Over 50's forum is depressing me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boobs are sad deflated balloons and the varicose veins in my legs never went away.
I have 4 awesome kids, but I feel so unattractive and that's taken a toll.

Are you married? If not, I’d love to help you get you groove back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boobs are sad deflated balloons and the varicose veins in my legs never went away.
I have 4 awesome kids, but I feel so unattractive and that's taken a toll.

I got a boob job and holy smokes did that revitalize our sex life. It made me feel sexy and good and I loved once again being in top. Best 7k i have ever spent in my life.

^^Saggy boob poster here - I had contemplated a boob job. Boosting my self esteem, sex life, and image for 7K is way cheaper than years of therapy, right? Maybe the kids can spend 2 weeks at grandma's house this summer while I go get myself enhanced.

48M here, i’m willing to help you get your groove back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the over 50's forum there is a thread about enjoying sex when you are over 50 and over 60. There are a whole bunch of women in their 60's writing that they still have sex once or twice a week with their husbands of 30 or more years. I'm 46 and I've been married 20 years and we don't have sex that often. I love my DH but after 20 years with the same man the physical spark has diminished except on rare occasions. Neither of us complains about it and other than that we have a very good marriage and I'd hate to rock the boat. I'd love to be one of those 60 years olds having frequent sex but at the rate we're going we may be done by our mid 50's. Anyone else in this boat?

OP, I'm your age in the same boat. I honestly find it incredulous when I hear women who have been married for many years say they still really desire having sex with their husbands. Truthfully, great for them but I think they are anomalies. I think most women lose interest in having sex with their husbands over time, but it feels so crappy to admit so because society makes it seem like it's the sign of a major marital problem.

I think it is common, but it's also the sign of a major marital problem.

[Anonymous]

I am forty-eight and decided to cancel out my subscription to Cosmo.

I am finally at that stage in life where Real Simple or Family Circle is more “Me.”

That in itself kinda depresses me.
Ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am forty-eight and decided to cancel out my subscription to Cosmo.

I am finally at that stage in life where Real Simple or Family Circle is more “Me.”

That in itself kinda depresses me.
Ha!

With your sense of humor, you'll probably have a wonderful life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:46 and no sex? That's odd.

OP here - we do have kids at home but that's not an excuse. We do have sex but only about once every two weeks or so. Over the years the frequency has just slowly declined. I'm just amazed that these 60 year old women are having sex twice a week or more. We are both in good shape so that's not an excuse. Maybe I should read Cosmo!

Schedule it once a week - meaning don’t let the week go by without it happening - out some effort into it and see if it gets better.
It’s the only thing you share with DH that you don’t share with others. Don’t give that up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boobs are sad deflated balloons and the varicose veins in my legs never went away.
I have 4 awesome kids, but I feel so unattractive and that's taken a toll.

I got a boob job and holy smokes did that revitalize our sex life. It made me feel sexy and good and I loved once again being in top. Best 7k i have ever spent in my life.

^^Saggy boob poster here - I had contemplated a boob job. Boosting my self esteem, sex life, and image for 7K is way cheaper than years of therapy, right? Maybe the kids can spend 2 weeks at grandma's house this summer while I go get myself enhanced.

Don’t overdo it - we had a relative get giant rocks and it’s embarrassing. Go for it, just don’t go ‘porn star’.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boobs are sad deflated balloons and the varicose veins in my legs never went away.
I have 4 awesome kids, but I feel so unattractive and that's taken a toll.

Hit the lingerie shop & you can wear some of that during sexy time?

https://www.victoriassecret.com/lingerie/shop-all-lingerie-mobile

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the over 50's forum there is a thread about enjoying sex when you are over 50 and over 60. There are a whole bunch of women in their 60's writing that they still have sex once or twice a week with their husbands of 30 or more years. I'm 46 and I've been married 20 years and we don't have sex that often. I love my DH but after 20 years with the same man the physical spark has diminished except on rare occasions. Neither of us complains about it and other than that we have a very good marriage and I'd hate to rock the boat. I'd love to be one of those 60 years olds having frequent sex but at the rate we're going we may be done by our mid 50's. Anyone else in this boat?

OP, I'm your age in the same boat. I honestly find it incredulous when I hear women who have been married for many years say they still really desire having sex with their husbands. Truthfully, great for them but I think they are anomalies. I think most women lose interest in having sex with their husbands over time, but it feels so crappy to admit so because society makes it seem like it's the sign of a major marital problem.

That’s because it is. I guarantee you that your DH is miserable. He’s trying to tolerate things but he’s miserable.

[Anonymous]

As for scheduling once a week?

Good, but the same time, don't get all complacent and think that once a week is enough for your husband. It's more like the bare minimum. Aim higher.

In our fifties now, my desire level is slowing down, but my husband's isn't. For me, it's also that I get kind of bored, having been with him for more than 20 years.

Our sex is good and satisfying, but a lot of times I'd rather take care of myself in a quick couple of minutes, rather than go through the long process with him. So I have to make myself take the trouble to do it with him more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As for scheduling once a week?

Good, but the same time, don't get all complacent and think that once a week is enough for your husband. It's more like the bare minimum. Aim higher.

In our fifties now, my desire level is slowing down, but my husband's isn't. For me, it's also that I get kind of bored, having been with him for more than 20 years.

Our sex is good and satisfying, but a lot of times I'd rather take care of myself in a quick couple of minutes, rather than go through the long process with him. So I have to make myself take the trouble to do it with him more.

Once a week is pushing it for my DH. Works weighs on him and he won’t taje the time or the energy more often than that.
He has a big job. Sex wipes him out, but once a week he can look forward to. I’ve tried, believe me. Even when we were younger he didn’t want to.
Except on vacation...

You have to find your normal with your partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As for scheduling once a week?

Good, but the same time, don't get all complacent and think that once a week is enough for your husband. It's more like the bare minimum. Aim higher.

In our fifties now, my desire level is slowing down, but my husband's isn't. For me, it's also that I get kind of bored, having been with him for more than 20 years.

Our sex is good and satisfying, but a lot of times I'd rather take care of myself in a quick couple of minutes, rather than go through the long process with him. So I have to make myself take the trouble to do it with him more.

Once a week is pushing it for my DH. Works weighs on him and he won’t taje the time or the energy more often than that.
He has a big job. Sex wipes him out, but once a week he can look forward to. I’ve tried, believe me. Even when we were younger he didn’t want to.
Except on vacation...

You have to find your normal with your partner.

Very true. When we're worn out, or one of us is, we cuddle up and each take care of ourselves at the same time, so we can zonk out fast. You can't be shy. It's surprisingly nice and intimate. And so easy.