Dating A Woman in 30’s
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Anonymous
| I started seeing a new woman in December that is still in school. At first it was fine, but it is taking a toll on me. We rarely see each other, and when we do, she is always too tired to do more than go to dinner and have sex. I love those things, but also want to do more with her. We both are looking for something serious, but I don’t know I how much more I can take. I am already accomplished and ready to settle down. I do like her a lot, but I think only seeing her 1-2 times a week is not enough to build anything serious. I feel like I am in a friends with benefits relationship, which is far from what I want at 35. |
Anonymous
| How old is she? |
Anonymous
About to turn 34. She is in her third year of law school. |
Anonymous
| FFS, she’s almost done. What, are you simply looking for a vessel to birth a child or something? |
Anonymous
I mean second. She is finishing up her second and will move into her third year soon. |
Anonymous
That was a mistake. She is in her second and has about 18 months left to go. |
Anonymous
Op here. I’m 35, have my own home, good career, sizeable savings, and I just turned 35. I am ready, and yes, eager to start sharing my life with someone and have start a family. She wants to wait until she is out of school. |
Anonymous
You obviously have no idea how difficult law school is. What she wants is completely reasonable. I think you should date someone else. |
Anonymous
I dunno, depending on what her career plans are it'd probably be a lot easier to do it now. BUT that's assuming she wants to have a baby with op |
Anonymous
| It sounds like the timing isn't right OP. You aren't in sync with your wants for a relationship right now. She's looking for a sexual release and a little companionship - you want a relationship that leads potentially to marriage and a family. You want two very different things right now given your differing life circumstances. |
Anonymous
| You think she's busy now, just wait until she's out of school and practicing. Do you have any idea how many hours she's going to have to put in per week? At least 80. Then she'll come home and have to work most nights. She will have a grueling schedule like you wouldn't believe. She's not going to have kids with you. You need to know this now. |
Anonymous
Nah. I’m a lawyer (and a woman). Home by 5:30 every day, rarely bring work home. Don’t put us all in one box. But I still wouldn’t date OP. He seems as crazy as the usual womenfolk who are dying to start breeding. |
Anonymous
+1 Finding the right person is only half the battle. Timing is important, too. Right person; wrong time. If my DH met me in his late 20's, I don't think we would've gotten married because he wouldn't have been ready for that commitment at that point in his life, and I would've moved on. |
Anonymous
| I think seeing someone twice a week is great. You might just have fundamentally different relationship needs. |
Anonymous
| Marry her! |