I think we have been dropped from playgroup.

[Anonymous]

Since it is the spring break holidays, the mother who has a weekly playgroup one afternoon a week, switched to mornings, 10 to 12, even though she knows my DD naps at 11AM. The host mother texted me about the switch and I responded that we couldn't make it because of DD's nap and she just texted back that her daughter will miss my daughter. There are generally five to six kids, all around 2.5, who participate. I'd posted once before that I didn't think the host mother liked my DD (who is spirited and more active than the other kids including the boys). I guess I will wait to see if she moves playgroup back to the afternoons after this week but I really feel bad about this.

[Anonymous]

11 is a weird nap time for a 2.5 year old. Don't take it personally.

[Anonymous]

That is an usually early nap for a 2.5 year old, so I'm not surprised that a morning group works better for everyone else (whose kids probably nap well into the afternoon). I had a kid who took lousy naps at unusual times so I understand how frustrating it is, but I don't think it's personal.

[Anonymous]

Did she say it was just a one-time switch? If so, I wouldn't read as much into it.

Your daughter's nap is at a kind of odd time--most of the kids I know that age nap after lunch--so it might be that the morning is better for all the other kids. It's also possible that even if she didn't move the time to exclude you, accommodating you was not high on her list of priorities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:11 is a weird nap time for a 2.5 year old. Don't take it personally.

It's a really unusual time. And kids that age are usually at their best in the mornings, so a morning playground makes more sense.

[Anonymous]

1. The majority of kids at 2.5 nap after lunch, so that's probably why she moved it. And probably why it will stay unless they're all in morning preschool or something.

2. Someone rescheduled ONE time and your first thought is that you were dropped? Wow. It's not like she moved it and didn't tell you or claimed it was cancelled and had it without you.

[Anonymous]

Yep I think you were. I had a playgroup and we dropped one kid who hit everyone every time she was there, and one kid because we couldn't stand the mom. She meant well, but was a tough personality to take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:11 is a weird nap time for a 2.5 year old. Don't take it personally.

+1

[Anonymous]

I remember your post. Yes, you were dropped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. The majority of kids at 2.5 nap after lunch, so that's probably why she moved it. And probably why it will stay unless they're all in morning preschool or something.

2. Someone rescheduled ONE time and your first thought is that you were dropped? Wow. It's not like she moved it and didn't tell you or claimed it was cancelled and had it without you.

OP here. The host mother changed the play group for three weeks because (she said) her DD's music class was cancelled for three weeks of spring break. Just because your morning class was cancelled, why change the afternoon playgroup?

[Anonymous]

2.5 is about the time that many kids start to drop their nap or nap later. 11 am is a pretty early nap for a 2.5 year old. Why don't you just keep your child up later and go to the morning playgroup? I'd think that an afternoon playgroup would be harder for most people and that's why it changed vs. being personal about you.

If it really doesn't work for you, why not start your own playgroup?

I had the "spirited" kid too. It's hard. Sometimes the park is just better for kids that need to run. It's getting warmer now, and the park will be much more tolerable. Kids that age don't really need to "play" with other kids. They still parallel play. It's more for the moms.

[Anonymous]

Why would you have an afternoon playgroup for 2.5 year olds? Aren’t they napping? Or was it very late afternoon? All of the playgroups we participated in were in the morning. I think that it makes sense to do what is best for the majority.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you host OP? I think the parents of challenging kids should be to ones to step up to hosting duties anyway. The other mom is taking on the work of hosting, so of course she can change the time.

[Anonymous]

Why not just start your own afternoon playgroup OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2.5 is about the time that many kids start to drop their nap or nap later. 11 am is a pretty early nap for a 2.5 year old. Why don't you just keep your child up later and go to the morning playgroup? I'd think that an afternoon playgroup would be harder for most people and that's why it changed vs. being personal about you.

If it really doesn't work for you, why not start your own playgroup?

I had the "spirited" kid too. It's hard. Sometimes the park is just better for kids that need to run. It's getting warmer now, and the park will be much more tolerable. Kids that age don't really need to "play" with other kids. They still parallel play. It's more for the moms.

OP here. We don't have a yard (live in a condo) nor the room to host a playgroup. I do take DD to the park or an indoor playroom every day. DD is such a bad sleeper that I can't change her nap schedule without meltdowns. My DD asks to for the host DD every day.