What have you learned after separation/divorce?

[Anonymous]

What have you learned about yourself, about dating, about potential loves since you have been separated/divorced?

[Anonymous]

That you need time alone before jumping back into a relationship. I know this because I took the time to be on my own, get comfortable in my own skin and wait for the right guy instead of feeling like I HAD to be with someone and going after the wrong guy.

[Anonymous]

I've learned that I do really well by myself and that I am not sure I want to live with anyone again. Of course I will never say never, but I am in no rush. Life for the most part is beautiful and drama free!

[Anonymous]

I've learned that I'll never get an apology from my ex, and that it is still possible to let go of the anger and hurt.

I've learned to accept that I'll never know why he cheated.

I've learned that after two decades of being one half of a couple, I had compromised more of my personality than I had realized.

I've learned that I really like being an unfiltered version of me.

Ive learned that you can never really, truly know someone.

I've learned that you can trust and love people regardless of how hurt you've been in the past.

I've learned that cheaters are truly damaged, broken humans who should be pitied, not vilified.

I've learned that triggers are real and they suck.

I've learned that I can do so many things I never thought I could do on my own.

I learned I like being single.

[Anonymous]

I’ve learned that love does not conquer all

When people show you who they are - believe them !

I’m okay alone and my kids are okay.

[Anonymous]

That I never should have settled the first time around because it is possible to find the man of your dreams.

[Anonymous]

I learned to trust my instincts and to trust my own feelings. (I asked for a divorce three years prior and was talked into staying)
I learned that its important to be happy alone before you can really be happy with someone else.
I learned that I am capable of managing life on my own without a second income.
I've learned to love being on my own and running my life on my own terms without others' input.

[Anonymous]

I learned where to buy the underwear my wife always bought me.

[Anonymous]

I've learned to trust my instincts
I've learned that actions speak louder than words
I've learned that I can't make a relationship work all by myself
I've learned how low my standards were at the end of my marriage and how much I put up with
I've learned that I should've left my marriage years before I did (I stayed and fought for it for the sake of our kids)
I've learned that I can be a single mom and raise my kids by myself
I've learned that my kids are happier and healthier in a stable and loving home
I've learned that I am happy being single
I've learned that I will never lower my standards again

[Anonymous]

My husband had a small penis.

[Anonymous]

I learned that I can meet someone wonderful and still fall in love.

[Anonymous]

I learned that an incompetent husband and father is also an incompetent X-husband at 50/50 child raising. The court later agreed and now I'm sole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband had a small penis.

Me too!!

[Anonymous]

I learned that life without a wife is like being on a vacation every single day.

I learned that smart, pretty, and kind women do exist.

I learned that lots of women are attracted to me.

I learned that I was essentially married to a child, who would never grow up, who only wanted to be taken care of but would never take care of me.

I learned that the most valuable thing I own as man is my own freedom and independence.

[Anonymous]

I learned that unless you work on yourself, you will wind up with the same problems the next time you meet someone

I learned how horribly I was emotionally abused by my wife

I learned my child would still love me after the marriage was over

I learned that although I am not a movie star, there are women out there who appreciate a man like me