Ex wife sent back kids gifts from grand parents...

[Anonymous]

Title says most of it. Dad told me that he got everything he sent them returned in a box a few days ago. They agonize of their grandkids.

Ex wife has been preventing me from seeing my kids and we are in legal proceedings over it.

[Anonymous]

Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I'm so sorry to hear this, it's got to be hard for all of you. Good luck with the legal proceedings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

WTH?? Sending gifts to grand children that live in a different state infringes on the life of the ex wife? are you crazy? Gifts are sent to where the kids live. If they live with their mother where else do you send the gifts to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

WTH?? Sending gifts to grand children that live in a different state infringes on the life of the ex wife? are you crazy? Gifts are sent to where the kids live. If they live with their mother where else do you send the gifts to?

If the father is not indigent to his house. If he is indigent there is good reason too keep that side of the family away.

Let the courts decide.

Obviously she has custody and he doesn't. He either left or was removed from the home so dad already has s few strikes against him.

[Anonymous]

Kids dont "need" gifts from grandparents. Your feeling are just, you are an adult, manage your own emotions.

Anger is rooted in the inability to control another person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

What do you mean stop infringing on HER life? That comment is very telling about you, PP. You probably have done this. Just because a couple breaks up does not mean the grandkids are no longer allowed to be in relationship with extended relatives.

This is sad and parents that split need to love their kids enough not to disrespect their kids’ other parent. I get that things happen, such as abuse, infidelity, etc... If you alienate your kid from their other parent it will come back to bite the person doing the alienating.

For OP, have grandpa keep the stuff wrapped just like it is and give to the kids when you see them next, even if it is March or April. Good luck and get a good lawyer or mediator.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

WTH?? Sending gifts to grand children that live in a different state infringes on the life of the ex wife? are you crazy? Gifts are sent to where the kids live. If they live with their mother where else do you send the gifts to?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

WTH?? Sending gifts to grand children that live in a different state infringes on the life of the ex wife? are you crazy? Gifts are sent to where the kids live. If they live with their mother where else do you send the gifts to?

If the father is not indigent to his house. If he is indigent there is good reason too keep that side of the family away.

Let the courts decide.

Obviously she has custody and he doesn't. He either left or was removed from the home so dad already has s few strikes against him.

You don't understand the meaning of that word. You sound unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

What do you mean stop infringing on HER life? That comment is very telling about you, PP. You probably have done this. Just because a couple breaks up does not mean the grandkids are no longer allowed to be in relationship with extended relatives.

This is sad and parents that split need to love their kids enough not to disrespect their kids’ other parent. I get that things happen, such as abuse, infidelity, etc... If you alienate your kid from their other parent it will come back to bite the person doing the alienating.

For OP, have grandpa keep the stuff wrapped just like it is and give to the kids when you see them next, even if it is March or April. Good luck and get a good lawyer or mediator.

See you agree with me but you are too dense to understand.

If the father really cares about the kids he will lighten up and wait his turn. For all you know there is a reason the courts refuse contact.

When he gets the courts to say they are not abusive psychos they can give them gifts.

Having been the cop in the scene of many domestics, yes you can wait your turn. You are divirced. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids dont "need" gifts from grandparents. Your feeling are just, you are an adult, manage your own emotions.

Anger is rooted in the inability to control another person.

Kids do need love, and if these grandparents love them, there's no reason to cut them out of their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

WTH?? Sending gifts to grand children that live in a different state infringes on the life of the ex wife? are you crazy? Gifts are sent to where the kids live. If they live with their mother where else do you send the gifts to?

If the father is not indigent to his house. If he is indigent there is good reason too keep that side of the family away.

Let the courts decide.

Obviously she has custody and he doesn't. He either left or was removed from the home so dad already has s few strikes against him.

You don't understand the meaning of that word. You sound unhinged.

Your right I should have said derelict. But the father could be indigent meaning he has not send money for food but the grandparents send toys. How backwards is that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

What do you mean stop infringing on HER life? That comment is very telling about you, PP. You probably have done this. Just because a couple breaks up does not mean the grandkids are no longer allowed to be in relationship with extended relatives.

This is sad and parents that split need to love their kids enough not to disrespect their kids’ other parent. I get that things happen, such as abuse, infidelity, etc... If you alienate your kid from their other parent it will come back to bite the person doing the alienating.

For OP, have grandpa keep the stuff wrapped just like it is and give to the kids when you see them next, even if it is March or April. Good luck and get a good lawyer or mediator.

See you agree with me but you are too dense to understand.

If the father really cares about the kids he will lighten up and wait his turn. For all you know there is a reason the courts refuse contact.

When he gets the courts to say they are not abusive psychos they can give them gifts.

Having been the cop in the scene of many domestics, yes you can wait your turn. You are divirced. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

OP here. You really do not understand my original post.

I have joint conservatorship of my children. There is not allegation of any sort of abuse. Their mother is simply violating the court order by not allowing me to see my kids. If you really are a police officer then you are carrying some significant prejudice with you in your work. Also "consequences of your decision" is an A-hole thing to say. It only takes one person to decide to get a divorce. It really isn't a decision both people make. Also, neither parent should do things to harm the children but in this situation alienating children from their family does harm the children. Isn't it well known that abusers first seek to isolate their victims from family and friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

What do you mean stop infringing on HER life? That comment is very telling about you, PP. You probably have done this. Just because a couple breaks up does not mean the grandkids are no longer allowed to be in relationship with extended relatives.

This is sad and parents that split need to love their kids enough not to disrespect their kids’ other parent. I get that things happen, such as abuse, infidelity, etc... If you alienate your kid from their other parent it will come back to bite the person doing the alienating.

For OP, have grandpa keep the stuff wrapped just like it is and give to the kids when you see them next, even if it is March or April. Good luck and get a good lawyer or mediator.

See you agree with me but you are too dense to understand.

If the father really cares about the kids he will lighten up and wait his turn. For all you know there is a reason the courts refuse contact.

When he gets the courts to say they are not abusive psychos they can give them gifts.

Having been the cop in the scene of many domestics, yes you can wait your turn. You are divirced. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

Sweetie, I am far from dense. You seem to be reading a lot into the stated situation. Not every dispute between exes is a domestic dispute needing law enforcement. I have friends dealing with stressful custody disputes. It is never about the kids, it is about resentment toward the ex. If you are a cop, I find your abrasive verbal response and name calling very concerning. There are lots of amazing people in law enforcement, you don’t seem to be one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

What do you mean stop infringing on HER life? That comment is very telling about you, PP. You probably have done this. Just because a couple breaks up does not mean the grandkids are no longer allowed to be in relationship with extended relatives.

This is sad and parents that split need to love their kids enough not to disrespect their kids’ other parent. I get that things happen, such as abuse, infidelity, etc... If you alienate your kid from their other parent it will come back to bite the person doing the alienating.

For OP, have grandpa keep the stuff wrapped just like it is and give to the kids when you see them next, even if it is March or April. Good luck and get a good lawyer or mediator.

See you agree with me but you are too dense to understand.

If the father really cares about the kids he will lighten up and wait his turn. For all you know there is a reason the courts refuse contact.

When he gets the courts to say they are not abusive psychos they can give them gifts.

Having been the cop in the scene of many domestics, yes you can wait your turn. You are divirced. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

Sweetie, I am far from dense. You seem to be reading a lot into the stated situation. Not every dispute between exes is a domestic dispute needing law enforcement. I have friends dealing with stressful custody disputes. It is never about the kids, it is about resentment toward the ex. If you are a cop, I find your abrasive verbal response and name calling very concerning. There are lots of amazing people in law enforcement, you don’t seem to be one of them.

PP is probably a criminal law studnt and by cases he/she means class assignments.
Anyway, OP have your mom keep the gifts for the next time you see the kids.
Document this as well as any other actions by your wife that attempt to alienate your relationship with them Get a good lawyer and good luck with your case!