Can Men and Women Really Be Friends?
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Anonymous
| So, is it true what Billy Crystal says in "When Harry Met Sally?" that men and women can't be friends. My closest friend is female. We do not and have never had a sexual relationship. Would I be open to it if it were an option? To be honest, yes! I am a guy. But at the same time, I recognize boundaries, realize that she isn't into me in that way and we just hang out and have a great time, bitch about dating, what it takes to attract a mate, etc. It's fun. Plus, maybe through her girlfriends, I'll meet the woman of my dreams! |
Anonymous
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It's not a matter of can men and women be friends. The fact that you think about f*cking her is the reason you aren't her friend.
By the way, I have a dozen friends and I've never considered f*cking them. |
Anonymous
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I think so. My DH has a one or two good women friends he met at his job. I'm friendly with them too. They live in a different state now, but we used to see them every so often (everyone busy with kids/work). They still keep in touch, call/text on birthdays, xmas and I'm usually on the group chat. They talk about work and family.
I have had several male friends with zero sexual interest in them. I don't know if they have ever felt otherwise towards me. |
Anonymous
You answered your own question. That's why you can't. |
Anonymous
Exactly. |
Anonymous
From my personal experience, no. I also was very disappointed when I learned that my gay friend is really a bi - "I like some girls". ''Some girls" was me. We used to go lingerie shopping since he gave me best ever advice, but no more. |
Anonymous
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Why is thinking about never acting on it make not friend material?
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Anonymous
| I have a couple of men friends, guys I use to work with. They know my husband and they know that I'm crazy about him and they've never done or said anything inappropriate. If they'd like to get in my panties you'd have to ask them but so far they've been really good guys. |
Anonymous
| So if I’m a lesbian does this mean I can’t have any female friends? That’s absurd |
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Anonymous
| No...if the man is straight and the woman does not look like mother Theresa. Im married and have several female “friends”. Im always thinking about fu...ng the attractive ones and wishing the ugly ones would become hot! I dont know what they think, but i think they like the attention but not sure if they would sleep with me. |
Anonymous
| In some cases, yes, men and woman can be friends without sexual undertones. But in most men and women friendships, the man usually would screw the woman if he had the chance. As long as a boundary never crosses, it is okay. |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
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It's hard enough, but often AT LEAST one person has feelings about the other that they'd like to take to the next level if the other were willing.
Over time, if you're interested enough to be friends and have common interests, it's natural for other feelings to, ahem, develop. It's almost a matter of time in most cases. I'm sorry to say, in the majority of cases, it causes too many problems and there's more than friendship. |
Anonymous
| Of course you can be. Why does sexual attraction mean you aren’t friends? Assuming said attraction isn’t the only motivator for everything else I don’t see the issue. People usually are friends with members of the opposite sex they find attractive, regardless of how hard they deny this |