What have you learned after separation/divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned I was a jerk.
I learned I treated my ex badly.
I learned I didn’t appreciate what I had and not what I didn’t have.
I learned I hurt many people.
I learned I had a big ego.
I learned I didn’t care about anyone but myself.

I learned I still love her....

You forgot "I learned I was gay"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned I was a jerk.
I learned I treated my ex badly.
I learned I didn’t appreciate what I had and not what I didn’t have.
I learned I hurt many people.
I learned I had a big ego.
I learned I didn’t care about anyone but myself.

I learned I still love her....

...wrote the Ex-wife dreamily....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What have you learned about yourself, about dating, about potential loves since you have been separated/divorced?

I learned to walk on my hands.
I learned what cats do at night.
I learned where the moon is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've learned that I do really well by myself and that I am not sure I want to live with anyone again. Of course I will never say never, but I am in no rush. Life for the most part is beautiful and drama free!

This plus 1,000,000!

[Anonymous]

I learned that everyone ought to live by themselves and be self sufficient and independent at some point in their lives and I don't mean for just a few months or a year.

I also learned that if you didn't do that before your marriage you can do it after your marriage, but be careful, you may find it totally exhilarating, delightful and addictive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've learned that I do really well by myself and that I am not sure I want to live with anyone again. Of course I will never say never, but I am in no rush. Life for the most part is beautiful and drama free!

This plus 1,000,000!

Yes!! This!! Someone please tell my mother that.

I spent the last 9 years in a complacent dull relationship that we didn’t know to get out of (was like it before we married), tied to another person. It’s so liberating to be on my own

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned I was a jerk.
I learned I treated my ex badly.
I learned I didn’t appreciate what I had and not what I didn’t have.
I learned I hurt many people.
I learned I had a big ego.
I learned I didn’t care about anyone but myself.

I learned I still love her....

...wrote the Ex-wife dreamily....

I know. Really. Get over the pity party. This person still exhibits self absorption.

[Anonymous]

I learned that I should have listened to that nagging inner voice that kept telling me for years I would be better off with someone else. Instead I kept convincing myself to stay, and that any hope of someone better was a pipe dream. Now I know better and will never settle again.

[Anonymous]

That life is amazing. That there are so many great men out there. I love my life!

[Anonymous]

That it's possible to want to get married again, yet not live with that person. It can be done, right?

[Anonymous]

Divorced women in their 50’s are bitter So much baggage

[Anonymous]

That being alone is so different than being lonely, especially when it means being lonely with the person who is supposed to love you on the other side of the room

That therapy isn’t just for chumps, and if you’re willing to do it, it can help improve your life/wellbeing

That life goes on with or without your participation, so if you want to enjoying ride, you’d better participate

That happiness is a choice

That no one “makes” you act or feel a certain way. It’s up to you to rise above or sink below.

[Anonymous]

I learned that I preferred the touch of a woman.

[Anonymous]

Wow I am learning that people give exes too much space in their head. Once you go your own ways don't look back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned that I preferred the touch of a woman.

Nice!