Maybe younger, childless women weren't interested, and this is the best he could do.

[Anonymous]

It is none of your business, OP. You sound evil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is none of your business, OP. You sound evil.

How?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No question, just want somewhere to vent. My brother introduced me to his new girlfriend yesterday. She’s older than him, divorced, and has a child. I wanted to give her a chance because he really cares for her, but she has no personality. I tried to make conversation with her and she kept giving me one word responses. Other times, she would sit and stare. I swear she never got up from her seat until they left. I asked my brother about her and he said she’s shy. I find it weird that someone damn near 40 is that “shy”. He could’ve done better!

Sorry but, she isn't dating you. She is dating your brother and obviously he likes her. So, you can vent but, know that you can push your bro away if you don't mind your own business!

The last thing I want to do is push him away. I’m like a mother to him (our mom passed when he was a teenager) so I tend to be a little overprotective of him. I just don’t want to see him with the wrong woman.

When you find something actually wrong with her, let us know. Being a single mom isn't "wrong." Being shy and reserved isn't "wrong." Being older than him isn't "wrong." Being divorced isn't "wrong." Sitting--literally sitting is one of the "flaws" you pointed out; you know you sound insane, right?--isn't "wrong."

Yup. The woman was probably nervous, in addition to being shy, and here is OP complaining that she sat too much. You've met her once. Maybe try to refrain from judgment. The only thing that matters is that she treats your brother well and he is happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 42 and like her. It's called an introvert. Stop making rash judgments about people without getting to know them.

The behavior OP describes really isn't what introversion is.

+1 This is not necessarily introverted behavior.

She probably kept mum because your brother told her you’re a judgemental asshole.