Break up by text
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Anonymous
| Is texting a man you have been dating for three months a horrible thing to do? Personally, I would prefer it. I really don’t want to get together and tell him. I am new to dating after a long marriage. Uhg! |
Anonymous
| Yes. Three months in he deserves an in person break up. Do not do a text break up. |
Anonymous
| 3 months. I would do it by text. |
Anonymous
| 3 months seems to long for a text. If you can’t do in person a phone call or FaceTime might be better. |
Anonymous
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Son in law left my daughter by email. yep.
Complete asshole. |
Anonymous
| text is fine after 3 months. He won't be happy no matter how you do it. |
Anonymous
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It's not about "making him happy" (she's breaking up with him). It's about the self-deluding idea that all these forms of communication are equal, when in fact all we're trying to do is avoid our own discomfort. Texting makes the situation easier for no one but OP, let's be honest.
OP, meet him for coffee for 20 min and get it done. Don't be an asshole. |
Anonymous
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I think you can do a phone call, if you are worried about being in a dangerous situation in person.
No texting, though. That's just disrespectful. |
Anonymous
| I’m a woman and I would prefer a text. |
Anonymous
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Agree, I’m a woman and I’d prefer a text also. But I would want the truth, not some “I need space” type BS.
I like text because you can say exactly what you want to say, have time to think about how to say it, and is way less pressure. Yes it’s very ‘millenial’, but that’s not always a bad thing. That being said, 3 months is on the cusp of ‘I deserve an in person breakup’. I’d say any longer 4-5 months and you’re past the text zone. |
Anonymous
After 3 mos of real dating (not just coffee and hooking up) you'd prefer a text?? Not being snarky, just curious. |
Anonymous
Me too. Both sending and receiving a breakup text. |
Anonymous
| I’d text him that you need to talk, and arrange a phone call. |
Anonymous
What is an in-person breakup going to accomplish? Their mind is made up. I don’t need a hug goodbye. Frankly if it’s something that will upset me I would rather not give the other person an opportunity to see me upset or crying. |
Anonymous
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In person break ups lead to the other person possibly asking questions, suggesting that you should stay together, and put the pressure on the break-ee. I'm 47, and I think a text break up at this point is OK. Make it short, to the point, and not mean.
Yes, it is making it easier for OP, but as somebody who has been sucked back into a relationship because the guy didn't want to break up, this seems glorious. |