Over 50's forum is depressing me.

[Anonymous]

In the over 50's forum there is a thread about enjoying sex when you are over 50 and over 60. There are a whole bunch of women in their 60's writing that they still have sex once or twice a week with their husbands of 30 or more years. I'm 46 and I've been married 20 years and we don't have sex that often. I love my DH but after 20 years with the same man the physical spark has diminished except on rare occasions. Neither of us complains about it and other than that we have a very good marriage and I'd hate to rock the boat. I'd love to be one of those 60 years olds having frequent sex but at the rate we're going we may be done by our mid 50's. Anyone else in this boat?

[Anonymous]

Children at home? That's it, OP.

[Anonymous]

46 and no sex? That's odd.

[Anonymous]

Possibly the honeymoon period will kick in after kids leave for college.

Actually, a friend at work just told me that happened to him. Ick. That was inappropriate. I didn't want to know that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:46 and no sex? That's odd.

OP here - we do have kids at home but that's not an excuse. We do have sex but only about once every two weeks or so. Over the years the frequency has just slowly declined. I'm just amazed that these 60 year old women are having sex twice a week or more. We are both in good shape so that's not an excuse. Maybe I should read Cosmo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:46 and no sex? That's odd.

OP here - we do have kids at home but that's not an excuse. We do have sex but only about once every two weeks or so. Over the years the frequency has just slowly declined. I'm just amazed that these 60 year old women are having sex twice a week or more. We are both in good shape so that's not an excuse. Maybe I should read Cosmo!

I would take what you read on here with a grain of salt. The bigger issue is what is going on in your marriage? Have you talked about it with him?

[Anonymous]

My DH and I were drifting along like OP until I decided to get serious about sex. We were pretty vanilla which was nice but over time wasn't exciting. So I spent some time on the internet and came up with a bunch of new things I'd be comfortable with (positions, places, toys) and then tried them out on DH. He loved it and said that he had been hesitant to do anything outside my comfort zone. We aren't doing anything that's bizarre or kinky but we both enjoy new things. A year ago we might have had sex once every other week. Now it's 2-3 times a week and almost every night when we are on vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were drifting along like OP until I decided to get serious about sex. We were pretty vanilla which was nice but over time wasn't exciting. So I spent some time on the internet and came up with a bunch of new things I'd be comfortable with (positions, places, toys) and then tried them out on DH. He loved it and said that he had been hesitant to do anything outside my comfort zone. We aren't doing anything that's bizarre or kinky but we both enjoy new things. A year ago we might have had sex once every other week. Now it's 2-3 times a week and almost every night when we are on vacation.

Why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were drifting along like OP until I decided to get serious about sex. We were pretty vanilla which was nice but over time wasn't exciting. So I spent some time on the internet and came up with a bunch of new things I'd be comfortable with (positions, places, toys) and then tried them out on DH. He loved it and said that he had been hesitant to do anything outside my comfort zone. We aren't doing anything that's bizarre or kinky but we both enjoy new things. A year ago we might have had sex once every other week. Now it's 2-3 times a week and almost every night when we are on vacation.

OP here - this sounds like us and gives me something to think about. He's not one to push me beyond my comfort zone so maybe I should show him that my comfort zone can be very wide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were drifting along like OP until I decided to get serious about sex. We were pretty vanilla which was nice but over time wasn't exciting. So I spent some time on the internet and came up with a bunch of new things I'd be comfortable with (positions, places, toys) and then tried them out on DH. He loved it and said that he had been hesitant to do anything outside my comfort zone. We aren't doing anything that's bizarre or kinky but we both enjoy new things. A year ago we might have had sex once every other week. Now it's 2-3 times a week and almost every night when we are on vacation.

Why not?

And what do you do that is bizarre and kinky?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were drifting along like OP until I decided to get serious about sex. We were pretty vanilla which was nice but over time wasn't exciting. So I spent some time on the internet and came up with a bunch of new things I'd be comfortable with (positions, places, toys) and then tried them out on DH. He loved it and said that he had been hesitant to do anything outside my comfort zone. We aren't doing anything that's bizarre or kinky but we both enjoy new things. A year ago we might have had sex once every other week. Now it's 2-3 times a week and almost every night when we are on vacation.

OP here - this sounds like us and gives me something to think about. He's not one to push me beyond my comfort zone so maybe I should show him that my comfort zone can be very wide.

Tell him right now.

[Anonymous]

We are almost the same age and my husband and I have sex pretty much every morning, first thing.

[Anonymous]

40s is the time of insane libido in women.

[Anonymous]

Oh girl, once I got comfortable with and then really loved giving BJ's there was no looking back.

[Anonymous]

My husband is 50 and I'm 45, and we have never stopped having regular sex, kinky sex, fantasizing, playing, and having so much fun together. We've been through hard times, but we've always stuck together because life alone or with anyone else is incomprehensible to us. Age is just a number. It means nothing when it comes to how much you want your spouse and how much they want you. Give your love? life a makeover. Do you kiss deeply every day? If not, start there. Start sexting each other. Send each other love quotes. Flirt with each other. These are things we do every day. We also talk about everything, how we feel, what we're thinking, etc. If we're tired, we love to just snuggle. That's also intimate. Marriage doesn't have to be boring when you've been together for years. It can be like a honeymoon every day if you want it to be. It takes two, and it takes truly wanting each other and loving each other. Good luck.