Smirk Given My Son at Carpool Line

[Anonymous]

My son this morning struggled with his backpack in carpool line. The girl that was the patrol who was supposed to help gave him the biggest mean girl smirk to a friend as he entered the building. I wanted to roll down my window and say STOP...

This is just a rant but I just don't understand why kids feel the need to be mean.

[Anonymous]

I would feel like a lioness about any kind of attack on my DS also. Of course you didn't do anything about it and just want to rant to someone. I hear you. I'm sorry it happened. Your kid is obviously well-loved at home and that will go a long way to making his day a great one. Try to let it go and have a good day yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son this morning struggled with his backpack in carpool line. The girl that was the patrol who was supposed to help gave him the biggest mean girl smirk to a friend as he entered the building. I wanted to roll down my window and say STOP...

This is just a rant but I just don't understand why kids feel the need to be mean.

OP, you're a grown adult, right? And the patrol was a fifth-grader -- a person who is 10 or 11. And for all you know, the smile was not a "mean girl smirk" about your son's backpack, but instead a totally different smile about something totally unrelated to your son. Dial it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son this morning struggled with his backpack in carpool line. The girl that was the patrol who was supposed to help gave him the biggest mean girl smirk to a friend as he entered the building. I wanted to roll down my window and say STOP...

This is just a rant but I just don't understand why kids feel the need to be mean.

OP, you're a grown adult, right? And the patrol was a fifth-grader -- a person who is 10 or 11. And for all you know, the smile was not a "mean girl smirk" about your son's backpack, but instead a totally different smile about something totally unrelated to your son. Dial it down.

PLEASE- Are you her parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son this morning struggled with his backpack in carpool line. The girl that was the patrol who was supposed to help gave him the biggest mean girl smirk to a friend as he entered the building. I wanted to roll down my window and say STOP...

This is just a rant but I just don't understand why kids feel the need to be mean.

OP, you're a grown adult, right? And the patrol was a fifth-grader -- a person who is 10 or 11. And for all you know, the smile was not a "mean girl smirk" about your son's backpack, but instead a totally different smile about something totally unrelated to your son. Dial it down.

+1 OP you're either not describing the interaction very well or bizarrely overreacting.

[Anonymous]

OP something similar happened to me in middle school. The cheerleaders were outside greeting carpool one morning and when they saw me getting out of the car they stopped waving their signs and turned away (small school- I was the only person getting dropped off). I was so busy staring at the ground and walking around the back of the car to avoid them I didn’t notice, but my mom did and then called the school. They got read the riot act (to the point of tears) by the principal and had to personally apologize to me. I was pretty embarrassed that my mom did that at the time, but now I’m glad they were told off. They were awful to me for years.

Point being, it’s not in your head. And it’s mean and kids can be mean.

[Anonymous]

jesus get a life of your own OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son this morning struggled with his backpack in carpool line. The girl that was the patrol who was supposed to help gave him the biggest mean girl smirk to a friend as he entered the building. I wanted to roll down my window and say STOP...

This is just a rant but I just don't understand why kids feel the need to be mean.

OP, you're a grown adult, right? And the patrol was a fifth-grader -- a person who is 10 or 11. And for all you know, the smile was not a "mean girl smirk" about your son's backpack, but instead a totally different smile about something totally unrelated to your son. Dial it down.

+1 OP you're either not describing the interaction very well or bizarrely overreacting.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

OMG you have no idea what, if anything, this alleged smirk meant.

And whatever it meant it is the sort of thing your kid needs to negotiate on his own.

[Anonymous]

OP, sorry about the mean kids. Does your son have friends at that school? If they do it again, maybe you can gently raise it with the principal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:jesus get a life of your own OP.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son this morning struggled with his backpack in carpool line. The girl that was the patrol who was supposed to help gave him the biggest mean girl smirk to a friend as he entered the building. I wanted to roll down my window and say STOP...

This is just a rant but I just don't understand why kids feel the need to be mean.

OP, you're a grown adult, right? And the patrol was a fifth-grader -- a person who is 10 or 11. And for all you know, the smile was not a "mean girl smirk" about your son's backpack, but instead a totally different smile about something totally unrelated to your son. Dial it down.

+1 OP you're either not describing the interaction very well or bizarrely overreacting.

+4 or whatever we are up to now. It sounds like two 10 year-old girls smiled at one another where your son couldn't even see them, so no harm was done even if they WERE smirking at his backpack issues. More likely, they were smirking about a cute boy who walked by or something else entirely.

Land the helicopter and cut the cord.

[Anonymous]

I was the butt of some really shitty mean-kid antics in grade school through high school, and probably beyond, TBH.

I was also the perpetrator of some really shitty mean-kid antics in grade school through high school, and probably beyond TBH.

In other worlds, this is how humans interact, both as kids and sometimes, as adults. Sometimes they are the victim. Sometimes, they are the aggressor.

I am sure your kid is sometimes a great friend, and sometimes a mean little snot to someone else. Ditto for that girl. She's just a girl. He's just a boy. They are humans and will figure this all out.

[Anonymous]

I try to assume the best of all people. I also try not to assume that a-holes are acting a-hole'ish due to something other than me/mine. Pretend she was smirking about something totally unrelated to your family and you'll be much happier, as will your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP something similar happened to me in middle school. The cheerleaders were outside greeting carpool one morning and when they saw me getting out of the car they stopped waving their signs and turned away (small school- I was the only person getting dropped off). I was so busy staring at the ground and walking around the back of the car to avoid them I didn’t notice, but my mom did and then called the school. They got read the riot act (to the point of tears) by the principal and had to personally apologize to me. I was pretty embarrassed that my mom did that at the time, but now I’m glad they were told off. They were awful to me for years.

Point being, it’s not in your head. And it’s mean and kids can be mean.

The problem is that I'm not sure saying anything will make things better for him. Thank you though for understanding