Break up by text

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman and I would prefer a text.

After 3 mos of real dating (not just coffee and hooking up) you'd prefer a text??

Not being snarky, just curious.

What is an in-person breakup going to accomplish? Their mind is made up. I don’t need a hug goodbye. Frankly if it’s something that will upset me I would rather not give the other person an opportunity to see me upset or crying.

+1 I would rather receive bad news via text for more privacy, to not have the other person there observing my reactions of possibly shock and sadness. Unless we were close, always discussed things well and truly supported each other, and were going to remain friends.

[Anonymous]

It really doesn't matter. Just do it, no matter how you decide to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman and I would prefer a text.

I'd rather just ghost you.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Gotten it both ways. I prefer in-person, and I'm likely to remain friends with someone who does it in-person. Text-breakers-uppers are cowards and time-wasters and flakes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman and I would prefer a text.

After 3 mos of real dating (not just coffee and hooking up) you'd prefer a text??

Not being snarky, just curious.

Yes. If it were someone I liked a lot, I would be embarrassed to show him that he made me cry. I also wouldn’t want to be emotional in public. It’s not like a marriage, where you have important things to resolve. And if I didn’t like him much, it would be a waste of time to meet up. There is nothing to gain from doing it in person.

[Anonymous]

48 year old woman here. In person, in a private place, or a phone call. Breaking up with someone via text after dating for 3 mos is simply cowardly and in my opinion inhuman. About a year ago I broke up with a man I had dated for three months via e-mail. It was selfish. I was in a bad place emotionally and just didn't want to deal with all of his questions. I hurt him more by doing it via e-mail then just breaking up with him. I learned my lesson.

[Anonymous]

It all depends.

In theory, I believe that a person should have the courtesy to be told in person that things are over.

However if the person has shown anger issues before, then it may be safer to let them know things are over from a distance.
Or if the person is known to manipulate & the person doing the breaking up can be easily swayed, then again it is best to say “Bye Bye!” via text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:48 year old woman here. In person, in a private place, or a phone call. Breaking up with someone via text after dating for 3 mos is simply cowardly and in my opinion inhuman. About a year ago I broke up with a man I had dated for three months via e-mail. It was selfish. I was in a bad place emotionally and just didn't want to deal with all of his questions. I hurt him more by doing it via e-mail then just breaking up with him. I learned my lesson.

This.
Be decent.
Not in public but at one of your apartment's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman and I would prefer a text.

Me too. Both sending and receiving a breakup text.

I would so prefer a text

[Anonymous]

Three months meaning you've been seeing each other 1-2x week for 12 weeks? Or three months meaning you've been on 3-4 dates, but met 3 months ago? The former deserves a conversation (could be over the phone), but the latter can be done over text.

[Anonymous]

I think it really depends on how serious those three months were. Three months of seeing each other multiple times a week? You really need to do it in person. Three months of casual, seeing each other once a week at most dating and you weren't exclusive? Text is acceptable although not necessarily ideal.

[Anonymous]

You're going to be the asshole in his narration regardless of the method you use. Why prolong it? Zero purpose is served with in person or, God forbid, "we have to talk" and a scheduled phone call.

It's over. End it.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and have broken up with two guys I had dated for ~3 months not in-person.

One I did over the phone as I knew he would want to discuss it/would want to hear a thorough and we spent almost every night together. The other was via text. We only saw each other about 2x per week. That was fine.

3 months is not that long. No need to be in-person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and have broken up with two guys I had dated for ~3 months not in-person.

One I did over the phone as I knew he would want to discuss it/would want to hear a thorough and we spent almost every night together. The other was via text. We only saw each other about 2x per week. That was fine.

3 months is not that long. No need to be in-person.

That's cold. I pity the guy in intensive care whose life is in your hands. "No, just pull the plug. Yes, do it. One has to move on. Can I leave now? There's a singles cruise leaving Miami tomorrow."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and have broken up with two guys I had dated for ~3 months not in-person.

One I did over the phone as I knew he would want to discuss it/would want to hear a thorough and we spent almost every night together. The other was via text. We only saw each other about 2x per week. That was fine.

3 months is not that long. No need to be in-person.

That's cold. I pity the guy in intensive care whose life is in your hands. "No, just pull the plug. Yes, do it. One has to move on. Can I leave now? There's a singles cruise leaving Miami tomorrow."

This is hilariously dramatic. "I didn't get to harangue her to change her mind and bone me again, she's basically a murderess!"